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DAY 16: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

BeautifulQuestions of the day: Everyday you wake up, ask yourself these very simple questions-“How do I become the story I want told?”, “What must I do today to BE the person I’ve always dreamed of becoming?”, “How do I become the person who accomplishes my goals?”, “If I had only today, how will I live today to reflect my gratitude and appreciation for the gift and miracle of life?”, “How do I fulfil my purpose and serve my God and creator, myself, my family, colleagues, community, country, continent and planet?”

WWNetworkAfrica™ Reflection DAY 16: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Today’s focus is on key reflective posts that I’d shared on WWN’s Facebook page over the last few weeks. They engaged our members and led to interesting conversations on our forums and weekly conference training calls/webinars. I hope that by reflecting on them and taking action, your life is better elevated, enriched and empowered! These posts are all excerpts from my upcoming book: UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership. Enjoy!

1. “Your purpose in life is not to ‘GET’, your purpose is simply to ‘GIVE’ and share your God-given talents, abilities and essence. Your life should reflect an integrated ‘value-exchange’ with the world around you.

In the pursuit of your purpose, there will be pain, mistakes and storms, that’s merely life happening. It is in these oscillating patterns of highs and lows that your character is formed. Pay particular attention to your ‘lows’, if you allow it, phenomenal growth happens during these periods. Life is not meant to be perfect.

Life is meant to be LIVED! Bask in the sacredness, mystery and beauty of life. Pay attention to your PAINS and MISTAKES, they exist and happen to teach you something very important to your purpose. If you are willing, patient and courageous to own them, embrace them and solve them, WISDOM shows up at the other end.”

2. “The beauty with love is that every time you open your heart to love, you also take the risk of getting your heart-broken, and you may experience agonizing hurt, disappointment and pain in the process. Love takes courage, that ability to share all that you are and also, the faith that you’re better off for having experienced it, regardless of the outcome. To live is to love, unconditionally. Love is freedom, it gives you fire to create, to share, to heal! May love always find you ready, open and willing!”

3. “It is amazing what incredible things begin to happen, as soon as you step out of the shadows into your light and actually SHOW UP and start living YOUR life and not someone else’s version of your life. Until we own our awesomeness and our crap, we run the danger of living a life of denial, anguish and pain. Suffering disintegrates in the face of acceptance and forgiveness. The moment we stop resisting and choose to start living, we unlock our hearts to the fullness of life all around us.

4. “Whatever you seek in your relationships, have clarity on what you want! Then, simply surround yourself with people who depict and live it. If you seek love, surround yourself with people who are IN love and LOVING to each other. Everything and everyone is energy! Their essence slowly rubs off on you. Monkey see, monkey do, so find the monkeys doing it the way(s) you aspire to and then learn from them!

Take the time to analyze all the relationships you’ve been surrounded by from childhood till now. Whether you believe it or not, they affected your perspective. You may need to UN-Learn certain traits, behaviours and characteristics. We’re like sponges, we soak up past experiences, consciously or unconsciously, and sometimes live it in our present lives, often, outside of our own awareness.

We are often predisposed to and soak up good or bad things in our culture, upbringing, education, religion, environment, career…Become more aware of the choices you make and the belief systems you hold. Ask yourself key questions. Develop a mindset that reflects who you are and what you value. Face and resolve your ‘stuff’ and your ‘crap’. Begin to replace undesirable behaviours and strategies with healthier ones. You can create the relationships of your dreams. Not perfect yet perfect for you! Take ACTION today!”

5. “Have the courage to succeed and also have the courage to fail. Have the courage to celebrate the highs and also embrace the lows. There’s duality in nature. Our lives follow  synchronistic patterns of mountains, plateaus and valleys. Your gratitude should flow and grow in ALL seasons.

EVERYTHING happens to move you in the direction of your purpose. Feel all your feelings. Accept the totality of who you are, ONLY then will your heart truly break open to ‘see’ others as a reflection of you and finally experience yourself as a true reflection of God!

Suffering ends when we stop fighting our reality and we begin to practice the beautiful principles of Surrendering, Allowing and Accepting that we are ENOUGH! We already have ENOUGH! And that we are WHOLE. The purpose of life, therefore, becomes the healing and transformational journey of ‘Returning to Wholeness’ and embracing who we always were and always will be: beloved children of a loving God, created to love and be loved, UNCONDITIONALLY!”

6. “A simple formula for getting what you want? Simply ASK! If that fails, try this instead: ASK AGAIN! (Not necessarily of the same person(s)). And do it with more preparation and reflection, a little better and wiser each time. Soon, that shut door will be opened.

Develop the skill-set of humble, purposeful, diligent and joyous ASKING irrespective of the outcome. Celebrate the truth that what you need will manifest exactly when it should and not a moment sooner or later. It is who we become in the process that is more important.”

7. “Little things can shift the trajectory of our lives. Do good! Look good! Feel good! Dare to ‘see’ yourself in a beautiful, brand new light. Enough of the ‘woe me’ stories, it is finally time to tell yourself and the world new ‘WOW me’ stories! You are the director of your life’s movie. If you don’t like what’s playing out in your reality, simply yell: “CUT!”

Then use the power of imagination, re-write the script and re-shoot. Every day is a new opportunity to play out the scenes you want. Give it your best shot today because you never know when the higher DIRECTOR will say “CUT” to your life! Everyday you wake up, is a day you may have died. Don’t waste your time. LIVE life to the fullest, all you really have is NOW!”

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet ‘Kego, MBA –Poetess, Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management, Development  & Leadership-Consultant at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.” Her mission is to raise a new generation of Transformational, Ethical & Creative African Leaders.

She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership & Human Potential Development, Investment & Financial Literacy for WoMen. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower WoMen & Youths, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier, Daring & Meaningful Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @julietkego

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DAY 15: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

SuccessQuestions of the day: Every single encounter is an exchange of energy and values. How are we choosing to exchange our essence with the people and world around us? Are we in the driver’s seat or are we letting life jerk us around? Are we choosing to take action and change the trajectory of our lives if we do not like we’re at or are we attached to being ‘right’ and miserably stuck in our ‘safe’ world. Are you ready to take a good risk and bet on yourself, on your dreams, on your passions and on your purpose? 

Are we taking back our power and acting in consonance with we say we are: co-heirs and beloved children of a loving God and creator or are we choosing to be dis-connected from our source and dis-empowered as we stumble through life?

FutureAre we owning who we are or are we exchanging our core and settling for the fallacy for who the world defines us to be?

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs at Whole Woman Network, are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the unique gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny. Own  and embrace it!

WWN Reflection DAY 15: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

We are now officially past the half-way mark on our 30-day challenge, hurrah! Take some time to celebrate YOU, the changes you’ve embraced, the action steps you’re taking and the new person you’re becoming.  14 days ago, we invited you to join us as we share simple reflections and hopefully engage, educate and empower you to take ACTION towards a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU! Again, we ask you that even if you’ve heard, seen, read or felt these words before, open up your hearts and minds and experience them all over again. Dare to see yourself in a brand new, beautiful light!”

HappinessLet’s revisit the questions we asked you on day 1 of the challenge: What 3 area(s) of your life do you wish to improve the most? What 3 area(s) would have the most impact on all other areas of your life?

  • Faith & Spirituality?
  • Health & Wellness?
  • Family & Relationship?
  • Career & Business?
  • Beauty & Self-Image
  • Fun & Leisure
  • Personal Development & Growth
  • Financial Well-being & Prosperity?
  • Community & Social Responsibility?
  • YOU! Your Dreams, Passions and Purpose?

DreamAs long as you are taking consistent action, you are making progress towards your goals. You may not see the results immediately, however, after a period of time, they will begin to manifest in your physical world.

At an unconscious level, as we change and build new habits and values for the better, our entire neurology also changes and most often we begin to see these results in our reality within a minimum of 90 days. Dream big and take bigger action steps. In the conjugation of life’s verbs, ‘TO DO’ is far more powerful than to say, to think, to dream, or to plan. Take ACTION today, period!

The choice to either change/grow or sit on the toxic fence of life is yours. That’s the beauty of life, the ability to exercise our power of choice. Use it well, do not waste this gift of starting afresh every day, with new awareness and insights. Having it all does not mean being perfect, rather, it about authenticity, it is about being real. It is about being the best you in this moment and trusting that as you grow and know differently, your choices will reflect your new values in life.

Tragedy and PurposeAs long as we are committed to sharing, healing, creating, learning, growth and fulfilling our purpose in life, our journey becomes an interesting experience and we begin to see life as a visual mosaic of vibrant colours. One of our greatest gifts becomes our ability to shift how we see, feel, taste and hear our inner music lost within the clutter of noise constantly bombarding from the outside world.

Suddenly the people/situations/things/words/events that seemed challenging to us or were triggers to our vicious patterns of pain, hurt, anger, guilt, despair, depression, shame etc. simply lose their power and we embrace life and its ups and downs for what it is: life simply happening. We cease to take things so personally as we see other people as reflections of us and embrace connectedness in our joys, triumphs, passions and even in our pains.

2 ThingsHow we choose to experience our time on earth becomes clearer the more we realize that indeed everything works for good. It is our duty to pay attention to the patterns and the cycles of our lives. The more we become present and pay attention to our patterns of words-thoughts-actions, who we surround ourselves with, what we read and listen to, the more we master ourselves and lead ourself to become the magnificent beings we are.

So reflect and take action on your learnings. Focus on each day and give it all you’ve got. Do everything with a little ‘extra’, you are blessed with a well of unconditional love. Tap into it! It is the little things that matter because those little habits of excellence when cultivated are the difference between and ordinary and EXTRA-ordinary life!

Create and live your best life NOW because life is simply a series of NOWs and all you’ll ever have at each moment of life is NOW! Have a fabulous and  awesome weekend and a blessed week ahead. Set your intentions and then take congruent ACTION to manifest them! Look good, do good and feel good!

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc.

 

DAY 10: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

ApologizingQuestions of the Day: Who are you in your relationships? What do you allow or let go? How authentic are you to your values? How courageous are you in treating yourself with acceptance, love and respect?

How true are you in speaking your own truth? Do you realize that until you love and accept yourself as you are, it is difficult for someone else to love you?

Are you strong enough to teach others how you want to be treated? Or are you afraid to own your own half of the bargain? What does agape love mean to you? What does unconditional love mean to you? What does acceptance and forgiveness mean to you?

Do you know your deal-breakers? Are you consistent in establishing who you really are? It takes courage to stay and fight for your vision of love and it also takes courage to let go and walk away when that vision is no longer worth fighting for.

Only YOU can make a choice that better reflects your innermost values. Begin topaz attention to your most important relationships: with God, your creator and with yourself. Everything else flows from this.

Are you sitting on the toxic fence or have you really DECIDED? When you decide and commit, the universe makes way for you. And if you’ve given everything you’ve got and it still doesn’t work out, perhaps God has a better plan for you and you need to experience the pain in order to let go.

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs at Whole Woman Network, are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the unique gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny with God. Own it!

WWN Reflection DAY 10: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Today’s focus is on RELATIONSHIPS. Whatever you seek in your relationships, have clarity on what you want! Focus on what you want and not on what you don’t want. Then, simply surround yourself with people who depict and live it.

If you seek love, surround yourself with people who are IN love and are faithful, caring, trusting and LOVING to each other. Everything and everyone is energy! Their essence slowly rubs off on you. Monkey see, monkey do, so find the monkeys doing it the right way and model/adapt/learn from them! Stop arguing for the limitations in your relationships and begin to focus on your vision of your relationships (and take aligned action steps to bring it to life). The blame game kills a relationship. Until you take responsibility for co-creating your relationship, you may keep repeating the undesirable outcomes. It takes two to dance relationship ajasco! 🙂

Take the time to deeply analyze and reflect on all the relationships you’ve been surrounded by from childhood till date. Whether you believe it or not, they affected your perspective and choices. You may need to UN-Learn certain traits, behaviours and characteristics. We’re like sponges, we soak up past experiences, consciously or unconsciously, and sometimes live it in our present lives, often, outside of our own awareness.

We are sometimes pre-disposed to good or bad things in our culture, upbringing, education, religion, environment, career…Become more aware of the choices you make and the belief systems you hold. Ask yourself honest questions.

Develop a mindset that reflects who you are and what you value. Begin to replace undesirable behaviours and patterns with healthier strategies. You can create the relationships of your dreams. Not perfect yet perfect for you. You know yourself better than anyone else. Know who and whose you are. Be CONGRUENT in your private and public lives.

You have a choice to either be ‘RIGHT’ or to have a happy and healthy Relationship. You have a choice to either blindly follow the dictates of the world- family, friends, media or you may choose to build and develop your own unique relationship style that works for you! Until we allow ourselves to be fully vulnerable, accepting and forgiving, we cannot experience the fullness of love. Love is not an absence of hurt, disappointment or pain.

Love is simply LOVE, PERIOD! It just is…As the saying goes: Follow your heart and take your head with you! You need both to navigate the waters of life. Past“Happily Ever After” is a facetious term. It does not mean our relationships are free of challenges or stormy waters, it simply means we CHOOSE and FIGHT to be happy regardless of the storms.

It has little or nothing to do with choosing to stay or leave a relationship, rather, it is your ability to live and honour your own truth and values about love and life! The moment you stop being you is the moment you really DIE. Are you being YOU in all your relationships?

Wherever You GoIf you do not look inwards to fix the pains that show up in your current relationship, they may follow you wherever you go. You may physically ‘leave’ a relationship and yet carry with you its poison(s).

The purpose of pain, therefore, is to direct our attention to something that needs to be resolved, a skill that needs to be built up, a talent that is long-buried, a boundary that needs to be set or simply, a reason to reflect on our past and present choices, so that we are empowered to create a more compelling and beautiful future for ourselves.

Intimate relationships (good or ‘bad’), are ultimately, gifts to us because they allow us to really know and understand ourselves. They push our limits and boundaries and compel us to ‘see’ who we really are, who we’re capable of becoming and finally, who we DECIDE to be. Relationship is like a boat that requires the two people in it to row their own share, in oder to arrive safely at shore. Even in stormy waves, as long as each partner carries their own weight, it is easier ton thrive and have joy and fulfilment in the journey.

As long as both partners are sincerely focused on the bigger picture, their action steps will flow seamlessly, from this foundation of trust, communication and commitment. Ultimately, it is freestyle, as what works for A may not work for B. We are human  and also social beings, sometimes different dynamics occur based on peculiar situations, such as health challenges(mental-physical-emotional, spiritual), economic realities, cultural and environmental dictates, upbringing, education, religion  and other meta models.

One of my favourite quotes that I find most succinct and insightful on the nature of partnerships in relationships is by Ify Olejeme Odunlami: “Equality in a relationship lies in the understanding that this is a partnership. Every couple makes their own rules. Kitchen and cooking is not what determines equality. Some men love to cook just like some women do. Some women are breadwinners.

If you want a happy home, broker your terms. In the end, it’s about supporting each other. If you have superior earning power as a woman, go out there and make money for your family, don’t let your hubby slug his way into a heart attack. If your wife is overwhelmed with her work , chip in so that she can have more time to spend with you and the kids. Happy family first.” ~Ify Olejeme Odunlami (as shared on her Facebook page, on 12.08.14; accessed on 12.11.2014)

Another relationship quote that I find inspiring  and tend to repeat quite often, is by Ernie Pavan, co-founder of Human Potential International, HPI:

“Relationships with Spouses (existing and/or ex) and Closest Family Members, Colleagues & Friends, are our biggest opportunities for transformation.

In the world of perception is projection, they become OR represent our deepest, innermost pains, fears, challenges, nightmares (or luckily, our goals and dreams), manifested alive. So become more present. Pay ATTENTION to your life!

We come together, not by accident, but rather through a deliberate divine synchronism, to perhaps celebrate, share, heal, create, connect, build, unlock or become aware of something important in our lifetime.

Fix your pain and life will open up. If you’re willing to find and solve your pain, (and what your pain is doing or not doing for you), you will find your power, passion, purpose, profit and path by simply replacing the role of your pain with a healthier strategy, behaviour and/or choice.

The reason your pain exists is to draw your attention to something important for your growth and to increase your ability to become a beacon for others around you.” ~Ernie Pavan

I hope you all have a great week ahead and I leave you with these words to reflect on and ponder upon for the week: “Dance even when there’s no music; smile even through your tears; take action even when the world holds you down; rejoice even when it all seems bleak. You create your own rhythm, you create your own atmosphere….Create beauty even in your ashes!” ~Excerpt from my upcoming book: Unlocking Your HeArt of Leadership~

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Juliet Ume in polka dot topThe preceding is a guest post from Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director of Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, complete, whole and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to raise a new generation of  transformational leaders in Africa by engaging, educating and empowering women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

DAY 8: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

“You can run to another town, another place, another state. Whatever it is you’re running from, it stays with you until you find how to confront it.” ~Anonymous~

Questions of the day: Are you so focused on your goals and ‘TO DO’ lists that you sometimes forget to celebrate your achievements and ‘ALREADY DONE’ list? Have you taken time today to celebrate YOU?  How others ‘see’ you is a reflection of the light you give out. Are you shinning your best light? Do you feel stuck? A single empowered action step can get you back in ‘flow’.

Sometimes, in order to get ‘unstuck’ or to get new ‘fuel’ to move forward, all we simply have to do is look at areas in the past where we both excelled or failed, those situations (both small and big), when we focused our resources and accomplished wonderful results. You can learn from from ‘failures’ as well as from your successes, and sometimes even more so from the former. If you really think about it, there are no failures in life only feedback.

Can you remember a time in the past when you felt loved, cherished, joyous, unstoppable, powerful and resourceful? Are you struggling to recall such a time? Do you know that you have the ability to go back in time, way before creation, and tap into a time when you were whole, complete, a special time when you were simply one with your creator?

The world and your present circumstance may seek to convince you of the fallacy that you are broken or fractured, however, they lied! You are a beam of light and love, created in the image of God for a unique purpose. You are, were and will always be whole and complete. “Our DIS-Ease in life is a DIS-connect from God, our true source.” ~Marianne Williamson~

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs at Whole Woman Network, are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the unique gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny. Own it!

WWN Reflection DAY 8: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

FearsDescribe and define yourself not in terms of your fears or challenges, rather, always speak of your life in terms of your possibilities, dreams and purpose. Speak of your goals as if they already happened. Speak of your vision as a reality.

Today, let’s take a moment to confront and resolve whatever ‘ghosts’ or issues trouble your spirit. Even if you can’t solve them today, just identify the key areas that need resolutions. Identifying, stating them out loud and writing them down, allows your unconscious mind to keep working on them even when you’re consciously not tackling them. The moment we get specific with our fears, they lose their power and hold over us.

Remember, the answers are  always within. Search inside and God’s spirit will guide and lead you to great things. Anytime you feel overwhelmed, just shift your focus to something else and choose to add value to someone else. We are reflections of one another and operate in the same life-field. A breakthrough for another, is invariably, a breakthrough for us. There are no coincidences in life. We get ‘stuck’ when we stubbornly decide to solve OUR problems NOW!Dreams inside

Stop the ego-tripping. Give up your attachment of being right rather become more focused on doing right; serving others, connecting meaningfully with the world around you, developing and building relationships, being healthier, happier, focus on your personal transformation, progress and growth.

As we take simple steps to grow and transform our lives, we automatically find solutions to seemingly serious challenges/problems in our own lives.

Today, make sure you take some time to rest, relax, rejuvenate, reflect and rejoice. Celebrate where you’ve been and be thankful for where you’re going. You are a beloved child of a loving creator, made to love and be loved, unconditionally. This is your truth, know it and live it.

“To know” is Intellectual and “To Live” is Experiential. To know your truth but not live it leads to Torture/Depression/Pain. To know your truth AND live it leads to a life of Freedom/Joy/Abundance. Here’s a toast to the gift of WISDOM: my wish for you is that you grow to know and live your truth with authenticity, integrity and power.

On a much lighter note, I believe God definitely has an awesome sense of humour. Do you know that four different activities release the same ‘feel-good’ hormones in our bodies: Prayer, Food, Exercise and Sex! My message for you this weekend is to DO all four with wisdom, in the right context, in the right dosage. For example, do not use food to quench a sexual hunger.  You cannot pray yourself into being fit, you actually have to get off the couch and exercise! 🙂 QUALITY counts, not quantity! Have an awesome and abundantly blessed week.

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Juliet Ume in polka dot topThe preceding is a guest post from Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director of Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described avid Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, complete, whole and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

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DAY 7: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Maya“Stand up straight and realize who you are, that you tower over your circumstances. You are a child of God. Stand up straight.” ~Maya Angelou~

Questions of the Day: What if you simply DECIDED that this would be your best month ever? What if you consciously mentored, trained, coached and channeled EVERY thought, word, action you take this month with total focus towards WHO and WHAT you want in your life, your relationships, your business, your workplace and your community?

What if you identified and then with awareness, moved away from all your old patterns that put you in a place of negativity, pain, anger, chaos, sadness, helplessness and poverty? What if you tried something new? Like sharing all the love and passion and talents you have within you with those who matter in your life? What does the best version of YOU look like? What does the best version of your life look like? Begin to pursue these versions…

As we round off the first week of our 30-day challenge, we hope you’re experiencing wonderful blessings, new insights and a renewed sense of peace. May you dwell in an atmosphere of miracles, of faith and of awesome possibilities. Imagine that this month is a brand new slate and it is your chance to start afresh, with all you’ve learned in your life so far. Celebrate all your awareness and see them as opportunities to grow and transform.

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs at Whole Woman Network, are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the unique gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny with God. Own it!

WWN Reflection DAY 7: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

YOU have the power to co-create your destiny. I don’t say this lightly, again I repeat: YOU have the power to co-create your destiny! It is your God-given right and it is a free gift. You were born a leader but you must take responsibility for your life and ALWAYS strive to rise above the ‘crowd’ of ‘follow-follow’ mentality. The more original, authentic and aligned your thoughts, words and actions are, the more you will draw the right people and opportunities to you. People will buy whatever service or product you’re selling because it will come from an authentic place. You may fall many times, however, your strength lies in your ability to rise, dust it all off and continue on your path. Focus on the moment at hand and focus on the step you must take! “Take the next step and the path will reveal itself.” ~James MacNeil~

The world needs more ‘POSITIVE and AUTHENTIC Ambassadors.’ Are you ready to take your spot? This month, I challenge you to dwell on ALL that is good, unique, wonderful and unique about you. Focus on the fantastic things that have happened to you all your life thus far. Stop fighting for or justifying your limitations. You may get to be ‘right’, however, do you get to be joyous, healthy and prosperous? Focus on the learnings from challenging situations. Fuse these wonderful memories together and use them as an armour against all the negatives the world throws your way. The only reasons pain exists is to get your attention about what’s really important in your life and to give you the tools to empathize and empower others.

lonelinessWe are all connected. We are unique individuals and also part of a beautiful whole. We all face the SAME triumphs and challenges manifested in different forms. Until you can FEEL another’s pains, mistakes, challenges and betrayals and STILL ‘see’ them through eyes of love, you will continue to be held captive by your own walls.

You are so much stronger than your wildest imagination. Whatever the situation or circumstance you’re presently in, dig deep within you to find the strength within. The strength is within your soul, a living part of you that is way bigger than whatever challenge you face now or will ever face tomorrow. It transcends space and time. Your responsibility is to take the time to discover and know yourself better each day and also to sharpen your senses and ability to cope with whatever hand life deals you. The one thing that’s constant is that life comes with uncertainties, if not it wouldn’t be life.

Marcel proustYour relationships are keys to the quality of your existence and experience of the world. It starts with an intimate relationship with God, your creator and also an honest and deep relationship with yourself. Everything else flows from this. The foundation of our coping mechanism is determined to a large extent by the nature of our relationships with those in our closest circle.

Learn to set healthy boundaries and make peace with your parents, siblings, colleagues, spouses and children. We are social beings and are hard-wired to seek connection. Connect with others in a healthy way. Allow love to breathe in your relationships, avoid suffocating your primary relationships with guilt, shame, anger, hurt, pain and fault-finding. Change your lens and dare to ‘see’ yourself and your world in a beautiful, brand new light! YOU are responsible for how you exchange value with others around you. Are you a source of drain or empowerment? Are you cognizant of those who drain or uplift you?

I love this deeply layered quote below from Master Mentor, Coach and Trainer, Ernie Pavan:

“Relationships with Spouses (existing and/or ex) and Closest Family Members, Colleagues & Friends, are our biggest opportunities for transformation. 

In the world of perception is projection, they become OR represent our deepest, innermost pains, fears, challenges, nightmares (or luckily, our goals and dreams), manifested alive.
So become more present. Pay ATTENTION to your life!

We come together, not by accident, but rather through a deliberate divine synchronism, to perhaps celebrate, share, heal, create, connect, build, unlock or become aware of something important in our lifetime. 

Fix your pain and life will open up. If you’re willing to find and solve your pain, you will find your power, passion, purpose, profit and path. The reason your pain exists is to draw your attention to something important for your growth and to increase your ability to become a beacon of light for others around you.”
~ Ernie Pavan, Co-Founder, Human Potential International, HPI~

Give yourself permission to love yourself and make mistakes. This allows you to have room in your heart to love and be kind to others. Your quality of life is tied to your capacity for love. To love is always a choice! No one can break your spirit without your cooperation. The secret is to constantly seek the essence of the creator within you. You will achieve everything you set your heart on as long as you seek it from a place of  surrender, truth, humility and incredible focus.Smile

FORGIVENESS and ACCEPTANCE are twin-gifts we give to ourselves and those around us so that we can heal our seemingly fractured hearts and live full, whole lives. ‘Heaven on earth’ is the metaphor for a paradise we create through our personal approach and mindset, despite whatever ‘hell’ the harsh realities of life throw at us.

Your heaven is INSIDE of you. You CANNOT get it from things, titles, possessions or other people. It is an eternal spring that’s already there in you and your life’s purpose is to find it and share it with those around you, every day, in every single thing you do. You already have enough. You are enough. And should you need or want more, you have the unique ability and talent to create it. This is the heart of the master-frame of Co-creation.

Your purpose in life is not to ‘GET’, your purpose is simply to ‘GIVE’, ‘SHARE’ and ‘EXCHANGE VALUE’ with others. In the pursuit of your purpose, there will be pain, mistakes and storms, that’s simply life happening. It is in the oscillating patterns of highs and lows that your character is formed.

Pay particular attention to your ‘lows’, because if you allow it, these are the periods for extraordinary growth and transformation. Like a seed, we die first, in order to germinate, grow and bloom. Life is not meant to be perfect. Life is meant to be LIVED. The twin mystery and beauty of life is that it is IS and we are to simply BE. Life does not ‘happen’ to us, we are constantly co-creating and unveiling the life that unfolds. Yes, we are that powerful! We are, after all, children of a loving and powerful Creator.

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Juliet Ume in polka dot topThe preceding is a guest post from Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director of Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, complete, whole and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

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DAY 5: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Questions of the Day: “How big are your goals? Do you have a glass floor or glass ceiling on your goals? What would your life be like if you had the courage to be who you dream of becoming? What will you see, hear, feel, taste when your biggest goals are achieved? Do you realize you are the only one standing in the way of your goals and purpose? Do you know and fully comprehend the limitless possibilities that abound all around you? Are you plugged in to your source? Are you ready and willing to commit to your goals and grow? Remember, in the words of John C Maxwell, change happens in life whether we welcome it or not. Growth, however, is optional. We DECIDE to grow or stay stunted. Tony Robbins

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny. Own it!

WWN Reflection DAY 5: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Today’s FOCUS is on the power of PERSONAL GOALS.

(i) Your goals are contracts you have with yourself. Your choice is either to honour them or break them. The consequences are different for each decision. You cannot have successful ‘contracts’ or relationships with others if you do not learn to honor your relationship with yourself. How you do one thing, invariably becomes how you do everything! Are your goals impotent or are they filled with the fire and sincerity of your being?

(ii) The biggest area in your life where you are afraid to take action on is most likely where you should be taking action! Taking action means the you made a commitment and backed it up with your resources and the universe knows to give you what you want. (Remember, whatever ye seek, ye shall find)! Are you really seeking or still sitting on the fence? A decision not to decide, is a decision in itself. If you are struggling or feeling stuck and trapped in any area of your life, perhaps you haven’t actually decided on what you want.

Journey(iii) According to the philosopher Kierkegaard, DISSATISFACTION in life is simply failing to take action steps that you know and have resolved within you that you should take. While DESPAIR is pretending to be someone else other than who you are. Who are you? Whose are you? Do you belong to yourself? to others? or to a loving Creator who can do ALL things? What is that necessary action step that you least want to do but you most have to do? Once you answer and decide on who and what YOU want, God works with the universe to make it happen.

(iv)  Imagine when a young child decides on a particular profession e.g. to become a doctor, teacher, dancer, artist etc. Once the decision is made from a point of truth faith, it seems like seamlessly ALL the actions and choices become aligned with their goal: how they spend their resources, and even their study/play/sleep patterns. Become a child again. Trust the power of imagination and consistent action. All you really ever have to worry about is NOW. Give the best you can in each moment and allow nature perfect her synchronicity. Every single goal can be reduced to what you do today, the actions you take in the NOW! Take the step for today. Show up and be fully present in your life, the path reveals itself with each step you take. Do not focus on the outcome or results, simply take the journey!

Unknown 1(v) ‘Made in HIS image’ is NOT a theory! The universe is a manifestation of you because you are one with God. You are a co-creator of your destiny. If you invest your time, money and energy, and back your ideas with passions and emotions, your goals will materialize. This is the perfect time to focus and channel everything you have (prayers, thoughts, words, actions) towards your goals.

vi) Pray hard and work harder towards your goals. If that fails, work hard and pray harder. At some point, critical mass occurs. Everything happens in the spiritual and takes root in the formless world, before it begins to form and manifest physically. Our biggest asset is FAITH however, DECISION precedes faith. You always have the power of choice. You can transform your life. You can change. It requires commitment, focus and self-discipline. As you read this,  you are changing and growing. Each day you take action, you are more beautiful, healthier and wealthier, now your task is the simply part: to actually LIVE IT!

Another key point regarding success in carrying out your goals is discipline. You must be consistent with your goals. Start small, make simple goals and carry them out. Begin to retrain your unconscious mind. Say something and actually follow with it. Show up when you RSVP. Pay your bills on time. Keep your promises. Explain ahead of time if you won’t and reschedule. When we are faithful with the little things, the bigger things show up naturally, because there are no ‘little’ things, there are simply BIG things broken down into seemingly small ones.

Your conscious mind is the go-setter, however your unconscious mind is the go-getter. All change, learning and behaviour is unconscious! The more you train your ‘goal muscles’, the more your unconscious mind will respect, cooperate and listen to you. Respect is reciprocal. A word, affirmation or goal released into the universe is an open loop. Keep your words and the universe will keep hers to you too. And the more easily and effortlessly your bigger goals will be accomplished.

Lead yourself to a life of excellence, success and joy. Regardless of the outcome, as long as you take consistent, committed steps in the direction of your life’s purpose, you WILL succeed because it is who you become in the journey that counts, not the end result. Life is a dynamic process, it is not static. The universe is always in flow, so flow with it, in the direction of your dreams. First, you have to DECIDE, get out of your own way and allow yourself to soar!

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Juliet Ume in polka dot topThe preceding is a guest post from Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director of Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, complete, whole and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

DAY 1: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!            

DAY 2: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

DAY 3: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

DAY 4: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

DAY 3: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Question of the Day: “How often do you take time off to reflect deeply and really meditate on your vision for your life?” Is your life on auto-pilot with no room for reflective pauses? There is a reason God made a day of rest! Take some ‘ME’ time every week to reposition and transform your life. Enjoy the beauty and grace of SILENCE. Remember, change happens in life whether we welcome it or not. Growth, however, is optional. We DECIDE to grow or stay stunted. Power of silence Whole Woman Network

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny. Own it!

WWN Reflection DAY 3: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Today’s FOCUS is on the POWER OF PERSONAL REFLECTION!

Remember when I mentioned having at least 15 minutes of reflections twice each day (in the morning before you set off for the day and at night, at the end of your day? (Refer to Day 1 post). During your 15 minutes reflections, you’re required to write down key points you learned for the day, based on your most immediate goals for the challenge. Again, let’s revisit the questions regarding the different areas of your life that you wish to transform.

What 3 area(s) of your life do you wish to improve the most? What 3 area(s) would have the most impact on all other areas of your life?

  • Faith & Spirituality?
  • Health & Wellness?
  • Family & Relationship?
  • Career & Business?
  • Beauty & Self-Image
  • Fun & Leisure
  • Personal Development & Growth
  • Financial Well-being & Prosperity?
  • Community & Social Responsibility?
  • YOU! Your Dreams, Passions and Purpose?

For instance, If health/wellness/weight loss are your primary goals, add to your journal entry EVERYTHING you ate and how you felt just before and after you had Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner and snacks or drinks. Also, write down what type of exercise and how long you exercised, rested and slept daily).

If financial well-being is the primary goal, write down how much you saved, how much you spent for the day and what wealth creating activities you engaged in etc.

ReflectionThe purpose of keeping track through personal reflections and writing, is to make you more aware of your actions. You can ‘see’ your patterns and progress (or lack of).

Most importantly, it will EMPOWER you to master your emotions so that you may easily and effortlessly, take the necessary action towards your goals, regardless of how you feel.

The data you obtain from your feelings are important, however, feelings are not enough basis to anchor your actions. Successful, happy, healthy, wealthy people do not use feelings as evidence procedure!

Personal Reflections also gift us with the grace of gratitude and contentment for who we are and what we have. It opens up our eyes to the truth that we are already ENOUGH and we are blessed beyond measure.

Until, we silence the external, endless worldly chatter that feeds us with the fallacies and lies of our unworthiness and emptiness, we cannot fully hear the still voice of our own inner truth, reminding us that we are magnificent creatures of love, light and life! Quote on Contentment Whole Woman Network

The true power of personal reflection is that it compels us to look inwards and seek the answers within us. It drowns the noise and allows the voice within us to be heard.

If we are willing to act with personal integrity, hold ourselves accountable and look at our lives with a sense of responsibility and ownership, the truth we seek reveals itself. This truth then manifests beautifully in our reality.

Until you reflect on how your past choices (conscious and unconscious), have led you to the present, you cannot make empowered choices in the present to create the future you dream of. Personal reflection takes heart, head, courage and faith.

It means letting go of your idea of yourself and accepting the person you find. It is a journey to the heart of your essence, the act of embracing the YOU that unveils herself to your own curiosity and respectful scrutiny.

Remember, your journey is unique because you are YOU! Don’t play the compare and contrast game, know that your life is different from others because your power, passion, purpose and path are very different. You are special! There is something that only you were created to add to your family, friends, society and planet!

Are you willing to look at that person in the mirror? Are you willing to take responsibility for co-creating your life, warts and all? Are you ready to own your awesomeness and also own your crap? Happy reflecting!

Enjoy this inspiring video by Stephen Covey on 5 Emotional Cancers: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4uuZYAdbes

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-Based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc

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