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My Prayers For You in the New Year!

today“Begin today to BE who you’ve always wanted to BECOME, for tomorrow, you would wish you had started yesterday and then again, tomorrow may well be too late.” ~Anonymous~

My prayers for you this year: Make this be the year you take personal RESPONSIBILITY for BOTH your awesomeness and your crap! (What is your ability to RESPOND to whatever life throws at you?) If it’s showing up in your physical universe, you created it, (consciously or Unconsciously). You are a CO-CREATOR with God, OWN it! Make 2014 your year of boldness and courage.

Become more RESILIENT, you’re made of stronger and sterner stuff! Stop blaming, justifying, excusing the sh*t in your life by pointing fingers outwards. Everything is possible, period! Enter the co-creative zone and ask yourself: How can it be done? Who and what are the resources I have? Reach out and form synergies with others. Stop judging, and start accepting and empathizing. It’s life, we’re all basically going through the same challenges, they just show up in different colours.

You are a reflection of everyone around you, learn from others. Embrace your humanity and celebrate your divinity. It’s all YOU! Look inwards, you have the power to reset your internal thermostat in all areas of your life: energetic, social, physical, spiritual, mental, emotional, financial…

Stop playing the compare and contrast game. That is the basis of ALL unhappiness. Your name is not ‘EVERYBODY’. You are a unique BEING, with unique values and beliefs. You are a beloved child of a loving God, live it! You have the power of choice, exercise it and be accountable for your actions and (in)actions!

Nobody’s doing anything to you that you did not first do to yourself. Build a bullet-proof, rock solid relationship with your CREATOR. Get out of the prison of the generation that accepts: “My PASTOR SAID”, “MY ENEMIES ARE AFTER ME”, “I HAVE SUFFERED”, “THE LEADERS ARE TO BLAME”,…Become more involved in your own life.
Pleeease, a KING died for YOU! Not a hair on your head can be touched without his express permission. Why choose to be part of a generation that craves entitlement without responsibility? Take ownership of your life, it’s yours after all!

Stop perpetuating the myth of old, healed pains of the past as if they were still real. Tell yourself EMPOWERING stories and move on. Yes, decide to move on. Let TIME do what it does best: heal. Ask yourself who benefits when you refuse to own your magnificence? Who does it serve when you choose to stay stuck and refuse to be yourself? What are you permitting and settling for as ‘truth’ in your life? What are you accepting into your life? You get to DECIDE! Be kind and gentle, yet have healthy boundaries. Claim Wisdom as a best friend. Surrender to her, she’ll guide you well. Embrace the gift of eloquent SILENCE. It is the zone of beautiful creativity and growth!

Know yourself! You are always changing and growing and evolving. Re-introduce your new self to you and others around. Fall deeply, passionately, totally in love with you! Until you really know, accept, forgive and love yourself, no one else can! Understand and embrace your passions, pains, weaknesses and strength. The mystery to love is that it is complete in itself. It exists, even without an object of affection. Know this kind of love in your lifetime, it’s already yours.

We are drawn to others not only because of shared passions but also because of our unhealed pains. If you are in someone’s life or vice versa, then there’s a unique purpose and reason why. No one’s role is to complete you, stop setting people up for a fall! We are all here to heal, create, share, love and bear witness to one another, of HIS amazing grace. Know when to hold on and fight for love, also know when to let go and set love free. Celebrate finding love and celebrate also getting your heart-broken. For a heart that loves is a heart that is full and a heart that is broken, is a heart that is open, ready, willing and strong enough to love fully and completely.

Move over from the ‘woe me’ quadrant, into the ‘WOW ME’ zone. Fill your cup so that you can better serve others around you. It is SELFISH to keep playing the role of ‘VICTIM’ when you know deep down that you’ve been made VICTORIOUS by God’s abiding grace. And make every moment of your time in life, (even on social media), well worth it. If you’re not growing, you’re dying. Choose LIFE, and live passionately, purposefully and powerfully. DECIDE and Choose to have a wonderful New Year!

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Note: For Strategy Sessions, we’re now fully booked for the Months of January and February, the next available date for appointments is from March 10th, 2014.

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women (and men), regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc

 

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As 2014 approaches, here are 14 habits you may consider letting go of …

HabitSome habits you may have to say goodbye to as the new year approaches:

1. A lack of curiosity about life, people, things, places, events. You have to be interested to be interesting. You have a pulse, use it!

2. Complaining, blaming and justifying everything and everyone. Begin to take personal responsibility and focus on the results you want. Stop believing the fallacy that it can not be done and instead ask yourself: ‘how do I get it done?’

3. Lack of F.U.N and laughter in your life. You have challenges, we get it. So does everyone else on the planet. Why not have fun along the way as you try to figure out this maze called life? Who benefits from a colourless, drab, and sad life?

4. Lack of adequate sleep and rest. You can attempt to play games with Mother nature but expect to lose, period!

bad habits5. Eating to feed your pain rather than to nourish your body. There’s a huge difference between the two.

6. Not asking for help and trying to do and control everything yourself. You are not indispensable. Stop playing God. You are definitely not God, (come to think of it, even God has angels as helpers) and he uses mere mortals in his co-creative job.

7. INGRATITUDE! Be thankful for everything and everyone. Nothing is too insignificant. It all matters.

8. Living on auto-pilot without pause for personal silence and reflection. Your life-train will crash if it does not stop and undergo periodic maintenance!

Replace9. Saying yes to just about everything out of fear, insecurity or a need to control others. Say yes or no from a place of power.

10. Lying to yourself. This is the worst lie you can ever tell. Sometimes, you may have to lie to others out of love or protection. Do NOT EVER LIE TO YOURSELF because you still get to live with yourself. Stop such needless torture!

11. Stop criticizing your body. Love it, accept it, celebrate it. It’s all you’ve got. To get a brand new one, you basically have to die, okay? For now, this present body is your only home, so treat it with respect, clean it up and enjoy it. (Unless, of  course, you’ve mastered the art of magically transporting yourself to a different body! 🙂 )

jim Rohn12. STOP Texting and Driving, at the same time. Whatever it is, it can wait! Nothing is that urgent. Better be late than to be ‘the late’. Not yet convinced? Spend a full day watching all the YouTube ads by MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving).

13. Are you still telling ‘woe me’ stories over and over again? Everyone is dealing with their own crap, don’t add to the crap mountain! 2014 is a good time to stop this habit.

past callsStill take time to feel all your feelings and vent when warranted, but do not become a permanent venting machine. That sh*t gets old really fast. Learn from your past, even take short visits there. However, do not take up permanent residency in the past! Tell ‘WOW ME’ stories, they’re more fun for you and everyone around you. Trust me!

14. Stop sitting on the fence. You will hurt yourself. There’s no life in the ‘grey zone’, make a choice, any choice and course-correct as you go along.

Life is not meant to be perfect. It is meant to be lived. Go out and live, now! 2014 awaits.

UnlearnLet go of the unhealthy habits, (especially if they no longer add value or serve your purpose), and replace them with healthier and cooler ones.

Learning is a continuos journey, take it one small step at a time. If you can learn, you can always unlearn. It’s a choice. DECIDE now.

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women (and men), regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc

10 Little Things that can make a Big Difference in your life in 2014!

Ghandi“Personal transformation can and does have global effects. As we grow, so does the world, for the world is us. The revolution that will save the world is ultimately a personal one.” ~Marianne Williamson~

“As we prepare for a new year, take the time to fall madly, deeply and passionately in love, with yourself! Re-discover yourself as you truly are: a beloved child of a loving God.

This is the season of Re-Birth and New Beginnings. A KING was born to and for you! You are that special and wonderful! OWN your magnificence. NEVER let the outside world strip you of your essence and dignity.

YOU are a precious gift to the world. Live passionately, purposefully and powerfully. Dream wonderful dreams and create beautiful memories…” ~#UNLockingYourHeArtofLeadership~

Just a few more days to go and the New Year will unveil itself! What are your goals, dreams and aspirations for 2014? Forget about mere ‘resolutions’, begin to make ‘Sacred Contracts’ with yourself. What do you desire to achieve by December 31st, 2014? WHO do you want to be by the end of next year? Begin to BE that person from this moment.

Napoleon HillStarting NOW, speak it as if it were already done. Step out in FAITH and walk your talk. God opens up the universe with the right people and opportunities once we KNOCK and ASK, and actually stand in the firm expectation that the door will be OPENED and you will RECEIVE. Surrender and Allow yourself to soar!

Here are some ‘little’ things that if you imbibe and practice, will transform your life in 2014:

1. Accept that you can never please everyone, stop trying to, period! Practice the habit of saying an empowered ‘YES’ or ‘NO’ when appropriate (rather than acquiescing to everything from everyone based on your own fears of insecurity, judgement, unworthiness or societal pressure). Build up healthy boundaries, you will enjoy your life better that way.

2. Stop comparing yourself to others because all you can ever be is you, duh? The compare and contrast game  drains you and leaves you bereft of the creative energy to be the best you possible!

3. Let go of the past, stop worrying about the future and live the heck out of the present moment! You can only do so much, choose the path you have the most control over. Choose to live in the NOW!

4. Become more empathetic. Stop judging people and start focusing more on being the best you, every.single.day! Decide to love more. Pay more attention to the people already in your life. Sometimes, we seek more people and opportunities outside our existing circles. However, we may get more value by looking inwards and consolidating the existing relationships we already have.

5. Learn to live within your means. Anything else, is a recipe for disaster.

6. Have a clear vision for your year, break down your plans into quarterly, monthly and weekly goals. A day before, set your intentions for the next day and pay attention to your intentions. Become more congruent. Let your actions align with who and what you want for yourself.

7. Quit lying to yourself. There are no excuses or reason for your failure(s). YOU are the only person standing between your purpose and destiny. In 2014, tell yourself only empowering stories. Begin to see your ‘failures’ as feedback for how and where to course-correct in your life’s journey. Be gentle and forgiving of yourself and your so-called ‘mistakes’. Surrender and accept your humanity. And also arise and embrace your divinity. You are a sacred mystery, your life may not always make sense, stop trying to figure it all out, and just focus on living it well.

8. Join a group of like-minded people and volunteer your time, expertise, money, energy, towards a worthwhile cause. Make a difference, no matter how small. Surround yourself with people who see and bring out the light in you. You are a being of light and love, decide to plant yourself in garden(s) that will nurture your growth. Do more of what you love and obliterate the negativity in your life.

9. Take better care of your body, it is your sacred vessel for being. Have a fun activity or sport(s) you engage in regularly. Practice the 80-20 rule of good nutrition; eat a minimum of 80% healthy foods and indulge in a maximum of 20% of …(fill in the blanks) 🙂

10. Carve out resources and dedicate them to your personal development, in all areas of your life (Health, Finances, Community, Leisure, Spirituality, Your Purpose/Passions, Mental/Emotional growth etc). If you’re not growing, you’re dying. You cannot do both simultaneously. Choose to grow, evolve and transform your life.

Whatever you do, do NOT sit on the sidelines. Get off the toxic fence and LIVE! Life is waiting for you, take that next step, and amaze even yourself!

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Impossible journeyTake the next steps. Interested in booking a 30-minutes complimentary Strategy Session? Need more information on WWN’s individual/group/organizational training, coaching and speaking engagements, or our leadership certification programs, contact us via email: info@wholewomannetwork.com or call +1.905.709.5866

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women (and men), regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Read her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

DAY 30: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

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WWN Reflection DAY 30: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

This blog post is the second part of a 2-part series on the key highlights from ‘A Night of Hope’, an inspirational  live event of worship and celebration, by bestselling author and transformational pastor, Joel Osteen.

(Refer to the first part by clicking this link: Day 29: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!)

Some of the highlights of Joel and Victoria’s messages of hope, transformation and purpose (PART II):

1. Our first mission field is to our families. Everything flows from the family. Value your relationships. Agree to disagree respectfully. Everyone has different backgrounds, education, upbringing, belief system etc., so learn to accept and respect one another. Pick your fights. Know what’s worth fighting about and what to let go. Sometimes you have to keep your mouth shut and sow that act of compromise as a seed.

2. In life you’ve got to stand up and fight for what you want. Live a life of FAITH in action and focus on touching one life at a time. Everyday is an opportunity to do something different and better!

self talk3. In pursuing your purpose in life, it is not how you start, it is how you finish. Take a step and tell yourself empowering stories. If the inner conversation is not taking you towards your goals, have a different conversation with yourself and make it louder!

4. Are you going to go forward or will you stay stuck staring behind through your rear view mirror? Let go and forgive all of yesterday’s pain. God made you to be free of excess baggage. His promise is to always make your burden lighter.

5. In life there are two types of bags that you get to carry around. It is either one or the other. The first is the special positive bag filled with joy, thanksgiving and service etc.

While the other is the negative bag. Are you dragging around all the negative baggage from your past with you in the present? Which bag do you carry: Disappointment bag, Hurt bag, Regret bag, Anger bag, Bitter bag? Isn’t time to let go and let GOD?

someone who adds little6. Manage your happiness by managing your expectation, your sense of happiness is a choice. You have control over the type of relationships you wish to co-create.

Only what you allow happens. Love yourself enough to honour God in you by giving and asking for the best. treat yourself with respect.

7. Speak words of faith and affirmation to any difficult situation and then take action in line with your words.

“The tragedy of life is not death but what we let die inside of us while we live.” ~Norman Cousins~

Disclaimer: The highlights above are based on personal notes and understanding of Joel and Victoria Osteen’s messages. No intentional omission or error is intended. I hope something on this list resonates and plants an active seed in your life.

Have an abundantly blessed day and an awesome life ahead!

-Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA

Poet | Master-Certified Leadership Coach-Trainer -Consultant|

~Take empowered ACTION towards a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU!~

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FB PIC High RezThe preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, empowered, complete, whole creatures and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

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DAY 17: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

DreamQuestions of the Day: What is your vision for your life in terms of our relationship with your God, family, work or career and community? What legacy do you wish to leave behind? How do you want your loved ones to remember you?

Do you have clarity on who you wish to be at the end of your journey? Do you realize that you have the power to live and create the memories you wish to look back on in the future right now in the present?

WWN Reflection DAY 17: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

It is important to have big and clear goals for our lives. Once we are clear on our end goal(s), it is easier to reverse engineer our lives and fill in the details. Sometimes we run the risk of living a purposeless existence, all because we failed to have a clear vision for the future.

And suddenly, our days become years and soon enough decades go by and we are left with all the should have, could have, would have….A life filled with regrets instead of a life of wonderful memories, worth celebrating. “Until you have a plan for your life, it is difficult to plan for your day.” ~Tony Robbins~

Live and act inspite of the fears you face everyday. The regrets in life are rarely based on the action steps we took, rather the deeper regrets are often over the things we failed to do. When we take action, we are able to course-correct because we have the gift of learning from the experience(s). Focus on each day and the simple steps that must be taken in the direction of your dreams. Remember, if it does not add to your purpose, then it definitely detracts and distracts from it.

“People who FAIL in life tend to focus on the pain/discomfort that they will have to go through to get to their goals; people who SUCCEED focus solely on what and how it will feel like in the end, when they’ve achieved their goals.” ~Anthony Robbins~

As you start this new week, here are some simple reflections to dwell on. Surprise yourself and put them into practice, and pay attention to the results in your life. Sometimes, it is the little things that make the big difference. They are the ‘extra’ little things that move you from ordinary to extra-ordinary. The small things collectively, make a BIG difference!

1. Be present and show up fully in your life, community, work and business. Show up on time in life, work, play and business;

2. Always seek new ways to add value, always go beyond what is expected and rise above the norm;

3. Know your own worth and value, place a premium on yourself and others;

4. Respect the concept of time, become more aware of how well you use it, or how badly you waste it;

5. Learn the art and science of positioning (i.e. meaningfully serving with authenticity and viewing sales as an exchange of value between parties);

6. Learn to articulate the pains/needs of others, even better than they would. Give people what they want and sell them what they need OR give them what they need and sell them what they want;

7. Have an active database of everyone in your life, prioritize/classify your list and have a system to keep in touch and connect with family/clients/prospects-be there to celebrate their joys and stand by them during their challenging times;

8. Become a ‘solutions provider’ and not merely a ‘sales person’. People want solutions to their problems or challenges, make it about them and not about you, your products or services;

9. No matter how difficult your external environment is, become a ‘Realistic Optimist!’ Be patient, build it one brick at a time. Be hungry, go for your dreams. Be stubborn, fight for your dreams. Success follows certain patterns, take the time to study, understand and live these universal rules, laws and principles. Be disciplined, take consistent, focused action steps. Be flexible, do not be attached to an outcome or any particular way of getting to your path. Simply do your part and know that a critical mass of success WILL occur at some point;

10. Have FAITH. Faith is a decision to trust whole-heartedly and believe that it IS always possible. Faith needs no reason, data, excuses, plans, research, explanations…It simply is. Faith always says: ‘It is well!’ ‘There is a way!’ ‘It can and will be done!’ Decide to have FAITH in God, in humanity, and in love. Work hard and pray harder. If that fails, pray hard and work harder!

As you begin your new week, really take a moment to reflect on what you wish to manifest. Focus on exactly what you want and not on the ‘problems’ (what you do NOT want!) What if your problem is not your problem? What if your problem is simply just a problem? Think about it. Quit taking things so personal, begin to let PROBLEMS/PAINS go when they’ve served their purpose. Challenges occur to make you grow in wisdom, skill set and resilience!

Stop telling stories of a past pain that is already completed, over and done with, simply to re-create your pain. Learn from the experience and choose to let it go. Tell empowering stories and decide to move forward. Time does heal, how could it not? Allow time to do its work of healing. Be patient, it is a gradual process. Healing is inevitable, we alone hold ourselves back, consciously or unconsciously.

Who are you without the burden of that pain you’re carrying around? Become that person who is empowered, wiser and stronger because of the pain and not the person who is diminished or reduced by it. Do not waste your pain. Channel your pain, with passion, into a purposeful path. Everything that happens to us is merely to gift us with more awareness of who we are and a deeper understanding of others.

You have the power and ability to create your own unique flow. Be certain and know, therefore, that you always have a choice to learn and grow or to remain exactly where you are, knowing only what you know now and continuing your drama of pain and your dance of blaming and complaining. Your choice, your call!

We have the power to re-frame and reinterpret the events in our world. The event are merely events, they are neutral. We give them energy and juice it up. Use that to your advantage. Give it the energy that serves your own purpose. Create your own unique flow. It is your God-given gift! Choose to co-create beauty, joy, value, service, fun…do it all within a master-frame of LOVE!”

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc.

DAY 13: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs at Whole Woman Network, are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the unique gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny. Own it! Be grateful

WWN Reflection DAY 13: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Today, consciously reflect on what and who gives you the most joy and enables you grow the most. They may not necessarily be people you ‘like’, however, they are definitely people that ‘push your hot buttons!’

Life is neutral. Anything and anyone that charges up your energy is there for an important reason. There are no coincidences. Life is all about synchronism. They are in your life to force you to really pay attention, look inwards and grow. These are the people and activities you should focus ALL your energies on. Everything and everyone else may as well be a WASTE of your precious time!

Develop a deep awareness and gratitude for everyone and everything that’s been a source of joy and growth in your life. Take the time to call, visit and text these people and let them know how you love and appreciate them. You will be amazed at the results, both for you and for them.

LOVE and appreciation always heal! Even if the people live in the same household as you, speak with them, or even better still, send them a text or even write a letter to them appreciating them! Often it is easier to show love, appreciation and curtesy to strangers and not to our closest family and friends.

Positive words and thoughts are POWERFUL. They heal  and empower both the thinker and the receiver, the speaker and the listener, the writer and the reader! Write a ‘private’ letter to your loved ones and those who may have done you wrong (and also those whom you’ve wronged) and explicitly, express every single thing they did that hurt you and caused you pain. The more specific you are in your description of pain, the more it loses its power.Possibilities

Describe all the feelings you felt and still feel: betrayed, despair, anger, jealousy, envy, guilt, shame, unworthy, unlovable, stuck, sadness, fear, hurt…take the time to read this letter out loud in private, then BURN all the letters as you say a prayer of forgiveness for yourself and for others.

Forgiveness is a DECISION based on faith. Try to go back in time to those events and instead of focusing on the negative feelings, choose to focus on the learning. You will find that as soon as you decide to let go, everything crumbles and the ‘juice’ of the pain disappears.

We hold ourselves captive when we choose not to let go and forgive. Forgiveness creates a new future and re-frames the past with respect to the appropriate content and context.

Remember, external things may happen to you but only YOU control your response and interpretation of those things. You can choose to be reactive or proactive, the former dis-empowers and leaves you drained, while the latter empowers and energizes. Commit and continue with this exercise. You need at least 3 days to release and let go of your limiting beliefs, painful experiences and forgive those who did you wrong (and vice versa). Remember that it is easier to remember those that did us wrong but please reflect deeply and honestly on the role(s) you played.

ForgivenessThe ‘victim mentality’ is a selfish place to be. That is, when you sit passively and ALLOW people to do ‘bad’ things to you , treat you unfairly and/or disrespect you. Sometimes our fear of rejection, and of being perceived as ‘not being a nice person’, keep us in a quasi-state of bondage! The more we love, forgive and respect ourselves, people around us begin to mirror our behaviour. You teach people how to treat you, period!

You can be gentle, kind and yet firm in expressing what you do or do not want.
-Setting healthy boundaries will help us in our faith with God and in our relationships with others. Boundaries make life choices so much more easier because they act as fence protecting you from others and yourself. When you are clear on your principles and consistently walk your talk, life become more effortless and free of drama.

With each incident and person you choose to let go, I hope you begin to feel more joyous, peaceful, empathetic and also blessed with a wonderful sense of freedom to accomplish greater things. Often, only WE hold ourselves back from personal and professional success. Today is the day to DECIDE to break-through your self-imposed socio-emotional, financial, mental and spiritual glass ceilings. Fear less, hope more

-(NOTE: When done with integrity, this can be a very difficult, yet soul-searching exercise, and  at the end you WILL feel a deep sense of physical, spiritual and emotional release and peace!)

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc.

DAY 12: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Enjoy the little thingsQuestions of the day: Are you going through the motions in life? Is life a series of dreary, weary, bleak chores and activities? Has the fun been sucked out of your life? Do you spend more time in the ‘complain-blame-pain’ zone and little or no time in the joyous/thankful/loving zone?

Do you see/hear/feel the world around you closing in? Do you find yourself often very negative about people, events and things around you? Are you constantly taking things personal? Do you feel stuck, stressed out and burnt out? You may just be lacking some good old-fashioned F.U.N!

Perhaps, it is time to STOP! Take a pause from the game of life, reflect and reestablish a new attitude and approach to life and begin to live more meaningfully, passionately and purposefully. Of what use is life if you are not living it fully?  You are not here to get by, you were created to soar! In the words of Maya Angelou: ‘Your purpose in life is not to merely survive, rather it is to thrive! 

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs at Whole Woman Network, are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the unique gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny. Own it!Rule

DAY 12: WWN Reflection-November 12, 2013

Today’s focus is on FUN! How to bring back love, life and laughter into your life. The keys to having fun in life are Passion, Presence and Purpose.

You have to take time to do what you love. Our passions re-charge us. They help us relax, refresh, rejuvenate our senses and bring clarity to what’s really important in our lives. You must be present and have a deep sense of awareness to really experience the fullness of life. Always take a moment to bask in the glory of being alive. Celebrate the fact that you’re here, still standing!Getting Old

Listen more, feel all your feelings, scream out loud, pause to take deep breaths, listen to music, dance, read a good book, watch a movie, take a walk, have a makeover, do some gardening, go racing, biking, go shopping, engage in fun sporting activities, hang out with friends, sing out loud, spend time with family, meditate or go for a personal/group retreat, compile a bucket list and take action on it, take a trip, enjoy the beauty of silence, explore your world, do something or do nothing at all and simply take a fun rest!

Remember, no matter how much you love a good job, it can never love you back! And, no matter how well you run the rat race, even if you win it, you are still a rat. Sometimes we are so busy chasing a living that we forget to actually live. So have fun and do the things you love because you only get one chance to live the life you want. Reach out and take it!

Be yourself and enjoy being yourself. Fun is the birthplace of creativity, originality and success. It allows you to persevere even when the path seems blocked. “People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.” ~Dale Carnegie~

Are you Struggling to discover what you really love doing? Not sure of what your purpose is? Not certain about what is fun anymore? Pay attention to the PATTERNS and PASSIONS and PAINS in your LIFE. What makes you alive, what gives you incredible joy, what makes time disappear, what would you do with love and gratitude even if you were need paid for it? Become more present, for as you allow your life to unfold naturally, so also does your passion and purpose manifest.

Time fliesWe are here to Heal, Create, Share and above all, to LOVE and ENJOY our experiences! Your passion and purpose are woven into your every hour, so become present always, ‘cos every single moment counts. Become more aware of what gives you joy and also what causes you pain.

As you embrace the courage to heal your pain, you naturally begin to create new and amazing experiences ad passions, and then you share this awakened real YOU with your world, in a spirit of unconditional love. Your passion is hidden in your pain and they both combine to mask your purpose.

Enjoy the wonder of life as you focus on that which makes your spirit sing, your heart bleed and your soul stir…it is a fire that can never burn out, it is a hunger that can never be quenched, it is a story that must be told. Your purpose is eternal, it lives on beyond you. You are a sacred vessel of magnificence! Live passionately, powerfully and purposefully. Have fun doing it!

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc.