Archive | January 2014

Jump Start your fat loss with Kim Lyons ‘Fat-Flush-Water’ as seen on Dr Oz!

Jan11

Kim Lyons made a name for herself by sharing her weight-loss wisdom on the hit TV show The Biggest Loser. Her 10-day plan is designed to melt fat and transform bodies. It worked for her and for hundreds of her clients, and it can work for you as well.

She advises those who are struggling with their weight and can’t seem to get started on a diet plan to let go of the fear of failure and throw away excuses.

In this video, Kim Lyons shares her simple, healthy and very effective ‘Fat-Flush-Water’ cleanse strategy. Use this as a ‘PATTERN-INTERRUPT’ to get you back on the healthy lifestyle track.

BodyRemember, the journey to excellent health is not a sprint, it’s a marathon. Success comes from taking simple, tiny, baby steps…when you honestly acknowledge current unhealthy habits and gradually replace them by making a series of Healthy Lifestyle choices.

You build new, permanent neurology through these simple, daily steps. Take ACTION towards a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU!

Enjoy the video and share with your network!

‘Work-Life Balance’: Myth or Reality for Women?

Jan7

busy busyWWN Reflection 01.07.2014: In the course of my coaching and training career, I often come across women, like myself, who share their challenges about their work-life options/choices.

And some of the questions that come up are: ‘Am I wrong to be too ambitious by choosing a career/business rather than be a home-maker?’, ‘Am I making a mistake by taking time off my career to raise my children?’, ‘How do I create balance in my work and life?’, ‘Everyone thinks I should focus on X instead of Y’, ‘Ms A seems to have it all, why can’t I get my act together…?’

There are no perfect solutions, no one size that fits all. However, on a personal note, based on my experience with juggling a family (husband and five kids, which sometimes feels sort of like having six kids) :-)! Ladies, I’m sure you can all relate with my sentiment..lol). Well, this is what I do believe: It is a personal journey and each person must find their own path and what works best for them.

There seems to be different phases in a woman’s personal and professional life: Pre-briefcase and diaper bag; Trades briefcase for diaper bag; Trades diaper bag for briefcase; Trades in both diaper bag and briefcase and chooses a career path/business/cause she’s passionate about (it may actually be to choose both the briefcase and the diaper bag..)! ‘Diaper bag’, in this instance is of course euphemism for family and raising kids while ‘Briefcase’ refers to pursuing an education and career/business.

The phases are not sequential. You have to have clarity and know the phase you’re in and embrace it. Don’t copy anyone else, simply learn from them because what works great for A may be a disaster for the next person. Besides, the compare and contrast game only breeds dissatisfaction and/or deep unhappiness. Your name is not ‘Everybody’, or ‘Jones’, you are an original, magnificent, creature.

unbalanceIn my opinion (and this is just an opinion), there’s really no such thing as ‘work-life’ balance, what you get in reality are ‘work-life’ choices. I like the idea of work-life integration. What we often refer to as Work-Life balance is not about perfection or having everything in the right order, I think it is actually more about being real and authentic and making choices that reflect what’s  important to YOU at different stages of your evolving life cycles!

Furthermore, work is a part, an extension of life, so in essence what we should be ‘balancing’ is really life itself. In the words of one of my esteemed mentors, ‘when you have work-life balance, you’re either in stagnation or you’re dead, literally and figuratively!’ How’s that for something to chew on/

Therefore, it is important to be aware that at different stages in your life, something is always at the top of your priority list. Life is not static or flat, priorities in life keep changing, life is DYNAMIC WITH DIFFERENT OSCILLATING PATTERNS. The universe is always in motion, so we either move with it (in the direction of our dreams, goals and purpose) or we may get crushed!

You are a human BEING, not a human BE! BEING connotes that we are continually doing, learning, growing, evolving and transforming. Stop judging and second-guessing your choices. Live life fully. Be present wherever you are in your life phase. You can only do you, the best way you know how. Be gentle, forgiving, accepting and kind with yourself and others. Pray for wisdom, spirit of discernment, boldness and courage to make informed and empowered choices that are always aligned with who you are and what you truly value at your core. Our disconnect from who we are is often what creates stress and tension in our quest for ‘balance’ in our lives.

It is also necessary to point out that our perception of ‘work’ also contributes to the imbalance it may or may not create in our lives. In the words of Brian Tracy,’One of the keys to a successful, fulfilling and balanced life is to find something you love to do and find a way to make a living doing it’. Also, the ability to handle every position in your career as if you were working for yourself and thus to see every job you’ve ever held in the past or will hold in future as part of a much bigger picture, as fulfilling a piece of your divine purpose.

“Your work is worship, your work is service, your work is your ministry. Worship with passion, serve with integrity and minister with purpose! If you hate your job, if you are dissatisfied with your chosen career path or if you are disenchanted with your business, perhaps now is the time to either take action and choose to do something different (something that you are passionate about), OR simply accept your reality and focus on building healthy strategies that will enable you thrive better and/or change your approach to work. We spend most of our living years working, so it makes sense that we find great value and some joy in what you do!” ~Excerpt from the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.’~

It is well. It all works perfectly together. And as quoted by Dev Patel’s character in the movie, The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel, “In the end, it all works out and if hasn’t worked out then it is not yet the end.”

Remember you are not ordinary, you are uniquely extra-ordinary. You are W.O.W: Wonderful, One-of-a-kind Woman!

Live purposefully, passionately and powerfully.

Take the next steps today! Interested in booking a 30-minutes complimentary Strategy Session for your life or business? Need more information on WWN’s individual/group/organizational training, coaching, speaking engagements, or leadership certification programs, contact us via email: info@wholewomannetwork.com or call +1.905.709.5866

Note: For Strategy Sessions, we’re now fully booked for the Months of January and February, the next available date for appointments is from March 10th, 2014.

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women (and men), regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! She shares her daily reflective posts on: www.facebook.com/wholewomannetwork. Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc

Embracing the gift of AUTHENTICITY!

Jan3

authentic selfAuthenticity: According to the Webster dictionary, it means to be ‘real or genuine; not false or copied; it is true and accurate.

I particularly love this definition by my ten-year old son. He says it is ‘Being myself in everything I do and everywhere I go!” 🙂

Faking it: The Miriam Webster online dictionary explains this as “prepare or make (something specious, deceptive, or fraudulent); without regards to facts or truths; to engage in pretence.

My 13-year-old thinks this means ‘to live your life wearing a mask, doing something that’s not real and at the end, you still don’t get the full satisfaction.’ Kids are definitely smarter than we ever give them credit for!

A few days ago, I was listening to a webinar and the topic was: ‘Finding your purpose in your authentic self.’ The speaker had great content and had all 45 people on the call engaged for the first 30 minutes or so. The moment she started talking about building a successful career or business based on your purpose, she said the one line that shifted the whole webinar (and not in a positive way). The seemingly innocuous line: ‘Fake it until you make it!’

It was funny to see how people started typing in questions regarding this single phrase. Some of the very insightful questions asked were:

1. What does it mean to fake it till you make it? (I particularly like this question because it clearly stumped the speaker for some seconds!)

2. Why do we have to fake it when we’re really all about being real and truthful especially if we’re selling professional services and not commodities?

3. Why can’t we just simply be ourselves? Is it not deceitful to portray yourself as what you are not?

It was very interesting to hear her responses and to observe, energetically, how quickly the excellent rapport she’d built crumbled.

Now I’m pretty sure the speaker really meant differently because after the webinar,  I’d followed up with her and sent an email. And based on our interesting correspondence I understand now that to her it was just a seemingly harmless cliché or slogan that most coaches and business trainers had espoused and as she explained, she had used it in the context of perception and how people perceive you.

who are youThat is, the idea that you have to ‘claim’ or pretend to be successful in order to be seen as successful. In other words, you have to sound, look and act successful, to be perceived as a true success story, especially in today’s world of unimaginable competition and self-promotion.

My question to her was do we really have to fake it till we make it? And doesn’t the use of the phrase ‘faking it’ in the same breath as ‘authenticity’ seem out-of-place? Perhaps, one of the many reasons why entrepreneurs (in particular, professionals) struggle with translating their expertise into success, may be because they simply missed the important point that we now live in a value-based, empathy-driven economy. A lot of the old practices and ideas on how people do business have evolved.

I’ve always been raised with the notion that people can smell and sense crap and B.S from a mile away. (Thanks to being blessed with a grandmother and mother-in-law who both gave it to you straight and could not stand or abide fakes). In today’s world, any hint of in-congruent messaging will cost you a sale and/or a loyal client relationship. And it is also very critical in today’s inter-connected world of real life and cyber life.

Ask any high profile celebrity, CEO or business owner, who’s  lost droves of fans and/or customers because they put their foot in their mouth on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram etc. The principle of authenticity is particularly necessary in professional services where no tangible products are being offered. YOU become the primary product, and the services you offer are secondary. The marketplace today is filled with discerning, knowledgeable and savvy consumers.

Why not embrace who you are and share the different stages you’re on in your entrepreneurial journey. In a nutshell, I tend to believe that authenticity does not require you to ‘fake it’ in anyway.

TrustFar from it, rather, authenticity means that you allow yourself to be vulnerable and in that openness of spirit, you are empowered and can empower your clients. This level of truth allows you to connect meaningfully and at a deep level with people.

The basis of real rapport is TRUST. How then can trust exist if it is based on a pseudo lie? In the end, people tend to buy from people they both trust and like, period! Practicing the gift of authenticity at work and play will lead you to a life 0f seamless success.

Why then do we have to ‘fake it? Why don’t we just simply be and bask in the knowingness that all we are is really enough and should we need to be more, we can be more by taking action. The idea that life is a struggle to impress or pretend to others that we are more than we are, pre-supposes that we believe are less.

The danger with ‘faking it until you make it’, is that sometimes, people get caught up in the ‘story’ of the act and they become so intensely associated with it. They believe it and take it as real and consequently spend all their resources perfecting the ‘faking it’ act and in the process, many opportunities for true and sustainable success elude them.

Love leadEverything is energy. There is a lot of energy required to ‘fake it’. And what if instead of faking it till you make it, you simply channeled all your energy and focused on actually making it so you do not have to fake it?

Furthermore, you can choose to actually live it now as you work towards making it. This means that you are consciously doing symbolic gestures and taking action steps that reflect who you want to become and/or mimic the level of success you want to achieve.

In this way, the individual is in a dissociated state and the unconscious mind can then distinguish what is real and what is not. The universe has a sense of humour. It will only open up and give you both what you have room for and more of what you already have. Begin to pay more attention to what you are putting out there, (consciously or unconsciously). Your thoughts, words and actions are powerful.

In this new year (2014), you are enjoined to embrace the sacred gift of authenticity. Embrace, communicate and share what is true, real and accurately reflects your core.

“Until you FINALLY begin to See, Hear, Feel, Speak and Live your truth, you’ll be trapped in the painful bondage of merely manifesting lies and existing blindly. Your TRUTH is the primary reason why you exist! Find it and embrace it. It is already in you. All fear, anger, hatred, tiredness, shame, guilt…fade and melt away in the face of your truth. It fires you up. It gives you the strength to stand, the courage to act and boldness to speak. May 2014 be a year of uncommon boldness and courage as you finally BE who you’ve always wanted to become. Each day, do that one thing you most NEED to do and yet are most inclined to least WANT to do. And soon what you need and want will integrate into the same. Seamless success happens when you are fully congruent and exchange the inherent value of who you are into what you do!” #UNLockingYourHeArtofLeadership

Take the next steps. Interested in booking a 30-minutes complimentary Strategy Session for your life or business? Need more information on WWN’s individual/group/organizational training, coaching, speaking engagements, or leadership certification programs, contact us via email: info@wholewomannetwork.com or call +1.905.709.5866

Note: For Strategy Sessions, we’re now fully booked for the Months of January and February, the next available date for appointments is from March 10th, 2014.

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women (and men), regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! She shares her daily reflective posts on: www.facebook.com/wholewomannetwork. Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc