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DAY 17: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

DreamQuestions of the Day: What is your vision for your life in terms of our relationship with your God, family, work or career and community? What legacy do you wish to leave behind? How do you want your loved ones to remember you?

Do you have clarity on who you wish to be at the end of your journey? Do you realize that you have the power to live and create the memories you wish to look back on in the future right now in the present?

WWN Reflection DAY 17: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

It is important to have big and clear goals for our lives. Once we are clear on our end goal(s), it is easier to reverse engineer our lives and fill in the details. Sometimes we run the risk of living a purposeless existence, all because we failed to have a clear vision for the future.

And suddenly, our days become years and soon enough decades go by and we are left with all the should have, could have, would have….A life filled with regrets instead of a life of wonderful memories, worth celebrating. “Until you have a plan for your life, it is difficult to plan for your day.” ~Tony Robbins~

Live and act inspite of the fears you face everyday. The regrets in life are rarely based on the action steps we took, rather the deeper regrets are often over the things we failed to do. When we take action, we are able to course-correct because we have the gift of learning from the experience(s). Focus on each day and the simple steps that must be taken in the direction of your dreams. Remember, if it does not add to your purpose, then it definitely detracts and distracts from it.

“People who FAIL in life tend to focus on the pain/discomfort that they will have to go through to get to their goals; people who SUCCEED focus solely on what and how it will feel like in the end, when they’ve achieved their goals.” ~Anthony Robbins~

As you start this new week, here are some simple reflections to dwell on. Surprise yourself and put them into practice, and pay attention to the results in your life. Sometimes, it is the little things that make the big difference. They are the ‘extra’ little things that move you from ordinary to extra-ordinary. The small things collectively, make a BIG difference!

1. Be present and show up fully in your life, community, work and business. Show up on time in life, work, play and business;

2. Always seek new ways to add value, always go beyond what is expected and rise above the norm;

3. Know your own worth and value, place a premium on yourself and others;

4. Respect the concept of time, become more aware of how well you use it, or how badly you waste it;

5. Learn the art and science of positioning (i.e. meaningfully serving with authenticity and viewing sales as an exchange of value between parties);

6. Learn to articulate the pains/needs of others, even better than they would. Give people what they want and sell them what they need OR give them what they need and sell them what they want;

7. Have an active database of everyone in your life, prioritize/classify your list and have a system to keep in touch and connect with family/clients/prospects-be there to celebrate their joys and stand by them during their challenging times;

8. Become a ‘solutions provider’ and not merely a ‘sales person’. People want solutions to their problems or challenges, make it about them and not about you, your products or services;

9. No matter how difficult your external environment is, become a ‘Realistic Optimist!’ Be patient, build it one brick at a time. Be hungry, go for your dreams. Be stubborn, fight for your dreams. Success follows certain patterns, take the time to study, understand and live these universal rules, laws and principles. Be disciplined, take consistent, focused action steps. Be flexible, do not be attached to an outcome or any particular way of getting to your path. Simply do your part and know that a critical mass of success WILL occur at some point;

10. Have FAITH. Faith is a decision to trust whole-heartedly and believe that it IS always possible. Faith needs no reason, data, excuses, plans, research, explanations…It simply is. Faith always says: ‘It is well!’ ‘There is a way!’ ‘It can and will be done!’ Decide to have FAITH in God, in humanity, and in love. Work hard and pray harder. If that fails, pray hard and work harder!

As you begin your new week, really take a moment to reflect on what you wish to manifest. Focus on exactly what you want and not on the ‘problems’ (what you do NOT want!) What if your problem is not your problem? What if your problem is simply just a problem? Think about it. Quit taking things so personal, begin to let PROBLEMS/PAINS go when they’ve served their purpose. Challenges occur to make you grow in wisdom, skill set and resilience!

Stop telling stories of a past pain that is already completed, over and done with, simply to re-create your pain. Learn from the experience and choose to let it go. Tell empowering stories and decide to move forward. Time does heal, how could it not? Allow time to do its work of healing. Be patient, it is a gradual process. Healing is inevitable, we alone hold ourselves back, consciously or unconsciously.

Who are you without the burden of that pain you’re carrying around? Become that person who is empowered, wiser and stronger because of the pain and not the person who is diminished or reduced by it. Do not waste your pain. Channel your pain, with passion, into a purposeful path. Everything that happens to us is merely to gift us with more awareness of who we are and a deeper understanding of others.

You have the power and ability to create your own unique flow. Be certain and know, therefore, that you always have a choice to learn and grow or to remain exactly where you are, knowing only what you know now and continuing your drama of pain and your dance of blaming and complaining. Your choice, your call!

We have the power to re-frame and reinterpret the events in our world. The event are merely events, they are neutral. We give them energy and juice it up. Use that to your advantage. Give it the energy that serves your own purpose. Create your own unique flow. It is your God-given gift! Choose to co-create beauty, joy, value, service, fun…do it all within a master-frame of LOVE!”

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc.

DAY 13: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs at Whole Woman Network, are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the unique gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny. Own it! Be grateful

WWN Reflection DAY 13: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Today, consciously reflect on what and who gives you the most joy and enables you grow the most. They may not necessarily be people you ‘like’, however, they are definitely people that ‘push your hot buttons!’

Life is neutral. Anything and anyone that charges up your energy is there for an important reason. There are no coincidences. Life is all about synchronism. They are in your life to force you to really pay attention, look inwards and grow. These are the people and activities you should focus ALL your energies on. Everything and everyone else may as well be a WASTE of your precious time!

Develop a deep awareness and gratitude for everyone and everything that’s been a source of joy and growth in your life. Take the time to call, visit and text these people and let them know how you love and appreciate them. You will be amazed at the results, both for you and for them.

LOVE and appreciation always heal! Even if the people live in the same household as you, speak with them, or even better still, send them a text or even write a letter to them appreciating them! Often it is easier to show love, appreciation and curtesy to strangers and not to our closest family and friends.

Positive words and thoughts are POWERFUL. They heal  and empower both the thinker and the receiver, the speaker and the listener, the writer and the reader! Write a ‘private’ letter to your loved ones and those who may have done you wrong (and also those whom you’ve wronged) and explicitly, express every single thing they did that hurt you and caused you pain. The more specific you are in your description of pain, the more it loses its power.Possibilities

Describe all the feelings you felt and still feel: betrayed, despair, anger, jealousy, envy, guilt, shame, unworthy, unlovable, stuck, sadness, fear, hurt…take the time to read this letter out loud in private, then BURN all the letters as you say a prayer of forgiveness for yourself and for others.

Forgiveness is a DECISION based on faith. Try to go back in time to those events and instead of focusing on the negative feelings, choose to focus on the learning. You will find that as soon as you decide to let go, everything crumbles and the ‘juice’ of the pain disappears.

We hold ourselves captive when we choose not to let go and forgive. Forgiveness creates a new future and re-frames the past with respect to the appropriate content and context.

Remember, external things may happen to you but only YOU control your response and interpretation of those things. You can choose to be reactive or proactive, the former dis-empowers and leaves you drained, while the latter empowers and energizes. Commit and continue with this exercise. You need at least 3 days to release and let go of your limiting beliefs, painful experiences and forgive those who did you wrong (and vice versa). Remember that it is easier to remember those that did us wrong but please reflect deeply and honestly on the role(s) you played.

ForgivenessThe ‘victim mentality’ is a selfish place to be. That is, when you sit passively and ALLOW people to do ‘bad’ things to you , treat you unfairly and/or disrespect you. Sometimes our fear of rejection, and of being perceived as ‘not being a nice person’, keep us in a quasi-state of bondage! The more we love, forgive and respect ourselves, people around us begin to mirror our behaviour. You teach people how to treat you, period!

You can be gentle, kind and yet firm in expressing what you do or do not want.
-Setting healthy boundaries will help us in our faith with God and in our relationships with others. Boundaries make life choices so much more easier because they act as fence protecting you from others and yourself. When you are clear on your principles and consistently walk your talk, life become more effortless and free of drama.

With each incident and person you choose to let go, I hope you begin to feel more joyous, peaceful, empathetic and also blessed with a wonderful sense of freedom to accomplish greater things. Often, only WE hold ourselves back from personal and professional success. Today is the day to DECIDE to break-through your self-imposed socio-emotional, financial, mental and spiritual glass ceilings. Fear less, hope more

-(NOTE: When done with integrity, this can be a very difficult, yet soul-searching exercise, and  at the end you WILL feel a deep sense of physical, spiritual and emotional release and peace!)

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc.