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My Prayers For You in the New Year!

today“Begin today to BE who you’ve always wanted to BECOME, for tomorrow, you would wish you had started yesterday and then again, tomorrow may well be too late.” ~Anonymous~

My prayers for you this year: Make this be the year you take personal RESPONSIBILITY for BOTH your awesomeness and your crap! (What is your ability to RESPOND to whatever life throws at you?) If it’s showing up in your physical universe, you created it, (consciously or Unconsciously). You are a CO-CREATOR with God, OWN it! Make 2014 your year of boldness and courage.

Become more RESILIENT, you’re made of stronger and sterner stuff! Stop blaming, justifying, excusing the sh*t in your life by pointing fingers outwards. Everything is possible, period! Enter the co-creative zone and ask yourself: How can it be done? Who and what are the resources I have? Reach out and form synergies with others. Stop judging, and start accepting and empathizing. It’s life, we’re all basically going through the same challenges, they just show up in different colours.

You are a reflection of everyone around you, learn from others. Embrace your humanity and celebrate your divinity. It’s all YOU! Look inwards, you have the power to reset your internal thermostat in all areas of your life: energetic, social, physical, spiritual, mental, emotional, financial…

Stop playing the compare and contrast game. That is the basis of ALL unhappiness. Your name is not ‘EVERYBODY’. You are a unique BEING, with unique values and beliefs. You are a beloved child of a loving God, live it! You have the power of choice, exercise it and be accountable for your actions and (in)actions!

Nobody’s doing anything to you that you did not first do to yourself. Build a bullet-proof, rock solid relationship with your CREATOR. Get out of the prison of the generation that accepts: “My PASTOR SAID”, “MY ENEMIES ARE AFTER ME”, “I HAVE SUFFERED”, “THE LEADERS ARE TO BLAME”,…Become more involved in your own life.
Pleeease, a KING died for YOU! Not a hair on your head can be touched without his express permission. Why choose to be part of a generation that craves entitlement without responsibility? Take ownership of your life, it’s yours after all!

Stop perpetuating the myth of old, healed pains of the past as if they were still real. Tell yourself EMPOWERING stories and move on. Yes, decide to move on. Let TIME do what it does best: heal. Ask yourself who benefits when you refuse to own your magnificence? Who does it serve when you choose to stay stuck and refuse to be yourself? What are you permitting and settling for as ‘truth’ in your life? What are you accepting into your life? You get to DECIDE! Be kind and gentle, yet have healthy boundaries. Claim Wisdom as a best friend. Surrender to her, she’ll guide you well. Embrace the gift of eloquent SILENCE. It is the zone of beautiful creativity and growth!

Know yourself! You are always changing and growing and evolving. Re-introduce your new self to you and others around. Fall deeply, passionately, totally in love with you! Until you really know, accept, forgive and love yourself, no one else can! Understand and embrace your passions, pains, weaknesses and strength. The mystery to love is that it is complete in itself. It exists, even without an object of affection. Know this kind of love in your lifetime, it’s already yours.

We are drawn to others not only because of shared passions but also because of our unhealed pains. If you are in someone’s life or vice versa, then there’s a unique purpose and reason why. No one’s role is to complete you, stop setting people up for a fall! We are all here to heal, create, share, love and bear witness to one another, of HIS amazing grace. Know when to hold on and fight for love, also know when to let go and set love free. Celebrate finding love and celebrate also getting your heart-broken. For a heart that loves is a heart that is full and a heart that is broken, is a heart that is open, ready, willing and strong enough to love fully and completely.

Move over from the ‘woe me’ quadrant, into the ‘WOW ME’ zone. Fill your cup so that you can better serve others around you. It is SELFISH to keep playing the role of ‘VICTIM’ when you know deep down that you’ve been made VICTORIOUS by God’s abiding grace. And make every moment of your time in life, (even on social media), well worth it. If you’re not growing, you’re dying. Choose LIFE, and live passionately, purposefully and powerfully. DECIDE and Choose to have a wonderful New Year!

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Note: For Strategy Sessions, we’re now fully booked for the Months of January and February, the next available date for appointments is from March 10th, 2014.

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women (and men), regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc

 

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10 Little Things that can make a Big Difference in your life in 2014!

Ghandi“Personal transformation can and does have global effects. As we grow, so does the world, for the world is us. The revolution that will save the world is ultimately a personal one.” ~Marianne Williamson~

“As we prepare for a new year, take the time to fall madly, deeply and passionately in love, with yourself! Re-discover yourself as you truly are: a beloved child of a loving God.

This is the season of Re-Birth and New Beginnings. A KING was born to and for you! You are that special and wonderful! OWN your magnificence. NEVER let the outside world strip you of your essence and dignity.

YOU are a precious gift to the world. Live passionately, purposefully and powerfully. Dream wonderful dreams and create beautiful memories…” ~#UNLockingYourHeArtofLeadership~

Just a few more days to go and the New Year will unveil itself! What are your goals, dreams and aspirations for 2014? Forget about mere ‘resolutions’, begin to make ‘Sacred Contracts’ with yourself. What do you desire to achieve by December 31st, 2014? WHO do you want to be by the end of next year? Begin to BE that person from this moment.

Napoleon HillStarting NOW, speak it as if it were already done. Step out in FAITH and walk your talk. God opens up the universe with the right people and opportunities once we KNOCK and ASK, and actually stand in the firm expectation that the door will be OPENED and you will RECEIVE. Surrender and Allow yourself to soar!

Here are some ‘little’ things that if you imbibe and practice, will transform your life in 2014:

1. Accept that you can never please everyone, stop trying to, period! Practice the habit of saying an empowered ‘YES’ or ‘NO’ when appropriate (rather than acquiescing to everything from everyone based on your own fears of insecurity, judgement, unworthiness or societal pressure). Build up healthy boundaries, you will enjoy your life better that way.

2. Stop comparing yourself to others because all you can ever be is you, duh? The compare and contrast game  drains you and leaves you bereft of the creative energy to be the best you possible!

3. Let go of the past, stop worrying about the future and live the heck out of the present moment! You can only do so much, choose the path you have the most control over. Choose to live in the NOW!

4. Become more empathetic. Stop judging people and start focusing more on being the best you, every.single.day! Decide to love more. Pay more attention to the people already in your life. Sometimes, we seek more people and opportunities outside our existing circles. However, we may get more value by looking inwards and consolidating the existing relationships we already have.

5. Learn to live within your means. Anything else, is a recipe for disaster.

6. Have a clear vision for your year, break down your plans into quarterly, monthly and weekly goals. A day before, set your intentions for the next day and pay attention to your intentions. Become more congruent. Let your actions align with who and what you want for yourself.

7. Quit lying to yourself. There are no excuses or reason for your failure(s). YOU are the only person standing between your purpose and destiny. In 2014, tell yourself only empowering stories. Begin to see your ‘failures’ as feedback for how and where to course-correct in your life’s journey. Be gentle and forgiving of yourself and your so-called ‘mistakes’. Surrender and accept your humanity. And also arise and embrace your divinity. You are a sacred mystery, your life may not always make sense, stop trying to figure it all out, and just focus on living it well.

8. Join a group of like-minded people and volunteer your time, expertise, money, energy, towards a worthwhile cause. Make a difference, no matter how small. Surround yourself with people who see and bring out the light in you. You are a being of light and love, decide to plant yourself in garden(s) that will nurture your growth. Do more of what you love and obliterate the negativity in your life.

9. Take better care of your body, it is your sacred vessel for being. Have a fun activity or sport(s) you engage in regularly. Practice the 80-20 rule of good nutrition; eat a minimum of 80% healthy foods and indulge in a maximum of 20% of …(fill in the blanks) 🙂

10. Carve out resources and dedicate them to your personal development, in all areas of your life (Health, Finances, Community, Leisure, Spirituality, Your Purpose/Passions, Mental/Emotional growth etc). If you’re not growing, you’re dying. You cannot do both simultaneously. Choose to grow, evolve and transform your life.

Whatever you do, do NOT sit on the sidelines. Get off the toxic fence and LIVE! Life is waiting for you, take that next step, and amaze even yourself!

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Impossible journeyTake the next steps. Interested in booking a 30-minutes complimentary Strategy Session? Need more information on WWN’s individual/group/organizational training, coaching and speaking engagements, or our leadership certification programs, contact us via email: info@wholewomannetwork.com or call +1.905.709.5866

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women (and men), regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Read her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

A Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays from all of us at Whole Woman Network

What an amazing, eventful and exciting year it’s been! From all of us at Whole Woman Network, we wish you and your families a very MERRY & BLESSED CHRISTMAS. Thank you for making this year a truly blessed and beautiful experience.Blessed Christmas

This Christmas season, we urge you to celebrate, rejoice and reflect on the saviour’s coming. He came for this purpose: to create a new world based on unconditional love and to bring love, healing and redemption to each and every one of us. In essence, to remind us that we are WORTHY!

Think about it! Who are you in Christ? What is your purpose on this earth? Why are you really here? How can you begin to fulfil your destiny?

We all pray for long and healthy life, however, some people alive in the world today may not see another Christmas. These are sobering thoughts but they are also the truth.

I heard of the shocking death of a loved one yesterday (Christmas eve), and it gave me reason to pause and seriously reflect about my life, my purpose and personal goals, going forward. So for close to four hours, I wrote down key highlights of my life thus far and significant emotional events that align with the core of who I perceive myself and my purpose to be. Hmmmnn, all I can say is, it was a phenomenally cathartic experience, that led me through a gamut of emotions; angry, sad, hurt, guilt, shame, fear, drain, and then, excited, hopeful, joyous, loved, empowered and free!

GloryIn this moment, write down what you think your purpose is. It will guide and channel your thoughts, words, actions in all your interactions going forward.

It can be simply to love your family, to be the best father, mother, daughter, sister, friend, cousin, niece, nephew, god-parent, colleague, community member, citizen etc.

Then, simply write down what type of person you want to be as you fulfill your different roles in life. Ask yourself what your core values are and what principles you hold sacrosanct and sacred. What are your responsibilities and what gives you the most joy and peace? How congruent are you with your values? Are your actions aligned with who you wish to be?

The purpose of this exercise is not for self-flagellation or to beat yourself up, rather it is to celebrate your awareness of who you think you are verses who you are being, now, in this moment. It is to bring your attention to important things about yourself that you should be focusing on. We often get caught up in the ‘busy-ness’ of life that we forget to actually LIVE.

This reflection is simply to get you to re-connect with who you desire to be and to  re-introduce you back to yourself so that you can re-discover the unique, magnificent and whole being that you are. You are a beloved child of God, created in love, moulded with love and redeemed through love. You are a being of love and light. Your purpose is to share this with the world in everything you do.

I asked myself the same questions and this is a very short summary of what I came up with: I am passionate about Engaging, Educating and Empowering people to connect with their purpose, step into their personal power and take ACTION by living passionately in their lives, work, business and community.

I love connecting with people, meaningfully and deeply and coaching myself and others to OWN both our awesomeness and our crap, because it all makes us unique.

I am passionate not just merely about change, but really about TRANSFORMATION. I love coaching, training and empowering people on transformational self-leadership, so that they are living every single day with purpose, on purpose.

I am also passionate about asking questions that lead people to uncover the magnificence buried deep within themselves. I love being a tour guide & bridge for others, on their journey to wholeness and completeness. I am passionate about collaborating, with synergy, so that we can all create, heal, transform, serve, love, inspire, celebrate & live the best versions of our lives each day e are blessed to be on earth.

I believe that empowered people create empowered families and societies. I believe that we are each powerful beyond belief and once we decide to take action in alignment with our core, we shall be unstoppable agents of transformation.

My purpose is to create advanced awareness and empower myself and others to transform and live with authenticity, purpose, passion & power, in work and life. I train, coach, speak on how people can make empowered and informed choices in different areas of their lives.

My focus is to create congruence and authenticity in how people live their lives. I draw upon my over 18 years experience across multi-disciplinary fields; Engineering, Investment & Finance, International Business, Coaching & Training. I train and speak on such topics such as Work-Life choices, Financial Literacy, Creating empowered Relationships, How to have success in a Value-Based, Empathy-Driven Economy, Sustainability in work and life, Entrepreneurship with Heart, Fusing Passion and Profit, Finding your Purpose by embracing your passions and pains, etc.

My purpose is to create experiential platforms of learning by collaborating and connecting with different individuals and groups, with a common vision to transform ourselves and our society for the greater good.

This is My Philosophy: “It is a fallacy to believe that we are fractured or broken; the truth is that we are enough, indeed, we are whole and complete. Our life’s journey then becomes a return to WHOLENESS. We are here to heal, create, serve, celebrate, surrender, soar, love and simply BE and B.E.A.M: Be Everything And More! Embrace your passions and your pains. Own your awesomeness and magnificence. Also, own your vulnerability, imperfections and your crap! Each day, embrace experiential growth and a spiritual awakening. Own your divinity and your humanity! Lead yourself; dare to transform and see your life in a whole new light.” 

Again, from all of us at Whole Woman Network, we wish you a wonderful Christmas and may the grace and love of Jesus Christ abide with you and fill you with light, peace, excellent health, abundance and joy!

Join the conversation on WWN Facebook Pagewww.facebook.com/wholewomannetwork

For more information on our individual/group/organizational training, coaching and speaking engagements, or our leadership certification programs, contact us via email: info@wholewomannetwork.com or call +1.905.709.5866

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership.” She is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women (and men), regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Read her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

DAY 21: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

courage“The old way of thinking is as if you were the lowly servant of a king or the daughter of a slave. This old way is built on a fallacy and pre-supposes that you are broken and incomplete. It’s a new dawn. The new message is that you are and have always been the daughter of a KING.

You are whole and complete. It is based on an eternal TRUTH! This is the season to return to wholeness. Step into your magnificence. Greatness resides in YOU! The world is waiting for you.” ~Excerpt from the upcoming book: ‘UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership’~

WWN Reflection DAY 21: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

The focus today is on telling yourself EMPOWERING stories!
All change, all learning, all growth is mainly done on an unconscious level. Be mindful, therefore, of the stories you feed your unconscious mind and the movies you play in your head. Tell yourself wonderful stories. Tell stories with a sole purpose of getting something positive out of it. The stories start in your head. The most important conversations are the ones you have with yourself.

Explore the learning, growth and idea in each story and apply the principles to make your life better. Events are events, your interpretation of the event is your story. Tell stories that move you in the direction of your purpose. The story is merely a story, how you tell it is more important!

your storiesTell stories about yourself and others that empower and not dis-empower you! Get out of the victim mode! Your past is your past! Acknowledge the story, acknowledge the pain, re-frame it and simply DECIDE to let it go. Tell stories about yourself and others that have solutions. Tell stories that bring you to light. Come out of the darkness. We co-create our own hell or heaven. Everything depends on our perspective. It is always a choice.

You live out the stories in your head! Be gentle with yourself and others. We are all reflections of one another, we are here to learn from one another, period. Tell stories that will add to the process of your continuous growth. No one is better than the other.Worst enemy

Everyone is equal. Life is a game and we are all still figuring it out. No one has all the answers, the key is to keep asking questions and re-framing your stories. As long as you are alive, your stories are never done, they are constantly evolving. When we’re done, we’re basically dead!

Some people are here to  teach us  life lessons, so that we may also teach and pass it on to others. So every painful or difficult experience happens to make us grow and become a beacon of hope to others. Stop looking back, stop looking down, you are not going that way! Look up and look forward, the future awaits and you get to write the script and direct the movie of your life story!

FOCUS on what you want and say it exactly how you want it. For every single thing that has form was once formless, i.e. a mere thought. Guard your thoughts and your words, for soon they manifest into reality.

Negative thoughtsChannel ALL your energy to create the reality that you desire. Stop filling up your minds with thoughts that are at cross-purpose with your destiny! You are a co-creator with God, you are living out a script written by your own hands. Yes, HE has given you that much power! God’s made you co-heirs and co-creators of his kingdom.

So step out in courage and follow your heart, intuition, unconscious mind and that still, quiet whisper within. Take ACTION towards a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU! To do otherwise is to selfishly rob the world of a precious gift. Play at 100%, and give life your all or don’t play at all. The world will all be better for having, knowing and experiencing ALL of you. Yes, you are that awesome!

You already have enough, be content and be grateful. Create the paradise that you desire NOW. And it is important to understand that you possess the innate, divine ability to create more, should you need more in life. There are unique gifts, talents and skills you possess that the world is waiting to pay for! It is simply an exchange of values from you and the universe and it is ALWAYS in synchronistic balance.

The caveat is that everything must be to God’s glory and to serve/love your neighbours. It must be ecological, a WIN-WIN-WIN balance; for self, for others and for the planet as a whole. WE are all connected! We are all ONE! So direct your thoughts to align with your vision and dreams. Dream BIG, it doesn’t cost you a single cent or kobo! 🙂

ThoughtsRemember, whatever you have in your physical universe is a reflection of the thoughts and (in)actions that you have taken in the past. It is your evidence procedure. It does not lie! So you get to choose and co-create your reality every single moment. You get to be ‘right’ whichever path you take. Life is truly a self-fulfilling prophesy! So ask yourself: ‘Am I congruent in my patterns of words-thoughts-actions?’

Have a thoughtful, reflective day!

Is Whole Woman Network’s Total Transformation and Leadership-Coaching Program for you? 

At Whole Woman Network, our coaching/training approach is based on the premise of self-leadership, self-responsibility and self-accountability. Until we can lead ourselves, it is futile to attempt to lead or influence others. It is a faith-based, result-oriented, holistic, inside-out approach that delves into the root causes of problems. The focus is simply to get you to a ‘solutions zone’. It is based on the premise that YOU are already whole and complete and simply need to be reminded. You have the answers within you and all we do is ask the right questions to trigger that which is inherent in you. Are you ready to un-lock your heArt of leadership?

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-Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido, MBA

Poet | Master-Certified Leadership Coach-Trainer -Consultant|

~Take empowered ACTION towards a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU!~

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FB PIC High RezThe preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, empowered, complete, whole creatures and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

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Day 20: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

winnersQuestions of the day: Are you pursuing a life of excellence or settling for a life of mediocrity? Do you want kick ass results in your life? Are you ready to take quantum leaps to get to your goals? Are you willing and committed to deploy your resources in pursuit of your purpose? Are you surrounding yourself with the right role models, mentors and coaches in your bid to soar and be the best version of you possible?

WWN Reflection DAY 20: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Sometimes we forget that we are never alone and we do not have to go the distance all by ourselves. We are blessed with the unique ability of ASKING and also RECEIVING. There are always resources around us that we can tap into. The universe is always in flow, and if we surrender and flow with it, we would be amazed at the synchronicity and abundance it offers. Great leaders know how and when to resource for the ‘fuel’ they need.

In the world of sports, is acknowledged that hardly anyone ever made it to the play-offs or olympics alone, without a support system made of family, friends, mentors, role models and coaches. Our dreams and goals have ripple effect on those around us. As we live our purpose, we inspire and empower others to do the same. It is our responsibility to reach out and ask for help in order to harness our skills, develop our abilities and polish our unique talents. Do you have positive and empowering role models/mentors/coaches in all areas of your life?

Ask for help Imagine for a moment, that your life journey is the major olympics and you only have just one shot at it. Do you have a solid team behind you? Is your supper system firmly in place or are you carrying around the baggage of naysayers, who pull you down and kill your dreams with their thoughts, words, attitude, actions, inactions? Remember, anyone who does not add value or move you in the direction of your purpose serves no purpose in your life.

The paradox is that we are all intrinsicly connected and so, everyone you encounter has a purpose in your life. The key to unlocking their role lies in your hands. The more you become aware of who you are and what your purpose is, the more you become empowered in how you exchange energy and value with everyone around you.

You have the power to co-create what you need/want, the mystery is in surrendering and allowing life to happen, opening up your hearts and minds to your creators design for you, asking the right questions, courageously taking consistent action inspire of your fears, aligning what you are doing with who you are being and asking for help, inspiration and guidance from God and seeing his glory in everything and everyone around you!

Here are 7 reasons why you may consider getting role models/mentors/coaches:

1. Monkey see, monkey do! The more you model excellent behaviour, the more you begin to live a life of excellence! We are innately programmed to model and co-habit with others, the choice then becomes simply modelling the right behaviour, traits and values that you aspire towards.

learn and teach2. All learning, change and behaviour occurs at an unconscious level. There may be a myriad of things holding us from reaching our full potentials; limiting beliefs, glass ceilings/floors, Pandora box of negative emotions, culture, education, environment etc. Most often, they are outside of our conscious awareness and we need someone who really sees and believes our inner magnificence, is professional trained on the right modalities and strategies, and who can commit to our transformation, even when we are yet to commit and believe in ourselves.

3. Most human goals are achievable simply by following certain simple principles. For example, to lose weight and be healthy, all you really need to do are 3 major things: Eat healthy, Exercise regularly and Rest properly.  Another example, to have financial well-ness, you basically need to leave within your means, save and invest well.

Nearly everything else is a variation of these basic tripods. Yet, the irony is that what is simple is never quite easy. Hence the alarming rate of obesity and debt levels worldwide! The obvious common-sense principles are never quite common-sense practice because of the human factor a.k.a ‘Disciplined Habits’. We often need coaches to get us and keep us on track with our goals. They create an accountability system and enable us take action towards our results.

mentoring4. Role models show us that it is possible and they lead by example. They are not perfect, they simply choose to triumph by accepting their imperfections, they share their truth and show us how to live with authenticity and integrity.

Mentors share their years of experience, including their successes and failures. They share principles that we may adopt and adapt. Of what use is re-inventing the wheel, when we can build upon what has been established? Why suffer to build new tracks, when existing pathways are already laid out for us?

Coaches act as tour guides in our journey of life. They ask the questions that hopefully lead you to your answers in finding your unique truth. They enable us explore and expand our model of the world and to communicate and live our truth. They open up our senses and create a sense of awareness in us about the different parts that are in conflict within us, that is, parts that are not congruent. They introduce us to and equip us with the necessary tools in order to align our most unconscious programs and values with who we really are.

confidence5. Sometimes, different events in our life phases can lead to a feeling of being stuck, burnt out, stressed out and/or depressed. Human beings often resist change and fall into the trap of the imaginary ‘comfort zone’. This can be likened to sitting on the fence, going neither here nor there. It is living life in the grey zone, seeming taking action but getting to no-where land!

Events such as child-birth, change of job, location change (immigration), severe financial stress, death, marriage, divorce, job loss, rape, assault, or illness are examples of changes that may disrupt our sense of direction or purpose. Notice that even though some of these changes may be happy events, if the changes that follow are not properly handled or adapted to, they may lead to minor or major negative states or conditions. At these critical periods, the value of a great coach is often priceless.

control6. Every human being is unique, with special strengths, abilities, talents, skills and approach to life. The whole point is not to play the compare and contrast game with others. Coaches are able to elicit what is fundamentally original about you. They help you discover hidden/forgotten strengths. It is a dynamic process and not a prescriptive one based on recommendations. The journey is different for everyone. The answers are already within you.

In essence, coaches shift your focus from a defeatist attitude of looking at the grass over the fence and thinking it greener to looking inwards to your own garden and spending all your resources sowing, weeding, nurturing and harvesting your own fruits. It is the whole journey and not simply the harvesting that creates the transformation.

7. Change is permanent. We are always in flux. We live in a world that is constantly evolving. New technologies, regulations, opportunities are always emerging. The world is now a marketplace filled with information overload. Everything is almost a ‘google-click-away!’ We are always changing, growing and transforming. Like layers of an onion, each day we acquire new knowledge, awareness and insights. As we adapt to the changes within and outside of us, sometimes, things may become overwhelming and processing the conflicting information directed at our senses may lead to feelings of being trapped and stripped of choices.

Great coaches look way beyond the surface structure of your words and behaviours. They are able to draw a distinction between who you are and your behaviour. A coach’s role is to elicit deeper questions to uncover multiple options and choices available to us. They also install new strategies to drive the new behaviours that will lead to better habits in our pursuit for excellence.

FutureThey engage, educate and empower us to achieve the results we seek. Coaches are caring of our dreams and totally uncaring of our excuses! They see our magnificence and have no interest in our game of pretence! So are you willing and ready to transform your life OR are you pretending to want to transform your life? Coaches calibrate on your behaviour. Talk is cheap, ACTION speaks, and eloquently too!

Great coaches re-focus us to be at cause and take ownership of our responses and outcomes, rather than being at effect and stuck in the vicious patterns of excuses, blaming and complaining! A coach opens us up to the inherent creative source within us. Do you want to take a shot at the great olympics called life? Do you want results and not reasons? Are you tired of getting by and you wish to soar? Then, take a chance and bet on your dreams, hire a great coach today and lead yourself to a life of excellence! Once you’ve been gifted with the blessings of having great role models, mentors and coaches, remember the laws of gratitude and reciprocity, pay it forward and shine/share your light and learnings with someone else.

Note: WWN offers 1-hour complimentary coaching sessions to 3 lucky individuals every Monday, between 11.30 am to 2.30 pm EST. Simply send an email with your name, location and telephone number to info@wholewomannetwork.com. Requests are on a first come basis.

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FB PIC High RezThe preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Co-Founder and Executive Director at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is the author of the upcoming books: “UN-Locking Your HeArt of Leadership”  and “Today, I Will Not Bow”.  A self-described Life-Connoisseur, who loves life and the whole human experience, Juliet was nicknamed a ‘reminderist’,  [one who reminds us of that which we already know; that we are not fractured or broken and NOW is the perfect time to replace that fallacy with a new, beautiful truth: we are worthy, empowered, complete, whole creatures and our life journey is to return to wholeness]!

Her message is simply: “To use the power of written-spoken-sung WORDS to connect, heal, empower, change and transform our inner and outer worlds. Words have power in the meaning and interpretation we choose to give them and all of life is synchronistic poetry in motion! Are you telling empowering stories about yourself and others?” 

She is a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership, Investment & Financial Literacy for women and youth (especially girls). Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc. Enjoy some of her portfolio of poems on her Floetry Blog and follow her daily reflective posts on Facebook.

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DAY 15: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

SuccessQuestions of the day: Every single encounter is an exchange of energy and values. How are we choosing to exchange our essence with the people and world around us? Are we in the driver’s seat or are we letting life jerk us around? Are we choosing to take action and change the trajectory of our lives if we do not like we’re at or are we attached to being ‘right’ and miserably stuck in our ‘safe’ world. Are you ready to take a good risk and bet on yourself, on your dreams, on your passions and on your purpose? 

Are we taking back our power and acting in consonance with we say we are: co-heirs and beloved children of a loving God and creator or are we choosing to be dis-connected from our source and dis-empowered as we stumble through life?

FutureAre we owning who we are or are we exchanging our core and settling for the fallacy for who the world defines us to be?

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs at Whole Woman Network, are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the unique gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny. Own  and embrace it!

WWN Reflection DAY 15: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

We are now officially past the half-way mark on our 30-day challenge, hurrah! Take some time to celebrate YOU, the changes you’ve embraced, the action steps you’re taking and the new person you’re becoming.  14 days ago, we invited you to join us as we share simple reflections and hopefully engage, educate and empower you to take ACTION towards a Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier YOU! Again, we ask you that even if you’ve heard, seen, read or felt these words before, open up your hearts and minds and experience them all over again. Dare to see yourself in a brand new, beautiful light!”

HappinessLet’s revisit the questions we asked you on day 1 of the challenge: What 3 area(s) of your life do you wish to improve the most? What 3 area(s) would have the most impact on all other areas of your life?

  • Faith & Spirituality?
  • Health & Wellness?
  • Family & Relationship?
  • Career & Business?
  • Beauty & Self-Image
  • Fun & Leisure
  • Personal Development & Growth
  • Financial Well-being & Prosperity?
  • Community & Social Responsibility?
  • YOU! Your Dreams, Passions and Purpose?

DreamAs long as you are taking consistent action, you are making progress towards your goals. You may not see the results immediately, however, after a period of time, they will begin to manifest in your physical world.

At an unconscious level, as we change and build new habits and values for the better, our entire neurology also changes and most often we begin to see these results in our reality within a minimum of 90 days. Dream big and take bigger action steps. In the conjugation of life’s verbs, ‘TO DO’ is far more powerful than to say, to think, to dream, or to plan. Take ACTION today, period!

The choice to either change/grow or sit on the toxic fence of life is yours. That’s the beauty of life, the ability to exercise our power of choice. Use it well, do not waste this gift of starting afresh every day, with new awareness and insights. Having it all does not mean being perfect, rather, it about authenticity, it is about being real. It is about being the best you in this moment and trusting that as you grow and know differently, your choices will reflect your new values in life.

Tragedy and PurposeAs long as we are committed to sharing, healing, creating, learning, growth and fulfilling our purpose in life, our journey becomes an interesting experience and we begin to see life as a visual mosaic of vibrant colours. One of our greatest gifts becomes our ability to shift how we see, feel, taste and hear our inner music lost within the clutter of noise constantly bombarding from the outside world.

Suddenly the people/situations/things/words/events that seemed challenging to us or were triggers to our vicious patterns of pain, hurt, anger, guilt, despair, depression, shame etc. simply lose their power and we embrace life and its ups and downs for what it is: life simply happening. We cease to take things so personally as we see other people as reflections of us and embrace connectedness in our joys, triumphs, passions and even in our pains.

2 ThingsHow we choose to experience our time on earth becomes clearer the more we realize that indeed everything works for good. It is our duty to pay attention to the patterns and the cycles of our lives. The more we become present and pay attention to our patterns of words-thoughts-actions, who we surround ourselves with, what we read and listen to, the more we master ourselves and lead ourself to become the magnificent beings we are.

So reflect and take action on your learnings. Focus on each day and give it all you’ve got. Do everything with a little ‘extra’, you are blessed with a well of unconditional love. Tap into it! It is the little things that matter because those little habits of excellence when cultivated are the difference between and ordinary and EXTRA-ordinary life!

Create and live your best life NOW because life is simply a series of NOWs and all you’ll ever have at each moment of life is NOW! Have a fabulous and  awesome weekend and a blessed week ahead. Set your intentions and then take congruent ACTION to manifest them! Look good, do good and feel good!

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc.

 

DAY 13: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

At the core of our transformational Training, Leadership and Coaching programs at Whole Woman Network, are principles of Self-Love, Self-Accountability and Self-Leadership. You have the unique gift and ability to co-create your life and design your destiny. Own it! Be grateful

WWN Reflection DAY 13: Take ACTION and Transform Your Life!

Today, consciously reflect on what and who gives you the most joy and enables you grow the most. They may not necessarily be people you ‘like’, however, they are definitely people that ‘push your hot buttons!’

Life is neutral. Anything and anyone that charges up your energy is there for an important reason. There are no coincidences. Life is all about synchronism. They are in your life to force you to really pay attention, look inwards and grow. These are the people and activities you should focus ALL your energies on. Everything and everyone else may as well be a WASTE of your precious time!

Develop a deep awareness and gratitude for everyone and everything that’s been a source of joy and growth in your life. Take the time to call, visit and text these people and let them know how you love and appreciate them. You will be amazed at the results, both for you and for them.

LOVE and appreciation always heal! Even if the people live in the same household as you, speak with them, or even better still, send them a text or even write a letter to them appreciating them! Often it is easier to show love, appreciation and curtesy to strangers and not to our closest family and friends.

Positive words and thoughts are POWERFUL. They heal  and empower both the thinker and the receiver, the speaker and the listener, the writer and the reader! Write a ‘private’ letter to your loved ones and those who may have done you wrong (and also those whom you’ve wronged) and explicitly, express every single thing they did that hurt you and caused you pain. The more specific you are in your description of pain, the more it loses its power.Possibilities

Describe all the feelings you felt and still feel: betrayed, despair, anger, jealousy, envy, guilt, shame, unworthy, unlovable, stuck, sadness, fear, hurt…take the time to read this letter out loud in private, then BURN all the letters as you say a prayer of forgiveness for yourself and for others.

Forgiveness is a DECISION based on faith. Try to go back in time to those events and instead of focusing on the negative feelings, choose to focus on the learning. You will find that as soon as you decide to let go, everything crumbles and the ‘juice’ of the pain disappears.

We hold ourselves captive when we choose not to let go and forgive. Forgiveness creates a new future and re-frames the past with respect to the appropriate content and context.

Remember, external things may happen to you but only YOU control your response and interpretation of those things. You can choose to be reactive or proactive, the former dis-empowers and leaves you drained, while the latter empowers and energizes. Commit and continue with this exercise. You need at least 3 days to release and let go of your limiting beliefs, painful experiences and forgive those who did you wrong (and vice versa). Remember that it is easier to remember those that did us wrong but please reflect deeply and honestly on the role(s) you played.

ForgivenessThe ‘victim mentality’ is a selfish place to be. That is, when you sit passively and ALLOW people to do ‘bad’ things to you , treat you unfairly and/or disrespect you. Sometimes our fear of rejection, and of being perceived as ‘not being a nice person’, keep us in a quasi-state of bondage! The more we love, forgive and respect ourselves, people around us begin to mirror our behaviour. You teach people how to treat you, period!

You can be gentle, kind and yet firm in expressing what you do or do not want.
-Setting healthy boundaries will help us in our faith with God and in our relationships with others. Boundaries make life choices so much more easier because they act as fence protecting you from others and yourself. When you are clear on your principles and consistently walk your talk, life become more effortless and free of drama.

With each incident and person you choose to let go, I hope you begin to feel more joyous, peaceful, empathetic and also blessed with a wonderful sense of freedom to accomplish greater things. Often, only WE hold ourselves back from personal and professional success. Today is the day to DECIDE to break-through your self-imposed socio-emotional, financial, mental and spiritual glass ceilings. Fear less, hope more

-(NOTE: When done with integrity, this can be a very difficult, yet soul-searching exercise, and  at the end you WILL feel a deep sense of physical, spiritual and emotional release and peace!)

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The preceding is a guest post from Juliet Ume, MBA –Strategic Interventionist, Wealth Management Consultant & Leadership-Coach at Whole Woman Network. Juliet is an avid Life Connoisseur and a passionate advocate of WomEntrepreneurship, Leadership Training, Investment & Financial Literacy for women. Her mission is simply to engage, educate and empower women, regardless of their levels of income or background, to return to ‘wholeness’ and live Healthier, Sexier, Wealthier Lives using Faith-based, Scientific and Universal (Common-Sense) principles! Follow her on Twitter: @wholewomaninc, @julietumeinc.