Ten important life lessons I’ve learned in my 30’s

Lesson #1: You cannot give what you don’t have.

You cannot claim to know or understand yourself or your actions fully. I doubt if you ever will. However, your promise to yourself is to be eternally curious,  to always love and forgive YOU! That way, it becomes easier to love and forgive others.

Lesson #2 : Embrace your challenges and pain.

Look back on periods in life when you experienced tremendous growth, they were invariably associated with overcoming a huge challenge or the loss of a loved one. Know that pain, loss and heartbreak do not break us down rather they break down the walls that imprison our humanity and allow us to see the world in a brand new light; To feel empathy for others around us, to cherish every tender moment and to live passionately.

Lesson #3: The secret of inner beauty.

A sense of true beauty and self-worth is not in your makeup or clothes or shoes or bags (these are merely external manifestations of beauty). Rather, it is a function of how we relate to others around us. The greatest source of beauty is a fountain within that allows each of us to treat all people with respect and kindness. We feel our best when we give others dignity, support and love. It is our light, our energy that radiates our beauty. Also, know that you cannot stop time. So be careful not to become too preoccupied with lotions, potions, nips and tucks as a pathway to eternal youth. Gravity is real, ladies! At some point in your life, some body parts WILL go south, shrink or wrinkle. Know when to give up the fight and embrace ageing gracefully or you risk looking ridiculous!

Lesson #4: Develop a discerning spirit.

Life is filled with many amazing and positive people BUT there will always be negative people who think the worst, seek the worst, plan the worst and do the worst….learn to disarm them with wisdom and grace. If you find that their energy drains you or overpowers you, then learn to gracefully avoid them.

Lesson #5: Avoid the trap called ‘the rat race’.

We sometimes focus the best part of our years on the rat race rather than a race for our souls, we focus on acquiring possessions rather than on garnering goodwill, we build mansions rather than create memories. People matter because they love you back. A good job never loves you back and even if you ‘win’ the rat race, you’re still a rat! Don’t try to keep up with the ‘Joneses’. There’s a reason why your name is different! Be original and authentic. OWN who you are and others will try to copy or capture your essence.

Lesson #6: Know and understand your big ‘WHY’.

Your ‘why’ should be big enough to make you cry. That goal that’s so dear to your heart, you tear up just thinking about it. It is at the core of who you are.  It may be your family, a good cause….(Hint: Your ‘why’ is not to pay bills, service a mortgage payment or loans etc). Your ‘why’ is not about you, it has to be something other than you and it gives meaning to your existence. You become alive just thinking about it!

Lesson #7: Every woman should have a little mystery.

Have a little secret, that aura that lights you up from within. Dance to your own music. Walk with a sexy swing and a hidden sexier smile. ‘Wear the clothes and never let the clothes wear you’. You are Eve’s daughter after all…. learn new skills, discover new hobbies. Tap into your passions and light your fires from the inside. Constantly surprise yourself and the world with elements of your mystery. You owe it to yourself to EVOLVE!

Lesson #8: Learn to simply LET GO!

You need to take a moment for yourself and let it all out. Forget the rules (who made them anyway?). So let go of big stuff-bad relationships, terrible confrontations, abuse, neglect and let go of even the small stuff: Go bra-less; laugh, curse and fart out loud; eat with your bare hands and walk bare-feet; say ‘yes’ cos you feel like it and say ‘no’ just beacuse….

Lesson #9: Don’t sweat the small or big stuff!

Life happens. Things can’t always be perfect all the time, how boring will that be? If you hit a crossroad, do absolutely nothing or just sleep on it. The best answers always come sublimely in our dreams anyway….Just live your best life NOW and focus on only what you can control!

Lesson #10: God has a fantastic sense of humor!

I arrive at this conclusion every single day. Too many ironic events in life buttress this and I get a chuckle every time I think of how we get worked up and geared up to conquer the world and bammmm! that may be the day we get called to the other side….


Remember, you are not ordinary, you are divinely unique.

You are WOW (Wonderful One-of-a-kind Woman)!

w(H)olistically Yours,

 © Whole Woman Network

BLOGGER BIO: The preceding blog entry is from Juliet Ume, MBA –Wealth Management Consultant & Lifestyle Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Follow her on Twitter: @julietumeinc

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