Archive | August 2013

WWN Poetry#Change: If you see her…(A Song For My Motherland).

“Educating our young girls is the foundation for Nigeria’s growth and development.” ~ Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala

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#Poetry4Change: The Magic of ‘Sister-Friends’

“I didn’t want to see her because it would make me feel better. I came because without her, it’s hard to remember who I am…” ~ Jodi PicoultMy Sister’s Keeper

Sister Friends


Floetry by JulietKego: The magic of ‘Sister-Friends’

We almost believed the myth of our alone-ness 

We almost fell for the fallacies and lies

of our sad separate-ness

Not just a part, that merely lives and dies

We are also part of a larger whole

Connected in heart, spirit and soul

This is the magic of having a sister-friend

One who stays loyal and true to the very end


One who willingly lets their own inner-light

Guide us in the lonely darkness of our night

They see us without the mirror’s lies

And understand our unwept, silent cries

Sharing our pains and rejoicing in our gains

Our flaws and nakedness they clearly see

Yet, with love in their hearts, they simply let us be!


Oh but the magic of friends, who celebrate our glory

And accept us even when we’re ‘bad’ and ‘unholy’

Embracing us in our private hell and shame

Steadfast and solid, they choose to stay the same

They are there when hopeful hearts get broken,

And spirits become far from merry

As we reminisce on girlish dreams long-buried


They are there when difficult relationships go and come

When young brides, weeping widows or single women become;

New lives rebuilt and new relationships reborn

There to tell us seemingly painful truths and harsh words

Holding us back when we choose to self-destruct on our own swords


Sister-Friends who rally round and crush the tiger’s tail

They save us from that path, and pray that we not derail

There are few things in life that are as sacred and sweet

As the magic of these true sister-friends

We’ve been gifted to meet.


© Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido

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30 minutes a day, reflect, meditate and pray!

Dear, dear friends When Life knocks you down Whole Woman Network

As the day begins and as it ends

For only 30 minutes each day

Imagine if you may

That you were one with the light within

And you stopped doing and started being

In being, imagine that you were all-knowing and all-seeing

That you could create everything out of nothing

And indeed the universe was yours in that sacred moment

Take this time for yourself and re-connect with you for a while

And see the landscapes of life suddenly look different by a long mile

Would you step out in courage and sing the songs in your heart or be silent?

Would you create empowering thoughts in your mind or snuff them of life?

Would you continue your patterns of pain, anger, fear and strife?

As you continue to doubt your power and think up excuses and reasons

Excuses of why you are not good enough and these are the wrong seasons

Today, take thirty minutes to reflect, meditate, pray and let your spirit soar and fly

And with an eagle’s wisdom begin to discern the truth from the lie

As you discard the fallacy of your unworthiness, and embrace your magnificence

Begin to bask in your light and beam out your true essence

Will you let the gift of time simply, slowly, sadly, pass you by

As you selfishly and fearfully hold on to your talents and big ‘WHY?’

Will you choose to take action in the midst of your fears and stand tall?

On the grave of those buried, limiting beliefs that crippled you to fall?

Dear, dear friends Faith

As the day begins and as it ends

For only 30 minutes each day

Imagine if you may

That you are co-heirs and co-creators

Of a kingdom built upon unconditional love

Imagine you had the wisdom of an eagle and the peace of a dove

And as you imagine you must know now

That the thought ‘impossible’ is a lie, and leads to endless cycles of ‘Fight-Flight’

Be certain now that for every dream you dream, be it in the day or at night

The question you must always ask is ‘How?’

How can it be done? How can you excel and pull through?

You must get off the fence and always take action, empowered action!

As you fulfil and honour your inner calling and passion

So dear, dear friends, for only 30 minutes a day,

Reflect, meditate and PRAY sitting, standing or on your knee

Magic and miracles happen if you let them be

So pray, work hard and simply flow with it, if you may,

This eternal spring of love and light within you

For the world awaits, as you manifest your light for all to see!


© ‘Kego Onyido 

LIFE! A series of moments.

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” ~Albert Einstein~ Eleanor

LIFE! A series of moments.

-An Original Poem

Until you know, you do not know

You can only do that which you do know

So open up to the world all around you

And keep looking until you find the answers

The answers are buried within you

If you dare to look past the walls and tear yourself

Away from the self-imposed prison around your soul

Clear the cobwebs and the fog of fear, arise from the pitiless hole

The hell of today becomes paradise with a single step

So take action, just a single step forward into this vision

Drink this moment in. For all of life is a series of magical moments.


It is not the events themselves that matter, you see

It is your attitude more than anything that’s key.

So act on what you know now, and give it everything you’ve got

There’s power in focus, action and positive thought

Your transformation is not a sudden big bang,

And it is not an instant genius stroke from a magic wand,

Rather, it is simply a journey each day re-started

A gradual, sometimes painful, not-so-graceful, long walk on a path uncharted.

And above it all, I must confess, it is the most beautiful process

With each step you behold the light within as it beams

And become more of the being you were created to be.

You are an original with different gifts that you must plant as seeds

For there’s something unique inside you that the world needs.

In this moment, pause, take a life-breath and embrace your purpose

Yes, indeed, life is merely a series of NOWs.

All of life is indeed a series of moments.

Your purpose is to make sure that each moment counts!

© ‘Kego Onyido 

Selected Writers for 2013 Farafina Trust Creative Writing Workshop

Congratulations to the 25 writers selected to participate in 2013 Farafina Trust Creative Writing Workshop hosted by the talented Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie!

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In April, Farafina Trust called for entries for the 2013 Farafina Trust creative writing workshop, inviting writers from all over the world to submit their short pieces. From the numerous applicants, twenty-five outstanding writers have been selected to participate in the workshop this year, which will be taught by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Eghosa Imasuen, Binyavanga Wainaina and other writers of note.

The selected writers this year are:

1. Zenique Gardner (USA)
2. Maryam  Shuaib (Minna)
3. Tolu Agunbiade (Ketu)
4. Timendu Aghahowa (Ikeja)
5. Abdulrashid Muhammad (Abuja)
6. Uchenna Ude (Lagos)
7. Udoh Charles Rapulu (Onitsha)
8. Gbolahan Adeola (USA)
9. Lilian Izuorah (Minna)
10. Suleiman Agbonkhianmen ( Lagos)
11. Nicholas Ochiel (Kenya)
12. Yakubu Damilola Daniel (Kwara)
13. Kelechi Njoku (Abuja)
14. Lesley Nneka Arimah (USA)
15. Tajudeen Sagaya (Lagos)
16. Adaora Nwankwo (Onitsha)
17. Chidinma Nnamani (Enugu)
18. Arinze Daniel Ifeakandu (Kano)
19. Okpanachi Eyo Michael (Zaria)
20. Okechukwu Otukwu…

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#7 Principles for a Wealthy and Abundant Life

“Wealth is not merely material gain but a state of mind.”

~Jerry Gillies~  


Wealth is first and foremost a mindset! Do not just think outside the box, think as if there was no box. Everything is possible, the universe is limitless. Make your life as simple as possible so you may make room for the creative plane. Wealth is an exchange of value. People will pay for anything that adds value to their lives.

Figure out a way to articulate other people’s pain with better clarity than they would on their own, and provide solutions that address their pain. The customer defines what is valuable for him, your role is not to question it but to anticipate and solve it! Learn to live within your means and invest the difference. Then re-invest the proceeds of your initial investments until you hit critical mass!

Leverage both your resources and other people’s resources (Time, Money, Energy, Networks). This is the era of collaboration. You cannot do it alone, reach out to people in your network and join forces together to bring your ideas to life! Know the phase you’re in, channel your resources into one idea at a time,  you CANNOT afford to be all over the place, you have to FOCUS and take ACTION.

The universe rewards those who take action, and in particular, those who do it really, really fast! Ideas are a dime a dozen, dreams are easy to conceive. The difference between the wealthy and those who are not, is that the wealthy wake up from their dreams and actually pursue their dreams with everything they’ve got. Are you committed to your ideas and dreams? Are you willing to spend your Time, Talents, Treasures, Money, Energy and even Reputation? How many NO’s will make you quit? Or will you keep going until your dreams are manifest into reality?

Living a life of Wealth or Abundance means living in a zone where you see opportunity and learning in ALL situations and/or encounters. You are able to separate people from their behaviours and rather focus on providing solutions and adding value. Are you willing to change your self-talk and create new movies in your head? Are you ready to make the necessary sacrifices today, to create the tomorrow of your dreams? As you read this piece, ponder on the following: Time is a precious commodity. You cannot save or invest it, you can only SPEND it. Are you ready to start using your time wisely? See below for some principles that lead to creating and sustaining wealth.

7 Habits/Principles for a Wealthy and Abundant life:

1.  Response-Ability: Begin to develop a sense of responsibility and integrity in all your actions. Be honest to all and most of all to yourself. Take a look at your present situation and reflect on the choices and decisions that have led you here. Do a sincere and thorough financial audit on yourself. Are you responsible with respect to paying your bills? Do you constantly spend over and beyond what you earn? Are you living a congruent life or are you living a lie? Are you living within your means and needs? Are you in balance or out of balance? What is your ability to respond to challenges? Be accountable for your actions and DECIDE to take control today!

2. Perception is Projection: You cannot become that which you despise. Examine your attitude towards successful/wealthy people around you. Are you open and humble enough to learn from them or do you resent them for their success? Every encounter we experience happens to teach us something valuable. Are you paying attention to the lessons life is constantly teaching you? It is not what you’re looking at that counts, rather, it is what you are CHOOSING to see. We see the world as a reflection of ourselves. Pay attention to that which irritates or excites you about others, perhaps they are there to draw your attention to what you need to improve upon, areas of your life you should pay attention to or even positive traits you already have and not yet manifesting. Everything is energy and all our emotions vibrate at particular frequencies. If it is NOT already in you, it will not resonate with you. Life is basically NEUTRAL, we create the positive or negative experiences, sometimes out of our own awareness. We have the power to respond. We choose the energy we give to things and people!

3. Cause vs Effect: Are you in a co-creative mind space where you take ownership for your life or are you still playing the victim card, blaming everyone else and everything outside of you as the reason for your situation. Do you look at life through ‘WOW ME’ lens or are you always looking through a perennial ‘WOE ME’ lens? Are you at cause for the results in your physical universe or stuck in vicious blame-shame-pain cycle? Become a self-leader and take control of your life. You cannot lead others or attract wealth if you fail to lead yourself! Own both your awesomeness and own your crap! Learn to do the difficult things that everyone else is not doing. To be at cause means you are not caught up in arguing for your excuses and limitations, rather you are committed and disciplined enough to focus on only solutions and results!

4. Respect: (Definition-A feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities or achievements). Do you respect yourself and others? Do you respect your time, talents, skills, networks, energy? Do you treat things or people with the value they deserve? Respect is one of those rare values that is reciprocal. The attitude with which you relate to people and things (including money) will be reflected back at you! Money is an energy, it flows and grows where its seeds are sowed and nurtured. It does not respect pedigree, titles, degrees, gender, marital status, intellect or smarts….anyone who simply follows the universal principles of wealth and roots their mindset and action in these principles, will be rewarded with its fruits.

5. Patterns: Wealth and Abundance manifests in a series of patterns and synchronizations. Money in itself is not merely a tangible entity, rather it is a tool, a concept, a symbol of exchange. Are you paying attention to your patterns of ‘thoughts-words-action’ with respect to money, abundance and wealth? Begin to reflect on and study your money beliefs, habits, and manifestation patterns, until you pattern-interrupt what you are currently doing now, you will be stuck with the same results! Hire a professional money coach if you have to and install new strategies or values to achieve your dreams.

6. Change: Consider what your life would be like if you simply continued doing what you are doing now. Will this path lead you to a life of Abundance or of Poverty? Will you thrive or merely survive? Change of mindset is necessary in order to chart a new life of prosperity, wealth and abundance. There are many professionals and business owners who earn a decent income and yet are plagued by a ‘poverty mindset’  and so never attain true wealth. How willing are you to embrace change and do things differently so that you can progress through the silos of Wealth (Financial Stability to Financial Independence, and then to Financial Freedom?)  Are you ready and disciplined enough to take the simple, not so easy, yet necessary steps that will enrich your life? A wealth mindset is hardwired for change. Your success is directly tied to your ability to anticipate, embrace and adapt to change.

7. Who’s in your crowd? There’s an old African proverb which states: ‘That which you stare at long enough, you begin to resemble.’ Who are you following and hanging out with? What are you talking about? What are you doing? To a very large extent, the people around you determine who and what you become. Are you surrounding yourself with those that reflect what you desire in life? Are you constantly in circles where you can learn and grow? The easiest way to grow is to be the least person in any Are you willing to go out of your comfort zone and model people who personify excellence? Are you ready to take ACTION? In the words of Tony Robbins, “The path to success is to take massive, determined action.”

“Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.” ~Henry David Thoreau~

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-Based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc