Questions of the Day: “What are your limiting beliefs? What are the unconscious programs you are running in your life that are keeping you from being Happy, Healthy and Wealthy? Are you living your life on purpose and with purpose or are you hiding under the guise a ‘do-gooder’ while struggling to please everyone: society, family, friends, colleagues..? Or are you stuck on the treadmill of excuses and do you choose to blame your perceived ‘woes’ on your gender, race, lack of money, lack of education, lack of opportunities etc. Are you living your truth? Are you on your divine path? Are you pursuing your passions and purpose? Whose life are you really living? What version of you is showing up in the world?
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WWN Reflection DAY 4: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!
Today’s FOCUS is on LIMITING BELIEFS! Whenever you say to yourself: ‘I CAN’T do this because…., I DON’T have enough…..(fill in the blanks: Time, Money, Energy, Talent, Beauty, Confidence, Ability, Courage, Networks etc.), you’re running a deeply ingrained limiting belief system. Often a limiting decision precedes a limiting belief. Something unpleasant, painful, negative or difficult happens and we either distort or generalize that experience and imbue a living, breathing life-force of negative energy into it. Over time, this singular decision based on a fallacy of our unworthiness, solidifies into a belief system that we cross map into different areas of our lives.
These negative thought patterns inhibit your dreams, growth and success. Unconsciously, we permeate the lies with the choice of words we use. The first step in letting go of limiting beliefs is to identify the reason(s) why they exist in your life. What purpose does it serve? Whose purpose does it serve?
When we start from the premise that we are whole, beloved creatures created by God to love and be loved, unconditionally, it is easy to collapse the foundation of our limiting belief system. The moment we grasp the truth of our own magnificence, we enter a new plane of understanding that indeed, we are enough and we can do all things.
Let’s play the imagination game. What if all these limiting beliefs are NOT real. What if they are just ‘stories’ and lies that you’ve repeated over and over to yourself. Most likely, others around you (parents, siblings, spouses, friends, teachers etc.) probably repeated them to you and ingrained them into you that you’ve accepted them to be the truth! We often forget that the external world labels or boxes us based on their own perception. It does not make it real or true! We cannot change our past failures or mistakes but we can re-frame them, learn, grow and see our lives through a different perspective going forward. Decide to get rid of your limiting-beliefs. Let them go! You’ve outgrown them.
Exercise: Write down every single limiting belief you have and be very specific. For example, 1. ‘I feel that a lack of money is a huge problem, I do not have enough money to achieve my dreams’, 2. ‘Lack of Time is my biggest challenge, I need more time to spend on my family, career, hobbies or charities, 3. ‘I lack the will-power to get the results I need’, 4.’I do not have the support of those closest to me, that is why my life is the way it is’, 5. ‘I am not beautiful, intelligent, secure or confident enough to attract the right relationships etc.
Write down every single thing, belief system, obstacle that you think is the problem. Then, write down all the possible steps, activities or alternatives to these limiting-beliefs. For instance, instead of ‘I don’t have enough time, money, energy’, begin to say ‘How do I create more time, money and energy because I know it is possible’ or ‘I already have enough time, money, energy and I am grateful for the grace that will lead me to manifest them’. How you say what you believe matters. Simply say it in a way that serves your purpose. If it detracts or distracts from your purpose, perhaps it is time to replace it.
We cannot change our past failures or mistakes but we can re-frame them. We can choose to learn, grow and see our lives through a different perspective going forward. In fact, there are no mistakes only feedback. We repeat our patterns until we learn from them. If there are areas in your life you find yourself struggling with, perhaps it is worthwhile to reflect on and uproot the limiting beliefs underlying them. Understand and master your limiting-beliefs. And then DECIDE to let them go!
Begin to replace your old belief system with a new one that better reflects your present values and your purpose. Amazing miracles happen when we have the courage to take a step of faith and proclaim: ‘It is possible!’ Live out your faith and take ACTION!
If you believe something is NOT possible, you take actions unconsciously to block it from happening. If you believe it IS possible, your unconscious mind and higher self open up and allow the right people and opportunities into your life. Life is a self-fulfilling prophesy! In life, we get exactly what we think we DESERVE. YOU are deserving of greatness. A king died for you! There’s nothing remotely ordinary about you. You are a co-creator with God. Create beauty and possibilities. Your thoughts, words, beliefs, actions are all seeds in life’s garden. Begin today to shift your FOCUS and sow only seeds that will bear the fruits you seek. Happy sowing! Why focus or nurture seeds that do not align with your highest intentions for your life?
Please note that you would have more successful and faster results, when you re-source externally by using trained professionals. Consider this: If you knew the answers yourself, you would have have had the results you seek by now. A lot of times, these unconscious programs are totally out of our own awareness.
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Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido
Poet | International Speaker | Consultant | Master-Certified Leadership Trainer -Coach|
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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director of Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership” and “Today, I Will Not Bow”. A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’, [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, complete, whole and our life journey is to return to wholeness]! Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?”
She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.