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DAY 27: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Today’s reflection is focused on the power of ASKING QUESTIONS. Sometimes, it is not the answers that we find that give us the biggest shifts and transformation. Often, it is the questions that we ask ourselves or are asked by others that open up our hearts and minds to possibilities we never imagined. The act of seeking the answers becomes a metaphor for the journey of life.

Begin to pay attention to the questions that keep you awake at night, the questions that never seem too far from your mind, the questions that you run away from confronting. Those are probably the questions that have the biggest relationship with your life purpose and destiny.

WWN Reflection DAY 27: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Here are some questions to reflect upon as you enjoy the rest of the week:

1. This mid-week, reflect and ask yourself: Am I on the ‘WOE me’ or ‘WOW me’ axis of life’s equation?

WOE ME= Making excuses and having reasons to blame others for the drama and crap in your life! You are an expert at pointing fingers outwards, talking about other people’s limitations and never yours. You play the victim card. Failure and stagnation are guaranteed states in this zone.

WOW ME=You take ownership and responsibility for both your awesomeness and your crap! You understand that you are a co-heir and co-creator with God. You focus on the learning in any situation, you seek to provide solutions and to add value. You are at cause for your life. You are in control of your results. You look inwards for answers. Success and purposeful living is guaranteed here.

Note: You get to choose only one side at any given time….you cannot be in both! And if you’re in neither, you may be sitting on the ‘stuck’ fence, where life seems to be ‘happening’ to you. It is important to also note that as human beings, we will definitely find ourselves hanging out in the ‘woe me’ quadrant once in a while. The key is not to stay there for too long and also to celebrate the awareness of your lessons and learnings while you’re there or after you get out! So, be gentle with yourself and others, we’re all doing the very best we can with the resources we have.

2. Did you know that there’s a behavioural link between Self-Esteem, Over-Eating, Over-Spending, Over-Complaining and generally feeling ‘out of balance’ in life? They often have a common root and if you destroy the root cause, every thing else crumbles and life RE-ALIGNS back into shape! Are you aware of what your root cause is? Sometimes the manifesting ‘problem’ is simple a symptom of something deeper.

3. “Do you want a successful career or a close relationship with your family? Both! Do you want a focus on business or have fun and play? Both! Do you want money or meaning in your life? Both! Do you want to earn a fortune or do the work you love? Both! Unsuccessful people always choose one, successful people choose both. Do you realize that you always have options and indeed, by God’s grace and through hard work/working smart, you can have it all.” ~T. Harv Eker~

4. “Are you stressed? Do you take time to relax? Do you take things so seriously? Laugh as much as you can! Play! When we’re adults, sometimes we forget to play and or we think we shouldn’t be wasting time on play when the opposite is true – PLAY! PLAY! PLAY! That’s where our true joy stems from, the most innocent part of who we are, our inner child that’s so excited about life and all its blessings! Are you letting your inner child out?” ~Patricia Grace Tomasi, Life Coach~

5. Do you suffer because you think you do not have enough OR because you’ve accepted a fallacy that you can never have enough, and so you suffer? (Re-read this and ponder on it for a few minutes) 🙂 Do you realize that you have an innate ability to co-create everything you desire, want or need? Do you understand that you are enough and you always have enough? Do you play the compare and contrast game? Do you compare yourself against others or compare the present to the past or an imaginary future? Do you comprehend that this is the root cause of most unhappiness? Are you always looking at the other side and thinking the grass greener? Are you celebrating the beauty of NOW and looking inwards to find solutions unique to you or are you blindly following the dictates of the external world around you?

6. What if your problem is not YOUR problem? What if your problem is simply just a problem? What if you stopped taking  your challenges and problems so personally? What if you could ‘remove’ yourself from your problem and look at them through someone else’s eyes? What if you took a new perspective, an ‘eagle-eyed’ overview of the problem and became open to new ways of ‘seeing’ them? What if the whole essence of the problems is to make you grow and transform into someone who resources creatively to resolve and solve said problems? What if all your problems have solutions and you role is to simply explore new ideas, perspectives and be open to others around you, in order to find the answers you seek?

7. What’s your purpose? Are you living in alignment with your purpose? What are your most important values in different spheres of life? What kind of life would you rather be living if you had an abundance of money, time, energy? LIVE IT NOW! Do you have the faith to believe in the formless and not in the formed physical reality? Are you speaking, feeling and living your truth? Do you realize that in order to manifest your dreams into reality, you MUST become the person who is capable of achieving those goals and dreams? WHAT you have and do flow directly from WHO you are BEING. The equation for the law of manifest ion is this: BE-DO-HAVE!

Warmest Regards, Blessings & Cyber-hugs,

-Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA

Poet | Master-Certified Leadership Coach-Trainer -Consultant|

~Take empowered ACTION towards a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU!~

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FB PIC High RezThe preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, empowered, complete, whole creatures and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

DAY 9: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

createQuestions of the day: Do you often tell stories without solutions, about yourself and others? Are you always in the ‘victim’ mode. Or do you choose to tell empowering stories? Your story is your story. However, HOW you tell your story is very important.

Do you define or describe yourself interns of your limitations, hurts, pains, challenges instead of seeing yourself in terms of your triumphs, possibilities and potentials?  In other words, are you self-flagellating in the ‘WOE ME’ quadrant of life or  celebrating in the ‘WOW ME’ quadrant?

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs at Whole Woman Network, are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the unique gift and ability to co-create and design your destiny with God. Own it!

WWN Reflection DAY 9: Telling Empowering Stories About Yourself & Others.

This weeks’s focus is on HOW YOU TELL YOUR STORY. And how you tell your story is dependent on how you ‘see’ yourself. Through which lens do you see yourself? Take a moment to ponder if you ‘see’ yourself at the ‘WOE ME’ side of life’s equation or at the ‘WOW ME’ axis.see you

In the ‘WOW ME’ quadrant, you live your life completely, powerfully, passionately and purposefully. You take responsibility for everything in your life because you accept that unconscious and conscious choices, actions/in-actions, all combine to create everything in your physical reality.

You have the courage to lead yourself. You are open to different options and are willing to resource externally and ask for help. You understand the inter-connectivity and inter-dependence of people, things and events. You have a keen sense of awareness of life as being synchronistic and filled with patterns.

nothing will workIt is a zone of personal awareness and integrity with your emotions. You feel all your emotions and express them in a healthy ways.

You acknowledge that even though there may be things you cannot change, you have the POWER to respond to them however you choose,  especially in such as way that you are not dis-empowered. You are constantly learning and growing. You embrace change and know that life doesn’t just happen to you. In other words, you do not simply go with the flow. You choose to co-create your own unique flow!

In the ‘WOW ME’ quadrant, you understand that you are responsibly for your choices and attitude! You learn to accept what you cannot change and adapt to things as they unfold. You understand the power of behavioural flexibility. Your life is not exempt from challenges and storms, the difference is that you learn to elegantly ride the waves of life.

You define ‘problems’ in terms of their inherent opportunities, solutions and learnings. You gravitate towards people from whom you can learn, you’re constantly modelling excellence in others and you refrain from blaming, judging, castigating and condemning. Your attitude always resets or defaults to ‘What is the learning here?’, ‘What has this got to do with me?’, ‘Does this detract or distract from my purpose and path?’ This is clearly for people with a winning attitude.

At the ‘WOW ME’ axis of life, you are always seeking solutions, looking at different approaches/perspectives and learning from both your mistakes and successes. It is focused on finding synergy, empathy and acceptance rather than on being judgmental or egoic.

The ‘WOE ME’ quadrant is the zone of excuses and blames. There is always a convenient reason why everything or everyone else is at fault. This is the ‘victim zone’. You let life happen to you and then you react to events unfolding. There is little or no sense of personal accountability, self-responsibility or self-leadership. There is a lack of awareness that making excuses will NEVER provide solutions rather it creates a loop that keeps you from moving forward. The ‘ego’ drives your actions and decisions. And you feel powerless and stuck! You repress negative emotions and in a bid to block them, your body often becomes stressed. negative thinking

One of the key concepts for getting out of the ‘WOE ME’ quadrant is the awareness and acceptance that when you blame someone else for the situations in YOUR life, you are basically giving away your power. Taking responsibility gives you control and allows the unconscious to start seeking solutions and create new neurological pathways of options.

Remember, the purpose for ALL experiences (good and bad) is to EMPOWER you to act from a place of awareness, wisdom and power. Revisit pivotal past events in your life and seek the learning in each experience. All the answers are already within you.

Look at those events through your own eyes, then through the other party’s eyes and finally assume an overview, big-picture, ‘eagle’ perspective. Re-tell the same story without the charge of emotions and really dig deep to find the highest intention or purpose. Often, there exists commonalities of intention. Basically, we all tend to have the same needs, they simply manifest or are met in diverse ways. The healthier we satisfy our most unconscious needs and values, the less the chaos and strife around our relationships with others.

Every encounter with people and the world around us, represents an energy exchange process. You choose how that exchange of energy will occur. If you reflect upon them enough, you will discover that challenging personalities and difficult experiences/situations, raise important questions that prompt you to look inwards towards your truth. You alone know your TRUTH. You are a co-creator with God and you have the power, to create the destiny you desire. When you allow yourself to shift your mindset, you are able to discover a whole new world. Take ACTION and dare to see yourself and your world, in a beautiful, brand new light. Only then will you begin to tell empowering stories about yourself and others. Have a wonderful week!

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Juliet Ume in polka dot topThe preceding is a guest post from Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director of Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, complete, whole and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

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WWN’s Total Transformation and Life-Coaching Program: ’90-Days to a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU!’

This Life-Transforming Coaching Program is definitely for you if:

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 YOU feel a big disconnect between the life you’re living now and your inner life’s purpose and passions and you want to unlock your potentials;
 YOU sometimes feel a sense of being ‘stuck’ and held back as a result of upbringing, culture, society, religion, environment, status, media and family;
 YOU want to find your inner voice, use it, simply let your voice be heard and make a difference;
 YOU have a burning desire to create and live your best life NOW. You are ready to unlearn a lifetime of unhealthy habits based on ‘scarcity’ and ‘being broken’ and replace them with new choices based on a mindset of ‘abundance’ and ‘wholeness’;
 YOU are ready to re-focus and re-install healthy wealth strategies and achieve the 3 silos of wealth: financial stability, financial independence and financial freedom;
 YOU feel stressed-out, burnt-out, over-extended, over-worked, under-appreciated and want to achieve a healthy balance in your work-life choices;
 YOU are sick and tired of playing the ‘Shame-Blame-Pain’ game and you’re ready to break the cycle, own your crap, re-frame past events and celebrate life NOW by taking empowered action steps;
 YOU are willing to play and engage in the game of life at 100%, take personal responsibility and accountability of your reality and develop a new Physiology and Psychology of Excellence;
 YOU want to establish healthy boundaries for yourself and loved ones (spouses, siblings, parents, in-laws, friends and colleagues);
 YOU are ready to get off the ‘toxic’ fence and take concrete action towards your magnificent self;
 YOU desire to gain mastery and take control of your financial, physical, emotional and spiritual health and want to learn how to monetize your skills, talents, passions and pains;
 YOU are willing to surrender your ‘egoic’ self and your attachment to being ‘right’ and ‘broke’ and finally re-claim your gift of a joyous, healthy, wealthy and abundant life;
 YOU are overwhelmed, financially stressed and living from one pay-cheque to one week before another pay-cheque;
 YOU feel held down and weighed down by past hurts, pains, limiting beliefs and negative emotions;
 YOU are finally willing to stop re-playing the stories of drama and self sabotage in your head and start celebrating self-love today;
 YOU are willing and ready to make the mental shift from the victim (‘woe me’) quadrant to an empowered victor (‘wow me’) quadrant;
 YOU want to break out of the ‘rat race’, stop working for money and create new sustainable patterns and strategies to make your money work for you;
 YOU are struggling to make your ends meet in life and seeking skills to empower you so that you can better manage your resources: time, energy, networks and money;
 YOU want to experience beauty from the inside-out; to transform from drab and flabby to fabulous and sexy, and step out into life in colours, with a new confident bounce in your smile, walk and talk;
 YOU want to step into your Empowered self and claim your ‘Fundamental Woman Right’ to a life of Love, Respect and Joy;
 YOU have a deep passion and burning desire to empower others and a keen desire to leave a worthy legacy behind!

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At Whole Woman Network, we take a unique approach to Life-Coaching. Our coaching program is based on: Faith-based principles, Science (Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Behavioral Science, and top Mind-Body Tools such as Time-Line Therapy™), Universal principles and plain old ‘Common-Practical’ Sense!

It is a tested approach that is results-driven and based on agreed upon measurable outcomes. We understand the critical roles of mindset, society, education, culture and faith on shaping human habits, behaviour and character. Thus, the focus is on sustainable behavioral re-patterning and ACTIONABLE steps! We aim to provide women of colour with a compelling ‘call-to-action’ on issues affecting their overall well-being (with an emphasis on wealth, financial literacy and financial stress management), by empowering them with tools to gain mastery over ALL facets of their lives.

“The old way of thinking is as if you were the lowly servant of a king or the daughter of a slave. This old way is built on a fallacy and pre-supposes that you are broken and incomplete. It’s a new dawn. The new message is that you are and have always been the daughter of a KING. You are complete. It is based on an eternal TRUTH! This is the season to return to wholeness. Step into your magnificence. Greatness resides in YOU! The world is waiting for you.”
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