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DAY 6: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Questions of the Day: “Who are you following? Who do you look up to? Who do you surround yourself with? Who are your mentors and coaches? In the words of Tony Robbins: ‘The quality of your life is directly proportional to the quality of your relationships.” What do you listen to, read and look at? How do you re-charge, re-fuel or re-energize your senses? Are you ready and willing to commit to learn from others and grow? To paraphrase the great John C. Maxwell, change happens in life whether we welcome it or not. Growth, however, is optional. We DECIDE to grow or stay stunted. Two ways to live

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny. Own it!

WWN Reflection DAY 6: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Today’s FOCUS is on the twin concepts of SELF FORGIVENESS and MODELLING BEHAVIOUR. 

After you’ve identified the key areas of your life you wish to improve upon, the next important step is to seek out people who are doing excellently in those areas and model their behaviour. It may be in their personal relationships, approach to business/career, professionally, in areas of health and fitness, how they carry themselves, how they interact with others, their ability to solve problems etc.

The important thing is to avoid copying others blindly but to adapt key principles of their positive traits. Always consciously surround yourself with people better than you so that you can grow by learning from them. Surrender to the reality that you need others. Coach people who look up to you and be mentored by those greater and wiser than you.

Life is a continuous chain of value. Always seek to exchange value with others. Do not allow yourself to stagnate. Keep the flames of curiosity burning bright. Be open to other people’s perspective. Be the smallest in the room, so that you grow the most. In the wise words of John C. Maxwell: “If you’re always at the head of the class, then you’re in the wrong class.”

Carl Jung twoPerception is projection. Begin to look at people in terms of what you seek to learn from them. Take the judgement out and look at others as reflections of you. Get to know yourself deeply, your strengths and weaknesses, so that in all interactions with others, you get new learnings, insights and strategies to move you further in the direction of your dreams. If you’re not learning, you’re not growing, period.

Everything is energy. All interaction leave us either better or worse (not neutral). We are either empowered or drained. Are you taking responsibility for how you exchange energy with others. Are you mindful of your interaction with others? Are you a source of drain or do you uplift? We choose how we are transformed. What you seek from others is what you’ll find. You control the lens through which you look at the world. ‘All things look yellow to the jaundiced eye.” ~Alexander Pope~

Take the time to celebrate your life and embrace all the choices (good or bad) that you’ve ever made. Acknowledge your mistakes but don’t be held captive by them. Mistakes are really feedback and a mechanism for growth. The key is to own them reflect and learn from them.

JudgementWhen you accept and forgive yourself, you break down the barriers that separate you from others. You are able to listen and learn more without being judgemental. Forgiving ourselves allows us to accept others for who they are. Respect everyone’s model of the world. In the words of Maya Angelou: “If we know differently, we’ll do differently.”

Faith and Guilt cannot co-exist side by side. Stop feeling guilty, ashamed, angry or worried over things that happened in the past. You only have NOW! Today’s decision can change the future and that future starts NOW! When you channel everything within you and focus it on the actions taken NOW, you will create a new destiny!

Forgive yourself NOW so that you can give yourself permission to forgive loved ones around you. Until we set ourselves free, we cannot shine our light for others. We may pretend for a while, but we may be unable to sustain the lie. Until we confront and accept our own truth, we are held bondage by our lies. And until we live our truth and bask in our own light, we cannot see or share the light in others.

Everyday can be an awesome day. (And remember, even if the day hasn’t been great so far, you can still re-frame the events). You have the power to interpret the events in your life, use your imagination, be creative…..your were created in the image of unconditional love and you are a co-creator with God. Create joy, beauty, success and love. Greatness resides in YOU! Do the little things in an extra-ordinary way. Be authentic. You are an original, own it!

happinessYou can take back your power from your past and create a new future now, by simply channeling your passions/energy/resources to your purpose. You were created for your purpose. Your purpose is everything you are and you do. Regardless of what happens to you, your core is invincible/unshakable/unquenchable.

There is a dimension of you that is one with God. Honour it and never let life steal the joy within you. It is your birth-right from God. You are a precious gift to be shared with the world. Don’t waste the sacredness of life in you by chasing shadows and playing the blame game. No one ever won it. Play to win. Play at 100% or not at all. Play the game of life fully and completely. BE and B.E.A.M: Be Everything And More!

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director of Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, complete, whole and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

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DAY 5: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

DAY 5: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Questions of the Day: “How big are your goals? Do you have a glass floor or glass ceiling on your goals? What would your life be like if you had the courage to be who you dream of becoming? What will you see, hear, feel, taste when your biggest goals are achieved? Do you realize you are the only one standing in the way of your goals and purpose? Do you know and fully comprehend the limitless possibilities that abound all around you? Are you plugged in to your source? Are you ready and willing to commit to your goals and grow? Remember, in the words of John C Maxwell, change happens in life whether we welcome it or not. Growth, however, is optional. We DECIDE to grow or stay stunted. Tony Robbins

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny. Own it!

WWN Reflection DAY 5: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Today’s FOCUS is on the power of PERSONAL GOALS.

(i) Your goals are contracts you have with yourself. Your choice is either to honour them or break them. The consequences are different for each decision. You cannot have successful ‘contracts’ or relationships with others if you do not learn to honor your relationship with yourself. How you do one thing, invariably becomes how you do everything! Are your goals impotent or are they filled with the fire and sincerity of your being?

(ii) The biggest area in your life where you are afraid to take action on is most likely where you should be taking action! Taking action means the you made a commitment and backed it up with your resources and the universe knows to give you what you want. (Remember, whatever ye seek, ye shall find)! Are you really seeking or still sitting on the fence? A decision not to decide, is a decision in itself. If you are struggling or feeling stuck and trapped in any area of your life, perhaps you haven’t actually decided on what you want.

Journey(iii) According to the philosopher Kierkegaard, DISSATISFACTION in life is simply failing to take action steps that you know and have resolved within you that you should take. While DESPAIR is pretending to be someone else other than who you are. Who are you? Whose are you? Do you belong to yourself? to others? or to a loving Creator who can do ALL things? What is that necessary action step that you least want to do but you most have to do? Once you answer and decide on who and what YOU want, God works with the universe to make it happen.

(iv)  Imagine when a young child decides on a particular profession e.g. to become a doctor, teacher, dancer, artist etc. Once the decision is made from a point of truth faith, it seems like seamlessly ALL the actions and choices become aligned with their goal: how they spend their resources, and even their study/play/sleep patterns. Become a child again. Trust the power of imagination and consistent action. All you really ever have to worry about is NOW. Give the best you can in each moment and allow nature perfect her synchronicity. Every single goal can be reduced to what you do today, the actions you take in the NOW! Take the step for today. Show up and be fully present in your life, the path reveals itself with each step you take. Do not focus on the outcome or results, simply take the journey!

Unknown 1(v) ‘Made in HIS image’ is NOT a theory! The universe is a manifestation of you because you are one with God. You are a co-creator of your destiny. If you invest your time, money and energy, and back your ideas with passions and emotions, your goals will materialize. This is the perfect time to focus and channel everything you have (prayers, thoughts, words, actions) towards your goals.

vi) Pray hard and work harder towards your goals. If that fails, work hard and pray harder. At some point, critical mass occurs. Everything happens in the spiritual and takes root in the formless world, before it begins to form and manifest physically. Our biggest asset is FAITH however, DECISION precedes faith. You always have the power of choice. You can transform your life. You can change. It requires commitment, focus and self-discipline. As you read this,  you are changing and growing. Each day you take action, you are more beautiful, healthier and wealthier, now your task is the simply part: to actually LIVE IT!

Another key point regarding success in carrying out your goals is discipline. You must be consistent with your goals. Start small, make simple goals and carry them out. Begin to retrain your unconscious mind. Say something and actually follow with it. Show up when you RSVP. Pay your bills on time. Keep your promises. Explain ahead of time if you won’t and reschedule. When we are faithful with the little things, the bigger things show up naturally, because there are no ‘little’ things, there are simply BIG things broken down into seemingly small ones.

Your conscious mind is the go-setter, however your unconscious mind is the go-getter. All change, learning and behaviour is unconscious! The more you train your ‘goal muscles’, the more your unconscious mind will respect, cooperate and listen to you. Respect is reciprocal. A word, affirmation or goal released into the universe is an open loop. Keep your words and the universe will keep hers to you too. And the more easily and effortlessly your bigger goals will be accomplished.

Lead yourself to a life of excellence, success and joy. Regardless of the outcome, as long as you take consistent, committed steps in the direction of your life’s purpose, you WILL succeed because it is who you become in the journey that counts, not the end result. Life is a dynamic process, it is not static. The universe is always in flow, so flow with it, in the direction of your dreams. First, you have to DECIDE, get out of your own way and allow yourself to soar!

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Juliet Ume in polka dot topThe preceding is a guest post from Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director of Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, complete, whole and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

DAY 1: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!            

DAY 2: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

DAY 3: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

DAY 4: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Personal Growth and Leadership Development with Kim Redman (PhD).

“Your ‘self-talk’ gradually becomes a permanent part of your life’s ‘Hard Drive’. Your self-talk is very important because it becomes your pre-determined way of looking at life (your paradigm). Negative self-talks are like dangerous viruses in your life, and a simple ‘delete’ key will not be adequate to fix the malfunction. You may have to erase, reformat or completely change your Hard-Drive.”

~Whole Woman Network~ (Excerpt from WWN’s Life Transformation Program: ’90 Days to a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier You’)

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A few weeks ago, I participated in a workshop hosted by Gerry Roberts, International bestselling author of The Millionaire Mindset, and facilitated by Coach extraordinaire Kim Redman (PhD), the only Board Certified Master NLP Trainer in Canada. Kim

I must admit that the only reasons I attended (reluctantly too), were because: i. I was inundated with so many emails and ii. I was in between clients and needed a time filler!

Three hours later, after listening to both Gerry and Kim, I was so glad I attended.  I am really grateful to have been a part of that experience. A lot of the thoughts shared were not new ideas  but they presented them with such fresh insights and most importantly, they provided a compelling call to action.

Here’s my condensed interpretation of some interesting nuggets shared by Mr Roberts and Ms Redman:

1. Most people are lacking in many areas of their lives because they simply do NOT know what they are seeking;

2. Success often eludes us because we focus on the fruits and not the roots. For instance, true wealth begins only when we realize that money is not tangible rather it is an energy, it is a concept. So, we do not want money rather what money can do for us;

3. Time is a unique commodity: you cannot save it, trade it or buy it. It can only be leveraged and spent, so spend wisely;

4. In today’s empathy-driven economy, people do not care about what you do. They are more interested in why you do it. In the words of John C. Maxwell: ‘People do not care how much you know, until they know how much you care’. Learn to connect passionately/meaningfully with people in order to have sustainable personal and professional relationships. Connect from the heart first, always;

5. No amount of knowledge is enough to get you fully confident now. To have mastery and expertise, you have to do new things often enough. (Formula for Confidence=Consistency over Time). This is the time for experiential learning (you do not just read about it but you go through it);

6. Sometimes you just have to scream because your brain  needs the oxygen. Learn to unwind and revive your body, mind, soul and spirit;

7. Stop thinking that the big deal is listening to great speakers or attending events. The big deal is taking action, it is actually going out there and doing something;

8. You may need to radically change your life to get where you want to go;

9. Embrace fear because it never goes away. Let your mission be to always act in spite of the cobra of fear;

10. Leadership is not so much about being as it is about doing. Leadership is an evolving set of skill-set. It is your responsibility to find out what you need and to go out and get them. Lead yourself first because you are the Light-House;

11. Sitting on the fence of life will never take you anywhere. Do you want to be Happy, Healthy, Wealthy? Then decide, choose and design the life you want. Unless you decide, you will never believe because every belief you have, you had to decide to belief first;

12. There is an intersection between Quantum Physics and Faith: ‘All possibilities exist in the eternal.’-Mark 9:23

13. Take action towards the life of your dreams. Small steps everyday generate momentum. Do something 3 times/day it becomes a pattern or routine; Repeat it daily for one month and it becomes a habit; Do it 1000 times and it becomes indelible (It sets in a program in your subconscious and you do it without thinking);

14. In the dimension of time, 3 am is the hour of completion of the unconscious mind. If you are consistently up at 3 am, then there may be an unresolved conflict;

15. When people share ideas that are bigger than your mind can comprehend, do you fight them, ridicule them or ignore them? Be wary of someone who would summarily dismiss an idea for no reason;

16. Learn to monetize your experiences and your pains. Our greatest learning is often not gained from successes but from failures;

17. Excellence is a  habit. It is not genetic. It is what you repeat everyday until it becomes second nature. How you do one thing is how you do all things;

18. Other people’s opinion of you should not be your business. Never mind what others are telling you, what is most important is what you are telling yourself. Since you are already telling yourself stories, you may as well tell good stories;

19. Your ‘self-talk’ is very important because it becomes your pre-determined way of looking at life (your paradigm);

20. Your conscious mind is the ‘goal-setter’ while you unconscious mind is the ‘go-getter’. Your unconscious mind is the equivalent of a 5-7 year old. It is a realm where everything is possible.

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***Do you live in the GTA? Are you in any of the following fields: Education, Retail, Medicine and Healing, Sales, Marketing, Training, Leadership, Communication..? Are you a coach, professional, small business owner or public speaker? Are you interested in personal growth and leadership development? Do you want to learn more about applying cutting edge science towards empowering yourself, family, staff and clients?

Some recommended Trainings in the GTA:

‘Designing your Destiny’, a training weekend workshop facilitated by Kim Redman (PhD) of Creatrix Transformational Solutions Inc. Visit this website for more details.

‘Fast Forward Your Future’, a Leadership and Empowerment Experiential training event, facilitated by the team at Human Potential International, HPI. Visit this website to register for the next event.

 

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Remember, you are not ordinary, you are divinely unique.

You are WOW (Wonderful One-of-a-kind Woman)!

w(H)olistically Yours,

 Whole Woman Network

BLOGGER BIO: The preceding blog entry is from Juliet Ume, MBA –Wealth Management Consultant & Lifestyle Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc