Archive | June 2013

Farafina Trust’s Creative Writing Workshop (Deadline: June 30, 2013)

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Farafina Trust will be holding a creative writing workshop in Lagos, organized by award winning writer and creative director of Farafina Trust, Chimamanda Adichie, from August 6 to August 16 2013. The workshop is sponsored by Nigerian Breweries Plc.
The Caine Prize winning Kenyan writer, Binyavanga Wainaina, and others will co-teach the workshop alongside Adichie. The workshop will take the form of a class. Participants will be assigned a wide range of reading exercises, as well as daily writing exercises.

The aim of the workshop is to improve the craft of writers and to encourage published and unpublished writers by bringing different perspective to the art of storytelling. Participation is limited only to those who apply and are accepted.

All material must be pasted or written in the body of the e-mail. Please Do NOT include any attachments in your e-mail. Applications with attachments will…

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DECIDE to have a great weekend!

“The grass is not greener on the other side, that’s your self-generated optical illusion. And even if the grass was greener over ‘there’ than your ‘here’, you may just find yourself allergic to that type of grass. Be wise and celebrate your life, right here, right now…” ~Whole Woman Network~(Excerpt from WWN’s Total Transformation and Life-Coaching Program: ’90-Days to a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU!’~friday image colour

It is amazing how much we tend to complain and whine about everything that’s seemingly wrong in our lives. It is so easy to take a permanent spot in the ‘WOE ME’ quadrant and develop a deliberate and selective amnesia about the opportunities and abundance  around us. No matter how challenging life gets, a slight shift in attitude is the first step to creating solutions. In the words of Marcel Proust: “The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.”

Today’s Friday and as we all set off to live out our weekend, this blog post is really a gentle reminder to celebrate this weekend. Sh*t happens in life but if you scramble the words and look at them from a different angle, it becomes ‘HITS’. Hits: [definition]- The number of times you have to hit at the door of opportunity before you break it open. So pay great attention to your sh*t, therein lies your treasure!

Some additional tips to enjoy your weekend:

i. Celebrate your life, do not play the compare and contrast game. The grass is not greener on the other side, that’s a self-generated optical illusion. And even if the grass was greener over ‘there’ than your ‘here’, you may just find yourself seriously allergic to that type of grass. Be wise and celebrate your life, right here, right now;

ii. Be thankful for what you have NOW, do not think of life in terms of limitations rather focus on the possibilities that abound;

iii. Be gentle with yourself and be kind to others, everything you do and everyone you meet is an opportunity to minister and reflect God’s glory and majesty;

iv. Surround yourself with those you love and who love you back, life’s too short to try to please everybody and you simply can’t! Channel your energy into creating wonderful memories with loved ones;

v. Enjoy yourself. Joy is a choice, you have mastery over your emotions. Take the lessons and let go of the regrets. All you have is this moment, NOW! DECIDE to have an awesome weekend! Once you actually get off the toxic fence and choose, so shall it be;

vi. Take ACTION over something on your ‘to do’ list. Procrastination is a toxic, tiring and terrible state. No matter how big your goal is, it can be broken down into smaller pieces. Keep it simple, the idea is to get something done. The universe is always in motion, you better move with it or you get rolled over;

vii. All you have is this moment and in this moment you have the power to create tomorrow and re-frame yesterday. Be present and live in awareness. Have sensory acuity and pay attention to the one in front of you. We are all connected and reflected in one another. You are an individual but you are also part of a bigger whole. So create a vision of yourself and then take the steps to live and fulfill it; create yourself

viii. One of the relaxing things you can do this weekend is to de-clutter your physical space. Clear out your homes/office spaces. Return those forgotten phone calls, emails and social media posts.

ix. Remember to do something fun. Visit a friend or family member who always puts you in a great mood, go to the movies, go on a weekend getaway, go dancing, fishing, hiking…just make sure you do something or you may simply decide to stay in and relax, rest and sleep!

x. This weekend, if life gets too cold, have an ice-cream with all the flavours of your heart, if it gets too hot, take a swim in the cool waters of your soul, if it gets too bland, add something hot and spicy to your mind and body and when it gets too stifling, set your spirits free and soar!

In fact, at Whole Woman Network, our message to you this weekend is very simple: “There’s a time for everything, a time to rejoice and a time to whine…let’s create a complaint-free zone and make this weekend one of celebrations, the whining can resume on Monday (Note: By Monday, look out for our blog post titled ‘Making Mondays Magical’. This weekend, we dare you to step into the ‘WOW ME’ quadrant and amaze yourself with your own magnificence!”

From all of us at Whole Woman Network, we wish you an awesome and totally rocking weekend!!!


The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Life-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-Based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc

5 Lifesaving Things To Know About Blood Clots

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Welcome to Thoughty Thursday here at More Cowbell! This is the day of the week when y’all get to be privy to whatever thoughts are swimming around my brain.

Today I’m thinking about blood clots, of all things.

I received a call from my cousin yesterday and she’s got DVT (that’s deep vein thrombosis) in her right leg. Gah! She’s not even 40 years old.

Why did she reach out to me, you might ask? (Besides that I’m one of her fave peeps?)

Well, I’m kind of the blood clot expert amongst my family and friends. And no, I’m not a doctor; this is all hands-on learning, if you know what I mean.

My cousin called because I’ve had scads of blood clots (one in each leg [called bilateral DVT] and about 50 in my lungs [called pulmonary embolism]). I always joke that “my platelets really like to get their love…

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Finding my heart at the Apollo

Finding my heart at the Apollo

An original Poem  

Perhaps it was the voices of ancestors taken from us so long ago
Perhaps it was my own restless heart telling me to go
And so I simply arose and chose
To listen to the unsung songs of my soul
And I followed my beautiful soul-sister Josie, on the long road to the Apollo
Along with all my strong, wonderful, magnificent Scandal soul- sisters
Outspoken, shy, gentle, mighty, powerful, passionate…Gladiators All!
Empowered souls, re-connecting, rising majestically from every past fall
We found ourselves together, with our spirits willing and our hearts bared open
And in these hallowed walls, I found a long-lost brother, Mr Billy Mitchell
Oh! What deep, painful and uplifting triumphant stories he had to tell
Beautiful stories of humble beginnings, of searing struggles and of happy endings
Stories of heroes and of sheroes, of poets, of dancers, of singers and of actors…
He told his story, he told our story—
He told the buried stories of our long forgotten ancestors.


Look at me, little me
It all finally makes sense
This unfinished journey to find my life’s essence
From the beautiful, broken, bruised heart of Africa, across oceans to Canada
Standing here now, in this moment, at the Apollo, the heartbeat of Harlem
Such a long way from my hometown, my small, beautiful village of Amichi
It is so very bittersweet
That I who speak the language of Wall Street
And breathe the air of finance in a world shrouded in ego
Should find myself at this sacred place, the Apollo
Only to learn of a history so shameful, filled with dirty secrets and lies
Wall Street! Our shinning beacon of world power, trade and prosperity
Built to hide away our collective shame of shackles and chains,
Anchored on foundations laid down with the sweat and tears and blood
Of beloved ancestors buried deep in hidden, abandoned, dishonored graves
And today, we learn to hold the future in trust for our unborn children
To bequeath to them the gift of education, the values of honour and integrity
And the courage to take on the challenges of life, to always stand up tall and fight!
I stand here, humbled, healed and finally home, as I find my heart
Beating safely, in the loving embrace of my scandal-soul-sisters, Gladiators Unite!

[Pending Copyright. ‘Kego Onyido. Written May 25, 2013]

 James brown

‘Made to Crave’: The power of choosing healthier options

 “You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with Food, with Alcohol, with Drugs, with Work, with Cigarettes, with Sex, BUT  eventually, it will ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.” ~Iyanla Vanzant, Yesterday I cried~ food 2

Sometimes, you stumble upon such insightful and inspiring posting on a social media platform and you know you simply have to share it with the world! A member of the WWN Community posted this a few months back on WWN’s facebook page and it struck a deep chord with a lot of people, especially women.

It speaks to this fallacy of being ‘broken’ and ‘incomplete’ and the tendency to fill up the emptiness or pain within us with unhealthy choices such as the wrong food, people, addiction, things, ideas etc…

Enjoy the post below and a huge thanks to Kihu O. for sharing this!

Source: (Culled from a Biblical-based app. This is an excerpt from a 21-day reading plan with daily readings and motivational talks, titled: “Made to Crave.”)

“But I Never Feel Full For years, I walked around with a little heart-shaped cup in my soul, holding it out to people or things trying to find fulfillment. Some of us hold out our heart-shaped cup and expect a husband to love us in ways that rights our wrongs and fills up our insecurities.

Sometimes, we expect our kids to be successful so that we look good and feel validated by their accomplishments. Or, we hope that a successful career will confirm that we are a valuable human being. At times, I have asked the impossible of all of these. But my consistent “friend” of choice over the years has been food. Imagine my little heart-shaped cup as a candy dish, using sweets and snacks to soothe my emotions. food

However, if we are going to replace destructive cycles with lasting changes in our lives, then we have to empty ourselves of the lie that other people or things can ever fill our hearts. Instead, we have to deliberately fill up on God’s truths and stand secure in His love.

Here are some examples of how we can do that: Old lie: “I am such a failure when it comes to my diet.” New truth: “I am not a failure. I am a lavishly loved child of God. Part of my right as a child of God is to operate in a power beyond myself. The Holy Spirit is God’s gift to me. So it is possible for me to use the self-control I’ve been given.”

Old lie: “I need these Oreos!” New truth: “The thought that these Oreos will fill me is a lie. They will taste good for just the few minutes it will take to eat them. Then that hollow feeling of guilt will rush in as soon as the chocolate high dissipates. If I truly need a snack right now, I am capable of choosing a healthier option.” Old lie: “God seems far away and French fries are right around the corner at the drive-thru.” New truth: “French fries don’t love me. And the only lasting thing I get from them is the cholesterol and cellulite they inevitably leave behind, which will just compound my frustration.

God’s love is here in this moment and in many more to come. His love is true and carries with it only positive residual effects.” Examine how you can replace the lies and rationalizations in your mind with the truth of God’s love. Experience the power of renewing your mind and learning that food was never meant to fulfill the deepest places of your heart.

And, as Ephesians 3:19 reminds, may you understand that the only way to true satisfaction is to be “filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”

Enjoy this wonderful video, a poem written and recited by the wise, beautiful and inspiring Maya Angelou: Phenomenal Woman