Sometimes, people hurt, malign, disappoint us in very painful ways. It may be through their words, actions, inactions and it is often worse when these acts of commission or omission are done by loved ones, those closest to us.
Sometimes, we carry this deep pain, like a yoke around our essence and even wish to suppress it. We live in denial, without acknowledging the power of this pain over our lives. Or we choose something or someone else to numb the pain, often our choices are unhealthy and not aligned with the values and principles we hold dear. Forgiveness is a DECISION, a choice to finally say, ‘I am willing to let go of my pain.’
The one constant with unresolved pain is that when we do not pay attention to it, we invariably have to pay with more pain, more energy, time, money… The smelly, stinky, stench of the roots of our unresolved pain(s) finally begins to leak out into the different areas of our lives and invariably begins to stain, diminish and tarnish the beauty we wish to create in all our relationships.
This weekend, I urge you to take a moment to reflect on the power of FORGIVENESS. It is a universal gift that unlocks, heals and empowers our souls and spirit. There are three key people that we should forgive: The people who did us wrong, the people who should have been there for us but weren’t and most importantly, ourselves. What should we forgive? Everything! What is unforgivable? Nothing!
On our own, forgiveness may not be easy, because we after all mere humans. Forgiveness starts with the DECISION to forgive. That sincere choice of deciding to forgive, leads us to seek the beauty of grace which avails to us all.
And with God’s grace, we then have the courage to surrender to the process, even when we do not believe it possible 🙂 For decision precedes belief. And we simply stand in the joy and gratitude of allowing it happen, seamlessly, easily and effortlessly, not of our own accord, on the power of our humanity but rather, based on that part of us that is attuned to divinity.
And suddenly, one day we wake up and everything feels, looks, sounds, tastes different. And as we recall the events, the weight of the ache disappears and we find ourselves looking at the events and people involved with new eyes of empathy, compassion and love. We realize that we have let go and we are free of the bitterness, anger, sadness, hurt, guilt, shame, pain….We can finally move on in peace.
This weekend, I wish you the power, joy and freedom of FORGIVENESS in your personal relationships, careers, businesses and community. Let today be the day you begin the journey of taking back your power by embracing the gift of forgiveness. This means letting go of all the people you’ve inadvertently given away your power to.
By refusing or choosing (consciously or unconsciously), not to forgive, you create a looped, vicious chain that holds you hostage to those who’ve wronged you, whether they are dead or alive! The moment you forgive them, you cut off the chains you gave them to bind your life to theirs.
In love were you created, with love were you moulded, through love were you redeemed. At your core, you are a beam of love. Use your heart for the purpose it was created; to love and be loved, unconditionally. The spirit of true Forgiveness gives us the freedom to experience life fully, with empathy and compassion. In the end, we are merely reflections of one another. To forgive the other person is to forgive yourself. Indeed, wee are all connected, somehow, someway.
In the beautiful words of the phenomenal Maya Angelou: “You can’t forgive without loving. And I don’t mean sentimentality. I don’t mean mush. I mean having enough courage to stand up and say, ‘I forgive. I let it go, I’m finished with it!” ~Maya Angelou~
The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership” and “Today I will not bow.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women (and men), regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific, Behavioural and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! She shares her daily reflective posts on: www.facebook.com/wholewomannetwork. And to relax, she shares her love for Floetry (the spoken-written word), on her Poetry Blog. Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc