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Surround Yourself with the Dreamers and the Doers…..

You are the average“Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.” ~Edmund Lee

Here are 7 Quotes and nuggets of wisdom to buttress the need for you to constantly surround yourself with the right people, environment and opportunities.

Greatness can be attained by constantly following others who reflect that which you seek to have. Meditate and Reflect on the following and take ACTION towards a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU! #BridgingTheIntegrityGap

1.  “Celebrity-worship and hero-worship should not be confused. Yet we confuse them everyday, and by doing so we come dangerously close to depriving ourselves of all real role models. We lose sight of the men and women who do not simply SEEM great because they are famous but are famous because they are great. We come closer and closer to degrading all fame to notoriety. ~ Daniel J. Boorstin

2. “Who and What you stare at and listen to long enough, you begin to look and think like.” ~An old African proverb

3. “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” ~Jim Rohn

life is too short4.  “People inspire you or they drain you, pick wisely!” ~Hans F. Hansen~

5. “Create a set of great personal values and surround yourself with the right people that can form your support system. Have an optimistic spirit and develop a strong purpose that you completely believe in and everything you can imagine is possible, for you.” ~Andrew Horton

6. “If you find yourself at the head of the class, you’re in the wrong class. It’s time to find a new class.” ~John Maxwell

7. “No matter how skillful you are, if you are with the wrong team your star will not shine. You’ll only keep struggling but results will be far from you. Quit ‘Camp Losing’ for ‘Camp Winning’. Surround yourself with a bunch of winners and see yourself winning big.” ~Unknown

Here are my thoughts for creating your own ‘environment’:

todayHave a deep awareness of the environment you’re in, either by choice or by default. Who and What are you surrounding yourself with? Who and What are you constantly watching and listening to, in real life, on the radio, television, internet?

Become more aware of what you allow into your space and what you contribute when you’re in other people’s spaces. Pay attention to all your interactions; meetings, groups, chatrooms, both online and offline. Know when to disconnect and reconnect.

In a fight between you and your environment, chances are your environment often wins! So if your physical universe is strife with corruption, evil and indiscipline, counteract it by reading motivational, inspiring and life-transforming books.

Take little action steps that unplug you from the rot around. Be your own inner light. Lead yourself with integrity and be gentle too. The best time to start is always NOW!

The more you complain and talk about what is NOT right, the more it sucks you in. Stop the blame game, no one ever won it. Look for positive lights in the seeming darkness, seek out other like-minded people who want to make a difference, no matter how small.

FOCUS on what can be and use up your energy to add and create value. Focus on what you want, do not waste your resources on what you do not want. WE create the society of our dreams. Take action on what you know, the path reveals itself with each step. To know better and not do better is an even bigger pain and disservice!

5 peopleLearn to be a fantastic FOLLOWER. Follow great people, follow happy & joyous people, follow wise people, follow people making a meaningful difference.

Follow healthy people, follow ethical people who are wealth & value-creators, follow people who’re beautiful inside-out, follow successful experts in the fields you’re interested in, follow focused people, follow all that is great and wonderful. Follow people that will challenge, motivate and inspire you to ACTION!

It is a fact that their aura will rub off on you because you BECOME that which you constantly surround yourself with.

DO YOU HAVE A CLEAR VISON FOR YOUR LIFE? Are you moving towards or away from the vision you have for yourself?What do you really want out of life? Are you currently living your dream life, career, business, relationships? You have the power of co-creation and transformation, unlock and use it! Assess and check the crowd you’re presently in. Ask yourself honestly: does this crowd serve your purpose, does it align with your ultimate divine destiny? Adapt a new middle name: ‘FOLLOW-FOLLOW’.

Begin to follow leaders in the different areas you wish to excel in. I do not refer to the blind, ego-stroking, sycophantic, worship of supposedly ‘successful’ but fake people! I mean a beautiful, humble and respectful ‘mentor-mentee’ relationship based on an authentic exchange of values because we are all INTRINSICALLY VALUABLE!

take actionYour environment either shapes you or you adapt to it. Very few people have succeeded in shaping their environments. So be careful of what and who you are allowing into your space.

Learn from mentors and role models around you, adapt their principles, strategies and and apply them in your life. Yes, it is possible, you can CHOOSE to follow your way to GREATNESS.

First, seek intellectual knowledge and then, second, experiential knowledge (wisdom) by simply taking focused, consistent and aligned ACTION steps! (In the conjugation of life’s verbs, ‘TO DO’ is always more powerful than ‘to say’.

In the words of Tony Robbins: “You simply become who you spend time with. The quality of your life is proportional to the quality of your relationships.” Therefore, it is important to model other people who are already exemplary in different aspects of their behaviours, habits, characters etc.

Add these to your ‘TO DO’ list this week:

1. Identify and write down 3 key areas you wish to grow and develop in (They may be in your professional/personal life);

2. Identify 3 role models/mentors who are at the top of their game in these areas;

3. Follow them! Join their mailing lists, sign up for their webinars, seminars, workshops, events etc.

4. Each week, apply at least one learning from mentors/coaches to your life;

5. Keep on practicing what you’ve learned until it becomes a part of your neurology i.e. you cannot help but just do it!

6. Teach what you’ve learned to others (or at least one person). When we teach, we re-install all the learnings and consolidate them in our lives. So share everything you know with as much people as you can!

7. Celebrate your journey, and rejoice over every single milestone. Reflect, reassess and revamp the process and keep the learning window always open. There is always more….make room in your heart, mind, spirit and soul to keep learning, growing and evolving. When we stop growing, we are dead! *Note that as you grow and transform, your list of role models also evolves.

In the words of Jim Rohn: ‘The greatest room in the world is the room for self improvement.”

Send us an email (wholewomannetworkinc@gmail.com or info@wholewomannetwork.com), with your top 3 most important role models/mentors. As always, WWN will give away 3 motivational/inspirational books at the end of the month to three lucky participants.

(Our 3 picks are: Brene Brown’s ‘Gift of Imperfection’, Malcolm Gladwell’s David and Goliath’, and Paulo Coelho’s ‘Manuscript found in Accra’). Remember, life is a wonderful game and a wonderful daring adventure, it all depends on HOW you choose to look at it! Dare to play at 100% or NOT at all! Have fun and Good luck. Enjoy your journey to greatness!!!

Bloggers NoteFrom a grateful heart, with love:  I am thankful for the following Heroes and SHEroes who have shaped and continue to shape the person I was yesterday, who I am now and who I’m becoming tomorrow. Some have passed away, some I have met in person and others have become close friends and invaluable close-knit family of cyber-mentors/coaches.

My loving husband and amazing children, my ancestors, my mom, Bridget Ume, My dad, Cyprian Ume(RIP), Kate Okoro, all my ‘sister-friends’ (you all know yourselves…), my siblings and family, my wonderful in-laws, Jean N. Pere.

And others such as Marie Forleo, Mary Okobi (RIP), Tony Robbins, Crystal Andrus, Ali Brown, Oby Ezekwesili, Chimamanda Adichie, Maxamed Ibraahin Warsame Hadraawi, Sufi, King David :-), Connie Podesta, Kathy Ireland, Eugenia Abu, Les Brown, Sandi Krakowski, Lisa Sasevich, Uche Eze, Jerry Roberts, Jordan Adler, Cody Bateman.

Others include: Hilary Clinton, Maya AngelouOprah WinfreyIyanla Vanzant, Brene Brown, Leke Alder, Funmi Iyanda, Nelson Mandela, Mother Teresa, Marianne Williamson, Pope John Paul II (RIP), T. Harv Eker, Suze OrmanGail Vaz-Oxlade, Bimbo Odukoya (RIP), Funmi Ransome-Kuti, Nina Jean, Nana Asma’u, Margaret Ekpo, Joyce Meyer, Akachi Adimora-Ezeigbo, The Bridge family….(and so many cool people I got to meet via social media).

I am grateful to the human potential, leadership, coaching and private wealth management professional communities. In particular, I am especially thankful to the thousands of people, from so many different countries, with whom I connect through social media, face-to-face, via email or telephone. Thank you for taking up the courage to live your best lives NOW, with purpose, passion and power!

And a huge thank you to those that I have never met in person, who unfailingly, send in their heartfelt testimonials/stories and are always so willing and happy to share their hearts and thus, make a difference in the lives of others! You honour me with your presence. We are all connected, and we all share a common humanity. Thank you for holding sacred space for the rest of us.

Who is in your circle of five (5)? Who are you following? Who are your favourite role models, teachers, mentors and coaches?

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Love, Light & Truth!

-Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA (www.Julietkego.com)

Poet | Master-Certified Leadership Coach-Trainer -Consultant|

Co-Founder & Executive Director, Whole WoMan Network

Raising a New Generation of Transformational, Ethical & Creative African Leaders


~Take empowered ACTION towards a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU!~

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9 Simple Steps to Take Control of Your Life and Create the Life of Your Dreams!

Habit“The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” ~ William Morris~

A while ago, I attended the laptop Millionaire summit hosted by Mark Anastasi, New York Times Bestselling Author of ‘The Laptop Millionaire.’

It was an exciting, insightful and empowering experience as Mark and his team shared valuable information on using social media marketing campaigns, effectively, to grow your business prospect lists and client base!

He also shared a 9-point list of simple yet powerful strategies/tips to take control of life and create the life of your dreams. Here’s the list below:

1. Have clarity on what you want and focus on exactly what you want, only what you want. Zone out and ignore everything else!

2. Take personal responsibility for your present chaos, drama or stuck state.

3. Know your expected and projected outcomes. Reverse engineer your steps.

4. Change your focus if what you’re currently doing is not getting you the results you desire. Intended

5. Brainstorm and come up with 100 solutions. Have many ideas and different options.

6. Become more resourceful; unlock your own inner creativity. Write down 20 things you are grateful for and 20 things you love about yourself.

7. Do not be afraid to ask for help. Ask for guidance, seek a coach and/or mentor whom you trust.

8. If you’re not where you want to be, if you don’t look, hear, see, and feel your vision for yourself, know that it’s probably time to change your peer group.

9. Take massive, intelligent and disciplined action steps. Stretch yourself. Become comfortable with discomfort.

And most importantly, take good care of your health! Accept, love and celebrate your body, it is your vessel of life.

Have an awesome weekend, everyone and remember to take ACTION steps that are aligned with your core values.

“I do not want to foresee the future. I am more concerned about taking care of the present moment. God has given me no control over the moment following.” ~Mahatma Ghandi~


The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Private Wealth Consultant & Leadership Coach & Trainer at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership” and “Today I will not bow.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women (and men), regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific, Behavioural and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! She shares her daily reflective posts on: www.facebook.com/wholewomannetwork. And to relax, she shares her love for Floetry (the written-spoken-sung word), on her Poetry Blog. Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc

DAY 21: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

courage“The old way of thinking is as if you were the lowly servant of a king or the daughter of a slave. This old way is built on a fallacy and pre-supposes that you are broken and incomplete. It’s a new dawn. The new message is that you are and have always been the daughter of a KING.

You are whole and complete. It is based on an eternal TRUTH! This is the season to return to wholeness. Step into your magnificence. Greatness resides in YOU! The world is waiting for you.” ~Excerpt from the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership’~

WWN Reflection DAY 21: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

The focus today is on telling yourself EMPOWERING stories!
All change, all learning, all growth is mainly done on an unconscious level. Be mindful, therefore, of the stories you feed your unconscious mind and the movies you play in your head. Tell yourself wonderful stories. Tell stories with a sole purpose of getting something positive out of it. The stories start in your head. The most important conversations are the ones you have with yourself.

Explore the learning, growth and idea in each story and apply the principles to make your life better. Events are events, your interpretation of the event is your story. Tell stories that move you in the direction of your purpose. The story is merely a story, how you tell it is more important!

your storiesTell stories about yourself and others that empower and not dis-empower you! Get out of the victim mode! Your past is your past! Acknowledge the story, acknowledge the pain, re-frame it and simply DECIDE to let it go. Tell stories about yourself and others that have solutions. Tell stories that bring you to light. Come out of the darkness. We co-create our own hell or heaven. Everything depends on our perspective. It is always a choice.

You live out the stories in your head! Be gentle with yourself and others. We are all reflections of one another, we are here to learn from one another, period. Tell stories that will add to the process of your continuous growth. No one is better than the other.Worst enemy

Everyone is equal. Life is a game and we are all still figuring it out. No one has all the answers, the key is to keep asking questions and re-framing your stories. As long as you are alive, your stories are never done, they are constantly evolving. When we’re done, we’re basically dead!

Some people are here to  teach us  life lessons, so that we may also teach and pass it on to others. So every painful or difficult experience happens to make us grow and become a beacon of hope to others. Stop looking back, stop looking down, you are not going that way! Look up and look forward, the future awaits and you get to write the script and direct the movie of your life story!

FOCUS on what you want and say it exactly how you want it. For every single thing that has form was once formless, i.e. a mere thought. Guard your thoughts and your words, for soon they manifest into reality.

Negative thoughtsChannel ALL your energy to create the reality that you desire. Stop filling up your minds with thoughts that are at cross-purpose with your destiny! You are a co-creator with God, you are living out a script written by your own hands. Yes, HE has given you that much power! God’s made you co-heirs and co-creators of his kingdom.

So step out in courage and follow your heart, intuition, unconscious mind and that still, quiet whisper within. Take ACTION towards a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU! To do otherwise is to selfishly rob the world of a precious gift. Play at 100%, and give life your all or don’t play at all. The world will all be better for having, knowing and experiencing ALL of you. Yes, you are that awesome!

You already have enough, be content and be grateful. Create the paradise that you desire NOW. And it is important to understand that you possess the innate, divine ability to create more, should you need more in life. There are unique gifts, talents and skills you possess that the world is waiting to pay for! It is simply an exchange of values from you and the universe and it is ALWAYS in synchronistic balance.

The caveat is that everything must be to God’s glory and to serve/love your neighbours. It must be ecological, a WIN-WIN-WIN balance; for self, for others and for the planet as a whole. WE are all connected! We are all ONE! So direct your thoughts to align with your vision and dreams. Dream BIG, it doesn’t cost you a single cent or kobo! 🙂

ThoughtsRemember, whatever you have in your physical universe is a reflection of the thoughts and (in)actions that you have taken in the past. It is your evidence procedure. It does not lie! So you get to choose and co-create your reality every single moment. You get to be ‘right’ whichever path you take. Life is truly a self-fulfilling prophesy! So ask yourself: ‘Am I congruent in my patterns of words-thoughts-actions?’

Have a thoughtful, reflective day!

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-Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA

Poet | Master-Certified Leadership Coach-Trainer -Consultant|

~Take empowered ACTION towards a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU!~


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FB PIC High RezThe preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, empowered, complete, whole creatures and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

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