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DAY 11: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

ADVERSITYQuestions of the Day: Let’s revisit the twin concepts of Purpose and Time Management. Are you purposeful and efficient in your use of time? How do you monetize your time, skills, energy and network? How are you spending your time when you are with family, at work or at play?

At the end of each day, can you account for how you spent your day? The #1 key to success is the ability to leverage time. Time management is really self-management. Are you leading yourself to excellence? Is your use of time aligned with your vision for your life?

For instance, do you have a clear understanding of the purpose for your activities e.g If you spend a lot of hours on social media (Facebook, Twitter, YouTube etc), do you have a mission for doing so?

Is it to network with friends/family (social interaction), to sell products/services, build up a loyal following/list for a future venture, to grow professionally, for personal development, to find Joint Venture partners to collaborate with, to mentor others or be a mentee, to brand yourself ? etc

Dream itNone of these reasons is right or wrong but it is important that you identify and understand your purpose. Without purpose, our use of time becomes rudderless! Until you can account for and become responsible for your time, success may seem elusive.

WWN Reflection DAY 11: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Today’s focus is about living a life of purpose. In particular, the urgency of making a decision to actually begin to live your life on purpose, with purpose. Are you living your best life right now? If not, what exactly is holding you back? Are there important people you want to appreciate or goals you wish to achieve? What are you waiting for? Look around you, do you realize that people are dying daily? We’re all here by providence, by the sheer grace of God, our creator. Be very careful how you spend your time, you are always responsible for your tongue, action, choices and use of TIME. 

Whatever you CHOOSE to focus on will expand! In whatever situation you find yourself, good or bad, happy or sad, triumphant or challenging, choose to focus on the learning, focus on how you can teach others with your experience, focus on how you can reach out and add value through that experience! This singular focus is what directs your use or (mis)use of time! In the words of Tony Robbins; “You cannot have a plan for your day if you do not have a plan for your life.”

A year ago, I attended the Laptop Millionaire summit facilitated by the dynamic duo of Steven Essa and Mark Anastasi. They shared a lot of insightful ideas and marketing strategies, specifically about using social media to catapult your business to unparalleled success.  However, one of my most memorable experiences at their weekend training was an exercise they shared with the audience about the sacredness of time and purpose in life.

lack of timeDescription of the simple yet insightful exercise: 

1. Think of what the life-span is for the average woman or man in your country of residence. Or simply choose an age that you would wish to live up to. For example, pick an age such as 80 years.

2.Then draw boxes for each decade. So for 80, draw 8 boxes.

3. Are there goals you hope to achieve when you’re between 70 and 80? Is this when you want to dress well, earn money, travel, impact the world, be there for your family, children or spouses? In most cases, this is the decade people, especially women want to simply enjoy their grand/great-grand children. And even if you wanted to be adventurous, the reality is that you may be faced with the challenge of age, lack of energy or perhaps health issues such as Arthritis, osteoporosis, dementia etc. may not permit it.

4. So on those 8 boxes cross out the last box. You now have 7 boxes left.

5. Cross out the boxes that correspond to your age now. So if you’re 30, cross out 3 boxes, if you’re 40 cross out 4 boxes.

6. Now look at the boxes remaining; those are the decades you have left to really LIVE, enjoy and make an impact!

7. Fill in each of those decades with 10 key goals you wish to accomplish. Make your goals really BIG. It doesn’t cost you a thing to dream, so go for it!

Life beginsThe above exercise is based on the assumption that we all live to the ripe old age of 80, this may not hold true for all of us! You have a choice to fill up those boxes with the life you desire, you are a co-creator your destiny! Everyday we are gifted with life is a brand new opportunity to give it our best shot. Each day we are alive is another day closer to death. This is the reality we sometimes refuse to grasp and address.

The moral of this exercise is to provide a compelling push for you to get off the toxic fence and to encourage you to get out there and live your absolute best life NOW because now is really all you’re guaranteed and whether you do or not, life will still happen! It is a choice,  your choice! Begin to become more aware of every second that you’ve been given in life and make sure you’re adding value, sowing seeds of joy, progress and love. Get out of your comfort zone, why settle for normal or comfortable? You have the ability to be amazing and magnificent. It is all a matter of CHOICE!

Have fun filling out your life’s boxes!

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Juliet Ume in polka dot topThe preceding is a guest post from Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director of Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, complete, whole and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to raise a new generation of  transformational leaders in Africa by engaging, educating and empowering women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

Living Lives of Purpose, Passion & Power with Julia ‘Butterfly’ Hill!

Julia Butterfly Hill at the Harmony Festival

Julia Butterfly Hill at the Harmony Festival (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

There is an accepted belief that the people and events you surround yourself with ultimately shape the person you become. And so, a few weeks ago, some members of the Whole Woman Network attended a special event  hosted by the meet-up group, ‘Leading Lives of Purpose, Passion and Power’, featuring the award-winnning activist, writer and poet Julia Butterfly Hill.

It was a powerful gathering focused on exploring sacred solutions for activating the consciousness of oneness, creativity and social change. The theme for the event was on turning inspiration into action and leading lives of Purpose, Passion and Power!

This was an engaging, extraordinary and transformational event with unimaginably positive energy,  great music and stirring spoken word. And for those of you who were not able to make it, here are some nuggets of wisdom and life-changing ideas as espoused by Julia Hill at the event:

1. We have become a society built on ‘Addiction to consumption’. An addiction to consuming media, food, drugs, love etc To function optimally in this new, warped reality, we must build up healthy internal  coping mechanisms. Be careful not to be afflicted by the debilitating disease of consumerism.

2. In periods of pain and challenges, take the time to explore what lies at your core and what your true values are. Most often, we distract ourselves to take our minds away from our pain and so we learn nothing and repeat the cycle of unresolved pain all over. When we acknowledge, embrace and confront our pains, we deal with it in the present and then it has no power to hurt us in the future again. A lot of us still experience ancestral pains.

3. You should strive to use up everything you are and have, in the pursuit of what you are truly passionate about. Your purpose in life is to live your life on purpose.

4. Each of us is an amazing miracle of love and the greatest obstacles in our lives are all in our heads.

5. To transform your environment, you must first transform yourselves. And in order to transform yourself, you must first slay the dragon of fear that lies in your head.

6. Every issue, fear, pain and challenge we face is a symptom of a disease; the dis-ease of ‘Disconnect’ from God, the source and creator.  This disconnect then manifests itself as a disconnect from people’s pain and so we lash out in our pain rather than celebrate our common humanity and connectivity. We must first deal with the root of the disease.

7. Mother Nature, is frantic like all mothers get when their kids go way out of line. She is screaming at her her children are misbehaving. So she screams and barks to get our attention in the form of Tsunamis, Earthquakes, Floods, hurricanes etc

8. We must become wise in managing our passions and channeling it well while remain open to and/or respectful of opposing ideals because the danger is that the moment we become passionate we are one step away from being fundamentalists!

9. As we say ‘NO’ to something, lets also embody what ‘YES’ feels like. We must own both our humanity and our crap!

10. It is impossible for you NOT to make a difference because even science has shown that all choices are critical to the state of things and choices cannot exist in a vacuum. So know that with every single choice we make, we are  all co-creating our world because we are all connected.

11. Consciously make time and space for relationships that matter in your lives.

12. The world robs you by co-opting 2 things from you: i. Your Time and ii. Your Attention

13. Welcome that zone/place where something or someone breaks your heart open, for it is in that zone that something real  and meaningful happens.

14. The #1 trait of true wealth is a complete and utter sense of contentment and fulfillment. It is a freedom of the soul to enjoy the NOW.

15. Your enemy is that person on the inside that each of us all have to one day meet or we will be eaten from within.

16. Sometimes what ‘we know’ can get in the way of ‘what we need to know’.

17. Awareness is simply knowingly choosing what you place your energy and attention on. It means showing up and being present, being here!

18. Listen with your heart, Experience with your senses and act with your head. Focus on what breaks your heart open. Disengage from people, things, events and experiences that leave you drained, depleted and depressed.

19. Our right brains tell us a story (ancestor’s story), while your left brain allows you to go into a place of awareness; a shift into mindful spaciousness. When you are open and your heart is unshielded, you can experience true compassion. Compassion is the ability to sense into the pains of others without having to demand, distract or defend.

20. Look for ways to make your life very simple so that you may have time for the truly important stuff.

21. No matter how shut off or shut down people are, they are longing for meaningful connections and purpose.

22. Learn the practice of resetting your magnetic field to attract only the people and opportunities that are right for you. You cannot see in others what you don’t have in yourselves.

23. What is your symbolic tree? Not what you have been called to do but who and what you are called to be.

24. True love does not demand that we impress, neither does it leave us drained, depleted or depressed rather it allows us freedom to be creative, energetic and joyous!

25. Courage is having a heart that is open and engaged to take chances and embrace love, life and death regardless of the inherent fears.

26. In the face of a challenge, our animalistic brain reacts in 3 ways: flight, fight or freeze! These reactions are based on our experiences of past fears and pains. Take a mindful breath and then decide from the present.

27. Humor is an important coping skill. Be curious and have a deep, fascinating interest in life all around you.

28. We cannot control the world but we can control our experiences. Other people can take action but only YOU can control how you experience their action. It is always possible to solve conflicts once we let go of the ego and dissenting issues and choose to focus on our common humanity.

29. Stop playing the compare and contrast game! Who, Where and What you are is exactly as it should be and the best version of you is the best there is.

30. Become aware of how to grow yourself, when to gather your energy and when to stop. Know and distinguish between your source and your resources.  Understand your refuge; what eases down your whole body, calms you and re-energizes you. What is your best mode of worship? It maybe prayer, meditation, reading, dancing, listening, singing….

I fervently hope something on this list helps you, as you continue on your journey of leading a life of purpose, passion and power!

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Love, Light & Truth!

-Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido (www.julietkego.com)
Co-Founder & Executive Director, Whole WoMan Network



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Juliet Ume in polka dot topThe preceding post is from Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, an international Speaker, Poet, Master-Certified Leadership Coach-Trainer-Consultant and the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”. She is an avid Life Connoisseur, who simply loves the whole human experience ! She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower a new generation of Transformational, Ethical and Creative African Leaders. Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on her Facebook pages: WholeWoManNetwork & JulietKego.


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