Tag Archive | Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido Poet

Magical Bonds #1: Parents & Children Series – A letter from Papa Joe to his baby Janet Jackson

Bloggers Note: This is Part 1 of 7 of  ‘Magical Bonds: Parents & Children Letter Series’

Janet and Joe Jackson Whole Woman NetworkI am not too familiar with Joe Jackson, other than news gleaned through a combination of media depiction, folklore and pop culture.

Through those lens, he may not come across as the most sympathetic or loveable of characters.

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2015 is finally here! A very Joyous, Blessed & Adventurous New Year.

Happy New Year WWNFIFTEEN wishes and prayers for you in 2015!

1. FUN and joy in everything you do;

2. INSPIRATION to create and live your passions;

3. FOLLOW and trust your intuition with faith;

4. THANKFULNESS for both the big and small things;

5. EXPERIENTIAL knowledge (better known as WISDOM); 
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Why is Financial Literacy Important for Women?

“Money has some rules attached to it. And if you follow the rules, you’re going to have more stability in your life than if you don’t follow the rules. Doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman.

The rules are the same: You need to have a plan for how you use your money, you need to have a healthy credit identity, you need to have emergency money and some insurance.

I think it’s really important that we come to realize that life is about balance, that it’s not all or nothing. It’s not spending every waking moment thinking about money or spending no time thinking about money.

Managing money isn’t really that hard. It requires some discipline and there is some detail involved, but in reality it doesn’t take that much time and the payback is huge.” –Gail Vaz-Oxlade 

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The Night the Soldiers Came (A song for my motherland).

An original poem (Updated February 26, 2014).

Floetry: The Night the Soldiers Came.

soldierss“Men suspected to be members of the Islamic Sect, Boko Haram, today Tuesday Feb 25th launched an attack on students of the Federal Government College Buni-Yadi, Yobe state, Northern Nigeria, killing 59 students (or more)…” Hausa Service BBC reports

A tribute to all the innocent souls around the world, lost in senseless orgies of violence and acts of error. A moment of silence for the men, women and children who died too soon. And a prayer for those who are left behind, but mourn still. A song dedicated to the heart of the world, my Africa, and to my beautiful, bruised and broken homeland, NIGERIA. May the dead find eternal peace and may the living find the hope to rise up into the light and embrace the joy of a brand new day! OZOEMENA: May this horror never happen again, God, may it never repeat itself again!

The night the soldiers came (A song for my Motherland)

The night the soldiers came, in the harmattans of ’68, brandishing machetes, guns and slaughter knives; crude accessories for the task at hand. Grown men leaking in their pants, afraid to stand up and fight, for the birth of a still-born nation, this doomed land of the setting sun!

Women screaming and wailing to a God now unknown. And begging forgiveness for whatever sins beget this horror. Heads and limbs and eyes, severed, chopped and plucked from neighbours and friends and kinsmen. Our sisters already dead from the shock of having babies ripped away from their wombs.

That night the soldiers came, in the harmattan of ’68, asking for the blood of the Biafrans. And we, gangling teens that we were, chose to speak a different tongue, and  bowed to an alien God. And so they let us live, but killed the living spirit within.

The night the mob came, in the night of ’98. We heard them at the gate, chanting their songs of revenge and hate. Brandishing machetes, guns and slaughter knifes; crude accessories for the task at hand. Our young men stood tall and proud, draped in the colours of the rising sun. They sang long forgotten melodies, accompanied by the voices of their ancestors: “Nzobu, ‘zobu, Enyimba, enyi!”

We stood there, helplessly, old and feeble and re-lived the nightmares of the  harmattans of ’68. Déjà vu! Painful visions of heads and limbs and eyes, severed and plucked from neighbours and friends and kinsmen. Our sisters already dead from the shock, of having babies snatched from their wombs alive!

And so when they approached, and again asked for the blood of the Biafrans, we watched proudly as our sons spoke the proud tongue of their fathers. And we lifted our heads up to Jehovah.

We fought till the last man stood no more. And reclaimed the lost dignity, of our defiled maidens and emasculated sons. And then we drew our last on the enemies sword. And whispered with conviction: ‘Ozoemena! ozoemena!’ We thought that the nightmares were over and we’d been reborn to live free forever, in this new land of the rising sun.

Until the harmattan of 2012, when they arose again. This time they came, not under the guise of uniforms, fighting an ambiguous war. No, they came for total destruction of everything that gave light and learning. They came in new colours as ‘BokoHaramites’ and we sat and watched helplessly, cowardly and hopelessly, as the cycle of pain began all over again!

Now in ’13, we weep again for the loss of innocence. Only this time, the tears are a sham, because we feel nothing, our hearts are numb as we feed the spirits of consumerism and mask the reality around us. From East to West, North to South, we have become the monsters we flee from and fight against. All around us visions of heads and limbs and eyes, severed and plucked from neighbours and friends and kinsmen.

And now again in 2014, on the eve of the centenary celebrations of a journey which started in 1914. The BokoHaramites strike yet again, and re-open our unhealed, jagged pain.

This time, they struck at the innocent souls of children who slept innocently, in an institution built to propagate the spirit of unity.

A lost people, their clueless rulers and teams of sycophants, guzzle the champagne of young blood and feast on the souls of their unborn heroes.

And collectively, as a people, we sit, helpless on the sidelines, our ‘religious leaders’ making laws that propagate hate, yet refusing to fight for freedom, truth, life and love.

We fly around in private jets and designer gears, unsuccessfully trying to mask our deep-rooted, hidden fears. For we know deep down, that it affects us all-the rich and the poor, whether we find ourselves at home or in the diaspora.

We know that one day soon, these cowardly soldiers of hate and ignorance, will appear at our doors and unleash their horrific, crazy and gruesome dance.

In broad daylight, we fire on, preaching and spreading this gospel of apathy, at home and even across many a river and mountain. To the streets in Britain, to the Queen’s court and into her gate. And it comes full circle, the forced union of 1914, this sham of a marriage that continues to plague its off-springs. Cutting short their lives, ripping apart their hopes and dreams.

Everyone is affected. We are all infected with the poison of this insidious evil and violence. We rise against one another, kith against kin. In an orgy of kidnapping, greed and senseless killings. We have become a people who burn our children to death. We watch the show of shame in broad daylight, without breaking a sweat. Openly, in the giant coliseum of our streets, even recording it for posterity.

We pray on the mountain of deceit and whisper a faint-hearted ‘Ozoemena!’ As we all take our cue, siddon dey look  cluelessly or pray for ourselves and dear brother Jona. Let’s act now in faith and not just wait around passively, for the next waves of another vicious cycle of our never-ending storms of pain and shame! Isn’t it time we re-visited and rebuilt this imperfect union?

© ‘Kego Onyido (2010-2014)

DAY 17: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

DreamQuestions of the Day: What is your vision for your life in terms of our relationship with your God, family, work or career and community? What legacy do you wish to leave behind? How do you want your loved ones to remember you?

Do you have clarity on who you wish to be at the end of your journey? Do you realize that you have the power to live and create the memories you wish to look back on in the future right now in the present?

WWN Reflection DAY 17: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

It is important to have big and clear goals for our lives. Once we are clear on our end goal(s), it is easier to reverse engineer our lives and fill in the details. Sometimes we run the risk of living a purposeless existence, all because we failed to have a clear vision for the future.

And suddenly, our days become years and soon enough decades go by and we are left with all the should have, could have, would have….A life filled with regrets instead of a life of wonderful memories, worth celebrating. “Until you have a plan for your life, it is difficult to plan for your day.” ~Tony Robbins~

Live and act inspite of the fears you face everyday. The regrets in life are rarely based on the action steps we took, rather the deeper regrets are often over the things we failed to do. When we take action, we are able to course-correct because we have the gift of learning from the experience(s). Focus on each day and the simple steps that must be taken in the direction of your dreams. Remember, if it does not add to your purpose, then it definitely detracts and distracts from it.

“People who FAIL in life tend to focus on the pain/discomfort that they will have to go through to get to their goals; people who SUCCEED focus solely on what and how it will feel like in the end, when they’ve achieved their goals.” ~Anthony Robbins~

As you start this new week, here are some simple reflections to dwell on. Surprise yourself and put them into practice, and pay attention to the results in your life. Sometimes, it is the little things that make the big difference. They are the ‘extra’ little things that move you from ordinary to extra-ordinary. The small things collectively, make a BIG difference!

1. Be present and show up fully in your life, community, work and business. Show up on time in life, work, play and business;

2. Always seek new ways to add value, always go beyond what is expected and rise above the norm;

3. Know your own worth and value, place a premium on yourself and others;

4. Respect the concept of time, become more aware of how well you use it, or how badly you waste it;

5. Learn the art and science of positioning (i.e. meaningfully serving with authenticity and viewing sales as an exchange of value between parties);

6. Learn to articulate the pains/needs of others, even better than they would. Give people what they want and sell them what they need OR give them what they need and sell them what they want;

7. Have an active database of everyone in your life, prioritize/classify your list and have a system to keep in touch and connect with family/clients/prospects-be there to celebrate their joys and stand by them during their challenging times;

8. Become a ‘solutions provider’ and not merely a ‘sales person’. People want solutions to their problems or challenges, make it about them and not about you, your products or services;

9. No matter how difficult your external environment is, become a ‘Realistic Optimist!’ Be patient, build it one brick at a time. Be hungry, go for your dreams. Be stubborn, fight for your dreams. Success follows certain patterns, take the time to study, understand and live these universal rules, laws and principles. Be disciplined, take consistent, focused action steps. Be flexible, do not be attached to an outcome or any particular way of getting to your path. Simply do your part and know that a critical mass of success WILL occur at some point;

10. Have FAITH. Faith is a decision to trust whole-heartedly and believe that it IS always possible. Faith needs no reason, data, excuses, plans, research, explanations…It simply is. Faith always says: ‘It is well!’ ‘There is a way!’ ‘It can and will be done!’ Decide to have FAITH in God, in humanity, and in love. Work hard and pray harder. If that fails, pray hard and work harder!

As you begin your new week, really take a moment to reflect on what you wish to manifest. Focus on exactly what you want and not on the ‘problems’ (what you do NOT want!) What if your problem is not your problem? What if your problem is simply just a problem? Think about it. Quit taking things so personal, begin to let PROBLEMS/PAINS go when they’ve served their purpose. Challenges occur to make you grow in wisdom, skill set and resilience!

Stop telling stories of a past pain that is already completed, over and done with, simply to re-create your pain. Learn from the experience and choose to let it go. Tell empowering stories and decide to move forward. Time does heal, how could it not? Allow time to do its work of healing. Be patient, it is a gradual process. Healing is inevitable, we alone hold ourselves back, consciously or unconsciously.

Who are you without the burden of that pain you’re carrying around? Become that person who is empowered, wiser and stronger because of the pain and not the person who is diminished or reduced by it. Do not waste your pain. Channel your pain, with passion, into a purposeful path. Everything that happens to us is merely to gift us with more awareness of who we are and a deeper understanding of others.

You have the power and ability to create your own unique flow. Be certain and know, therefore, that you always have a choice to learn and grow or to remain exactly where you are, knowing only what you know now and continuing your drama of pain and your dance of blaming and complaining. Your choice, your call!

We have the power to re-frame and reinterpret the events in our world. The event are merely events, they are neutral. We give them energy and juice it up. Use that to your advantage. Give it the energy that serves your own purpose. Create your own unique flow. It is your God-given gift! Choose to co-create beauty, joy, value, service, fun…do it all within a master-frame of LOVE!”

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc.

30 minutes a day, reflect, meditate and pray!

Dear, dear friends When Life knocks you down Whole Woman Network

As the day begins and as it ends

For only 30 minutes each day

Imagine if you may

That you were one with the light within

And you stopped doing and started being

In being, imagine that you were all-knowing and all-seeing

That you could create everything out of nothing

And indeed the universe was yours in that sacred moment

Take this time for yourself and re-connect with you for a while

And see the landscapes of life suddenly look different by a long mile

Would you step out in courage and sing the songs in your heart or be silent?

Would you create empowering thoughts in your mind or snuff them of life?

Would you continue your patterns of pain, anger, fear and strife?

As you continue to doubt your power and think up excuses and reasons

Excuses of why you are not good enough and these are the wrong seasons

Today, take thirty minutes to reflect, meditate, pray and let your spirit soar and fly

And with an eagle’s wisdom begin to discern the truth from the lie

As you discard the fallacy of your unworthiness, and embrace your magnificence

Begin to bask in your light and beam out your true essence

Will you let the gift of time simply, slowly, sadly, pass you by

As you selfishly and fearfully hold on to your talents and big ‘WHY?’

Will you choose to take action in the midst of your fears and stand tall?

On the grave of those buried, limiting beliefs that crippled you to fall?

Dear, dear friends Faith

As the day begins and as it ends

For only 30 minutes each day

Imagine if you may

That you are co-heirs and co-creators

Of a kingdom built upon unconditional love

Imagine you had the wisdom of an eagle and the peace of a dove

And as you imagine you must know now

That the thought ‘impossible’ is a lie, and leads to endless cycles of ‘Fight-Flight’

Be certain now that for every dream you dream, be it in the day or at night

The question you must always ask is ‘How?’

How can it be done? How can you excel and pull through?

You must get off the fence and always take action, empowered action!

As you fulfil and honour your inner calling and passion

So dear, dear friends, for only 30 minutes a day,

Reflect, meditate and PRAY sitting, standing or on your knee

Magic and miracles happen if you let them be

So pray, work hard and simply flow with it, if you may,

This eternal spring of love and light within you

For the world awaits, as you manifest your light for all to see!


© ‘Kego Onyido